Simungakhulupirire, koma amayi ambiri ali ndi mwayi wokhala "kubwerera" kuntchito pambuyo pa nthawi yobadwa. Ali ndi ana awo omwe, ntchito yawo yokondedwa, ndipo ndizo zabwino. Koma zikufunikiradi kukonza - mavuto ambiri angathe kugonjetsedwa ngati okonzekera kuwathetsa.
Kodi vuto lalikulu ndiloti?
Nkhawa ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chikulepheretsa mkazi kuti alowe pantchito, pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake. Akazi samadziwa zomwe ayenera kuyembekezera, makamaka ngati ali mwana wawo woyamba ndipo, motero, kutuluka koyamba pambuyo pa lamuloli. Phunziroli linasonyeza kuti amayi amodzi mwa atatu aliwonse ali ndi vuto ndi abwana awo atangoti "kubwerera" koteroko. Koma mavuto ambiri angapewe pozindikira zinsinsi zoyankhulirana ndi kukonza. Kodi munayamba mwaganiza kuti bwana angakhalenso ndi nkhawa? Mwadzidzidzi iye anali asanayambe kulamulira mkazi wapakati kapena mayi wamng'ono? M'phunzitseni iye! Koma chitani mofatsa komanso mosagonjetsa, ngati mkazi. Khalani katswiri wabwino m'munda mwanu. Konzani zochita zanu pa tsiku logwira ntchito - kotero zidzakhala zosavuta kupeza bungwe lotaika. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutontholetsa. Ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukulankhulana ndi anzanu komanso abwana. Kungolankhulana, koma osakhala wochenjera, kudwala, kumvetsa chisoni. Dziwani ufulu wanu, koma musalowe m'mawu akuti: "Ndikufuna kulemekeza ufulu wanga." Lankhulani ndi anthu kuti mutsimikizire kupeza chithandizo pamene mwadzidzidzi mukusowa.
Amayi ambiri amatsutsana motere: "Kampani yanga ndi yaikulu (yaying'ono) ndipo ndikudandaula kuti sindidzalandira thandizo loyenera." Koma ndikukhulupirirani, pali ubwino wokatenga maulendo oyamwitsa kuchokera ku makampani akuluakulu ndi aang'ono. Mu bungwe laling'ono, chirichonse chiri "chokha". Mukudziwa bwana wanu amamvetsa bwino ntchitoyi. Zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muyankhule za kuchoka kwanu. Koma bungwe lalikulu lidzakhala ndi "chidziwitso chachikulu" muzonse zokhudzana ndi nthawi yobereka. Zonsezi ndi zomangamanga zikukhazikitsidwa momveka bwino komanso mofulumira. Kulankhulana ndi bwana ndi inu mu bungwe lotero, ndithudi, kutali kwambiri, koma nthawi zina mumakhala nokha.
Mavuto poyankhulana ndi anzanu - china "chokhumudwitsa" mu nkhani yovutayi. Muyenera kumvetsetsa: akhoza kungodandaula kuti adzawonjezera ntchito yawo mutatha. Ndipo, motero, zidzachepa ndi kubwerera kwanu. Dziike nokha pamalo awo. Musati muweruze ndipo musakhumudwe. Yesetsani kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, chirichonse chimene chimafunika. Adziwitseni kuti mudakali munthu yemweyo, mukudziperekanso kuntchito yanu. Chitani kuti athe kudalira pa inu.
Amayi ambiri amaganiza kuti akuzunzidwa mosavomerezeka. Amakhulupirira kuti pa iwo pali chisankho. Koma izi sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Inde, onse asanatuluke ndi amayi omwe ali pachiwopsezo. Ndipo ndithudi mabwana ena "amagwiritsa ntchito" izi kuti asonyeze mphamvu zawo, "kuvutika" kapena chifukwa cha zofooka za malingaliro awo ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Mlandu uliwonse uyenera kuchitidwa mwachindunji, ngati n'kotheka, mopanda tsankho. Kumbukirani: lamulo liri pambali panu, koma simukusowa "kusinthitsa ufulu wanu" kumanja ndi kumanzere. Muyenerabe kugwira ntchito pano.
Nazi malingaliro ena pa zomwe muyenera kusankha musanapite pa nthawi yobadwa:
- Ntchito yovuta yovuta. Kambiranani za izi ndi akuluakulu anu. Mwinamwake mukhoza kukwaniritsa ntchito yanu polerera mwana. Mwachitsanzo, kwa maola ambiri patsiku. Kapena ngakhale kunyumba. Ndipotu, pali zinthu zomwe zimalola. Kambiranani ndi bwana wanu. Mwina mungapeze njira yomwe ikugwirizana nonse awiri.
- Pezani chithandizo choyenera. Lankhulani ndi bwana, ndipo onetsetsani kuti simukudutsa. Musaiwale za anzako. Zikondwerero pa maholide anu enieni, musasiye gululi kwamuyaya.
- Nthaŵi ndi nthawi muzilankhulana ndi anzanu ndi akuluakulu. Ngakhale kuchokera kunyumba. Khalani ndi chidwi pa zochitika za olimba, musalole "kudziponyera pambali." Ngati simukudandaula za ntchito, mudzatha kumvetsera mwachidwi mwana wanu.
- Konzani msonkhano ndi abwana anu masabata awiri mpaka 4 mutabwerera kudzawona momwe zinthu zikuyendera. Onetsetsani kuti zonse zili bwino, kuti mupitirize kuyankhulana.