Pezani wina yemwe sangamuchitire nsanje wina aliyense, mwina, kosatheka. Tili kudzuka m'mawa kwambiri, tikufuna kukhala m'malo mwa omwe sakufunika kupita kuntchito, ndipo atakakamizika "kuchoka" kuti akhale iwo omwe akhala muofesi kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku. Kupanga chilolezo, timakumbukira mnzanga yemwe ali ndi zojambula zochokera ku chilengedwe, ndipo ataphunzira mwakhama ku masewero olimbitsa thupi, timaganizira za wina, yemwe angakhale pabedi tsiku lonse, amadya maswiti ndi kukhalabe mafuta, ndi zina zotero.
Nsanje nthawi zambiri imatchedwa kutengeka mtima. Koma akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti izi ndi zoona pokhapokha ngati zikuwonekera kwenikweni kwa miniti, mwachitsanzo, pakuwona nsapato zokongola kwambiri pa bwenzi. Chinachake monga-"ndipo ine ndikanadzakhala monga choncho, koma palibe ndalama, chabwino, zabwino." Ndipo ngati nthawi zonse timaganizira za bwenzi lathu, nsapato zake, madiresi ndi okondedwa ake, kaduka kumakhala kukhala pamtima, ndiko kuti, kumverera. Ndipo, monga asayansi a ku Japan ochokera ku National Institute of Radiology anapeza, zikuwoneka ngati zopweteka. Zikuoneka kuti momwe ubongo umachitilira pazochitika zake zimapita kutsogolo kwa gyrus - chigawo chomwecho cha ubongo chimakhala ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri pa chithandizo cha ululu.
Zifukwa zenizeni zomwe timadalira nsanje sizowona koma udani wokha, mwinamwake milioni. Koma maziko a iwo ali ofanana - podziyerekeza nokha ndi ena, nkhani siimatuluka mwa ife. Komabe, kudzichepetsa sikunadzipangitse kukhala chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri maganizowa.
Black and White
Posachedwapa, Masha anachotsa abwenzi ku bwalo la ndege - adathawira ku India kwa milungu iwiri. Ndipo iye sanapite ku tchuthi kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi! Kwenikweni Masha anali okondwa nawo. Koma osati kokha. Chifukwa chake, ndinawauza moona mtima kuti ndimasirira nsanje yoyera. Ndipo bwenzi langa, atanyamula matikiti okondwa ku nyanja, adati: "Koma muli ndi galimoto yotereyi!" Koma Masha adadziwa motsimikiza kuti bwenzi lake adali okondwa kugula galimoto yake. M'mawu ena, adakwiya ndi kuthawa, kukhutitsidwa wina ndi mnzake. Chifukwa chaichi, mawu akuti "nsanje yoyera" amagwiritsidwa ntchito mofanana ndi mawu akuti "chimwemwe chenicheni kwa ena. Osati mawu ofanana kwambiri, koma mu Chirasha izo zimachitika. Koma akatswiri, pokamba za kugawidwa kwa malingaliro oterewa mu chilakolako choyera ndi chakuda, amatanthauza kupatukana kukhala kolimbikitsa komanso koononga. Yoyamba imakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zothandiza, yachiwiri - chidani ndi kusagwirizana.
Nsanje yoyera ndi nsanje ndi kusakaniza kwa nzeru. Munthu amafufuza omwe ndizomveka kuti athamangitse, koma omwe alibe. Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, pokhala ndi zokondweretsa kuti wina apambane, akukonzekera kale, zomwe akuyenera kuchita kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zake zomwezo.
Ndipo nsanje yakuda sizothandiza komanso zowononga, chifukwa sizimapangitsa kuti muchite nokha. Bwanji, ngati yemwe anapeza zonsezi ndi zofanana ndi ine, ndipo iye anangogwa mutu pamwamba pa zidendene?
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, iye ndi wotsimikiza kuti kaduka wakuda sikuwononga munthu mmodzi yekha, koma gulu lonse lathunthu. Ndipotu, kaduka, osati chifukwa cha chidani, ambiri amavutika. Tangoganizani, munthu wina amasirira ena, kuti ali ndi kanthu kena, ndipo anayamba kumuchotsa. Iwo ankamenya nkhondo ndi kutentha kwa nkhondoyo, chinthu chodziwika kwambiri chinang'ambika kapena kusweka. Tsopano palibe kapena wina ali ndi chirichonse. Ndipo ngati wachiwiri adawona chinthu chomwe ndinkakonda poyamba, ndikanaganiza kuti "ndikupita kukapeza zomwezo" kapena "bwino", pamapeto pake, zinthu ziwiri zokongola zidzawonekera m'malo mwa chimodzi, kuphatikizapo zolimbikitsanso zowonjezera kugwira ntchito kuti zipeze, kusonyeza ntchito zothandiza. Nanga, m'malo mwake, ndizopindulitsa anthu.
Komabe, pali lingaliro lomwe nsanje yowonongeka ili ndi ngozi: ngati imagwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika, ikhoza kuyambitsa kudzichepetsa kapena kukulepheretsani kukwaniritsa zomwe zikufunikiradi. Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi lingaliro limeneli pamlingo woyenera. Zili ngati njala - pambuyo pake, ngati munthu sakuzimva, amasiya kudya ndipo sadzakhala moyo wautali. Ngakhale kuti njala yaikulu imayamba kuvutika ndi kudya kwambiri. Akuluakulu anafotokoza kuti podziyerekezera ndi ena, timawona zolephera zathu momveka bwino, ndipo izi zimatipatsa chikhumbo choyesera kukhala bwino. Ndipo kwathunthu popanda nsanje, munthu amasanduka wopanda chidwi, makamaka kwa iyemwini, cholengedwa. Koma amavomereza kuti ngakhale amamuthandiza pa ntchito yake, waiwalika kale ndi ntchito yake.
Ndipo mmodzi wa abwenzi anga ali ndi vuto lina. Amasirira ziwerengero za amayi ochepa, ofooka, choncho tsiku lililonse amapita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikuyesa zakudya zonse payekha. Koma malamulo ake salola kuti akwaniritse chithunzi chomwe akufuna. Ndipo chifukwa chake, msungwana wabwino kwambiri ndi wochepetsetsa amadzidzudzula yekha, ndiye ulesi, kenako amayamba kususuka - amadya masamba atatu a kabichi mmalo mwa awiri ndipo amadzidzimangira yekha azakhali ake.
Kumvetsetsa ndi kuchepetsa
Zili choncho, ndikumva ngati mtundu wa belu umene umakufotokozerani kuti chinachake mu moyo wanu kapena mwa inu sichoncho kapena ayi. Izi, ndithudi, monga ndi ululu: ngati sitinayambe tamvapo, sitingayambe kulandira matenda nthawi. Choncho ndi bwino kuphunzira kuti muziyendetsa bwino. Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsetsa pamene mukuchitira nsanje. Ndipotu, nthawi zambiri sitidziwa kapena kuti mwadzidzidzi, kuti tisadzivulaze okondedwa athu kachiwiri, timasokoneza maganizo ndi maganizo omwe ali oyenera kutsogolo kwa yemwe timaganiza kuti wapindula bwino, kapena timavomera chifukwa cha chipongwe - Ndikunena kuti, sindikudandaula, koma chifukwa chiyani, kupambana, kuyesera kundiwonetsa ine kuti ndine woipitsitsa?
Akatswiri amalemba zizindikiro za kaduka:
- Umatopa kumva nkhani yosangalatsa ya interlocutor;
- mumasokoneza maganizo anu, pali chikhumbo chofulumira kumaliza msonkhano;
- pali kudzimvera chisoni.
Osatsimikiza? Ndiye dzifunseni nokha: kodi zingakhale zophweka kwa inu ngati mawa munthu yemweyo ataya zonse zomwe akusangalala nazo tsopano? Ngati inde (pang'ono), muli ndi nsanje. Ndipo ndi zothandiza kwambiri kuvomereza izi. Autotraining imathandizira kugwirizana ndi malingaliro abwino kwa dziko lonse lathunthu. Ndiye tikuyenera kufufuza: kodi kwenikweni sitikusowa chiyani? Mwina, sikuti wina adalimbikitsidwa kwa inu, koma kuti simunatsirize chinenero china chimene mukufunikira?
Kumvetsetsa nokha, mungathe kukhazikitsa ndondomeko yogwira ntchito kuti mukwaniritse zofunikira ndi zofunika. Pangani tsitsi lanu latsopano, musinthe zovala, mulembere Chingerezi, mulole m'nyumba yanu ndikusiya chaka ku Bali. Kapena mwadzidzidzi pezani kuti muli bwino, ndikusangalala ndi moyo wanu popanda kuyang'ana kumbuyo kwa ena.