Chifukwa ndiwe yemwe ndilo loto limene lakhala loona, nthano yamatsenga yomwe imapukuta imvi yake tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zojambula zamitundu. Ndiponsotu, palibe amene amafuna kukhala mchitidwe wapakatikati, gawo limodzi mu moyo, malingaliro osakwanira ndi nthawi yomwe amathera, panthawi yomwe miniti iliyonse imayesedwa ndi mtsikana wokongola ndipo kutchulidwa kwake kuli kowala, koona ndi koyera.
Koma nchiyani chimene chiyenera kuti chichitidwe kuti chikhale choyambirira kwambiri ndi chokondedwa kwa iye? Mwinamwake pali kusintha kwina, nsonga zina? Kapena kukhala msungwana wabwino kwambiri kwa mnyamata wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa - ndiye chinachake kuchokera kumalo a malingaliro ndi chirichonse chimadalira kokha pa chifuniro cha mulanduyo? Momwemo, ndikuganiza kuti ngakhale zonse ziri m'manja mwa Kuwonongeka, sizidzatayika kuchokera kwa inu ngati mutayesera kuchita chinachake pa chiyanjano chanu, musinthe nokha bwino, kusintha kwinakwake, kuti mnyamatayo azikondana nanu mobwerezabwereza . Ndikofunika kukhala mtsikana wotere-maloto, omveka, osabisika, osamvetsetseka. Khalani naye chitsimikizo, koma chodalirika chithandizo.
Koma tsopano mawu onse onena za msungwana wabwino, msungwana wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa padziko lapansi, pamene iwo eniwowo amawoneka okongola, koma kuti akhale iye, zedi zabwino kwambiri, zikuwoneka, ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri. Ndipotu, si choncho; Zotsatira zofunidwa zingapezeke mwanjira yosavuta. Pali lamulo limodzi lokha losavuta: umusangalatse!
Msungwana yemwe amadziwa kupatsa chibwenzi chake chisangalalo ndi "chimodzimodzi": wapadera ndi wofunika kwa iye. Funso likuyamba: ndi chiyani chomwe chikufunika kuti muchite izi? Momwe mungaperekere, ichi ndi chisangalalo chodabwitsa?
Choyamba: Mlemekezeni ndi kumukhulupirira. Mnyamata aliyense amafuna kumverera ngati akuthandizani ndikukupatsani mwayi woti mukhale "ngati khoma lamwala." Akufuna kudziwa kuti mumamukhulupirira ndikumuona kuti ndi wolimba komanso wolimba mtima, komanso amamuyamikira. Musamuchititse manyazi ndi kulingalira malingaliro ake, mvetserani mosamala maganizo ake - ndipo inunso muyenera kuyembekezera.
Chachiwiri: Aloleni amvetse kuti mumamufuna komanso kuti nthawizonse amafunidwa. Musamangokhalira kumudzudzula chifukwa cha mimba ya mowa, kupukuta mphuno ndi kukumbukira kuti pali malo ngati "masewera olimbitsa thupi", ndi kugwedeza nyumba yosindikizira nyumba, mwa njira ... ndipo mwadzidzidzi mwafuna mwadzidzidzi kuti ziwoneke ngati izi - pachikuto cha magaziniyi. Ndibwino kuti chibwenzi chanu chikhale chokongola komanso chosangalatsa kwa inu, komanso chofunikira. Aloleni akuthandizeni mwanjira inayake ndikutsitsimikizira kuti mumamufuna.
Chachitatu: kukhala woona mtima kwa iye ndi moona mtima. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumayenera kumufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito tsiku lililonse, ndipo mukakhala ndi mwayi woyamba kumuuza zinsinsi zake zonse, perekani ndemanga pazinthu zonse, nenani zomwe mukuganiza pazifukwa zina. Aliyense amadziwa zochitika zomwe msungwana ayenera kukhala wosamvetsetseka, komanso cholinga chomwe mwamuna ayenera kumusaka ndi kumugonjetsa, monga mwana wamkazi. Koma, palibe amene akusowa zinthu zoletsedwa, zinsinsi, zobisika zobisika, kuyang'ana kozizira kosafikirika. Simumasula, kuti mumasaka nthawi zonse, zowonjezereka zimakhala zosavuta komanso zofunikira.
Chachinayi: Mtengo wa mabwenzi ake ndi makolo ake. Amadziwika kuti mabwenzi a mnyamata - ndi opatulika, ndi abwenzi amuna - amphamvu kuposa maketoni ambiri. Sikofunika kulumikizana ndi chilengedwe chake ndi kukhala "chibwenzi chake" kwa abwenzi ake. Zokwanira kumvetsetsa wachinyamata ndikuchitira bwino abwenzi ake, komanso osamunyalanyaza pamaso pawo, ndipo ngati pali mwayi wotsutsana nawo.
Chachisanu: Penyani nokha. Diso limakondwera ndi mtsikana wokongola. Mfundo yakuti wakusankhani kale, imatsimikizira kuti iye ndiwe ndipo mumakhulupirira kuti ndinu wokongola komanso wokondweretsa kwa iye. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti tsopano muyenera kusiya kudziyang'anitsitsa nokha, chifukwa chakuti akuyenera kukudziwirani momwe mulili. Pokhala ndi malingaliro abwino, simungasangalatse nokha, kuwonjezera kudzidalira kwanu, koma makamaka munthu. Mmodzi mwa iwo mwa njira ina ndi wothandizira kukongola. Choncho pitirirani kukongola ndi kupulumutsa dziko!
Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri, yomwe, mwachidziwikire, ingakhale yosiyana komanso yosangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kuyenda mu pakiyi, kukwera phiri lapamwamba kwambiri mumzinda wanu, pitani kafa yatsopano yomwe yangotsegulidwa, kapena kukonza pikiniki, kuthandizana kuti muwonere kanema wamakono omwe mudzakumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali ndi kuseka. Ubale ukhoza kupangidwa ndi zokondweretsa, kupanga mphatso zachikondi kapena kulenga wina ndi mzake: kulemba wina ndi mzake kalata, kulembera vesi kapena nkhani yokhudza inu ndi anzanu, kukopera mapu ku chuma, chomwe pamapeto pake, chomwe mungakhale.
Musagwirizane ndi chizoloŵezi chokha ndi ntchito, chifukwa, inde, mutha kupeza zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa ndikumverera, kupanga tsiku lililonse kukhala pamodzi, wapadera. Muyeneranso kukumbukira chisangalalo chomwe anthu amayamikira. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala jester kwa iye, yemwe sadandaule ndi kuseka mawu onse omwe akunena, popanda kusowa mwayi woti amusekerere m'mimba. Koma zithunzi zoopsa tsopano sizinayamikiridwe, ndipo aliyense amene akufuna kuwononga nthawi ndi mtsikana-vuto, yemwe amangodandaula za chinachake.
Phunzirani kukhala nokha, kuyamikira nokha wanu ndikusankha tanthauzo la golide mu chirichonse. Ndiye palibe chifukwa chodandaula chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo. Ndipo chotsiriza, koma chofunika kwambiri: chizikonda. Muzimukonda ndipo mumulole iye amve kuti amamukonda - kenako mudzapeza chimwemwe chenicheni. Pambuyo pa zonse, sikofunikira kuti mukhale abwino, ndikwanira kuti mukhale nokha, osayiwala za choonadi chophweka ...
Pano pano pakhale msungwana wabwino kwa mwamuna: wachikondi, woleza mtima ndi womvetsa. Ndipo kukhala mkazi wotero kwa munthu wokondedwa sikuli kovuta konse - pangakhale chikhumbo!