Choyamba, kumbukirani kamodzi kokha: kubwezeretsa munthu ndi wosayamika, wopanda ntchito komanso wopusa. Izi zimagwira ntchito kwa amuna onse komanso kwa munthu wa egoist makamaka.
Chachiwiri, kukhala ndi mwamuna wotchedwa egoist sikovuta kwambiri kusiyana ndi munthu wina aliyense. Amuna onse, kuphatikizapo amayi, ali odzikonda kwambiri. Mwinamwake munthu wodalirika amafunika malo osungira ndipo nthawi yomweyo amamvetsera mwachidwi ndipo safunikira kulemedwa ndi mavuto ake.
Kawirikawiri, ngati simunasinthidwe kuti mukhale ndi moyo ndipo simungathe kupirira mavuto oyambirira, ndiye kuti moyo ndi mwamuna wotchedwa egoist umatsutsana ndi inu, monga kulumphira kwakukulu. Mwamuna ndi wodzikonda kwambiri pa moyo wake wonse ndi wotanganidwa ndi iye yekha ndipo mudzalolera kumbali yake pokhapokha ngati mukulowa m'malo mwake, mukwaniritse zofunikira zake ndipo musati muzitsatira nokha.
Ndipo komabe, zikanakhala bwino kuyambira pachiyambi kuti mudziwe mtundu wa dyera lanu lokhulupirika. Egoist yowonjezera imagawidwa mu:
- Iye amakhala ndi kupereka kwa ena;
- Iye amakhala, koma sapereka kwa ena;
- ndipo sakhala ndi moyo ndipo sapereka kwa ena.
Mtundu woopsya kwambiri wa egoist ndi wotsiriza. Chifukwa chachiwiri, osati egoist salola kuti ena akhale ndi moyo, ndi angati ena omwe alibe mwayi wotsogolera moyo wosasamala pamodzi ndi egoist. Mtundu woyamba ndi mtundu wa otchedwa "wololera" egoist. Kwa iye, ndithudi, iye akubwera poyamba, koma iye samawafikira anthu molunjika. Iye, mophweka, samaganizira nthawi zonse maganizo awo ngati akutsutsana ndi ake omwe.
Choncho chomaliza: Kufuna kukhala ndi moyo ndi munthu wodziletsa - samatsutsana naye, pewani mikangano, kumveketsa mgwirizano. Wopambanayo adzachitabe momwe akufunira. Ndipo koposa zonsezi zidzasamalira bwino. Chifukwa chake ndi kudzikonda.
Kotero, fuula, kodi iwe, munthu ndi wodzikonda sangathe kukonda, kukhala wokondana, wachikondi, wosasamala? Inde, nambala iliyonse. Choyamba, iye ndiye wokondedwayo, ndipo mkazi yemwe anasangalala ndi chidwi chake, adavomereza kumoyo wake, yemwe adagawanika nawo, adzakhala nthawi yachiwiri. Ndipo tsoka kwa iye ngati iye akuyesera kuti asonyeze kusakhutitsidwa.
Choncho, ngati mutavomereza kukhala ndi mwamuna wina, dziwani kuti muli pambali. Koma ngati mumakonda kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokhalira pansi ndipo simungathe kuchita nawo chizoloŵezichi, ndiye kuti muyenera kupewa mgwirizano ndi mwamuna egoist, ukwati wanu watha. Simungathe kukhala ndi moyo wokondwa ndi mwamuna wamwamuna, mosakondwera, mosasangalatsa, pamene muika zofuna za ena patsogolo pa zofuna za mnzanuyo.
Kukhalira ndi mwamuna wamwamuna yemwe amatha kudzipereka yekha ndi okondedwa ake ndi moyo wabwino akhoza kulandiridwa. Musaiwale kuyamikira wokondedwa wanu (makamaka pamaso pa ena), kunena kuti muli ndi mwayi wotani, koma kuti muchite nenazoylivo. Pewani kupeza ubale, nthawi zina mumalira, mwamunayo mwamuna ndi wodzikonda sangazindikire misozi yanu. Ndipo ndithudi sitingaganize kuti iye ali mwanjira ina kuti aziimba mlandu. Ndikoyenera kuti tipewe mphamvu.
Ntchito yanu yayikulu, ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo ndi mwamuna wamwamuna, mumapangitse moyo wake kukhala wofunikira, kotero kuti mukhazikitse moyo kotero kuti munthu wokonda kudzikonda sangayerekeze ndi moyo wosiyana, kotero kuti pokhapokha pakhomo panu muli bwino komanso mwamtendere. Mwinanso muyenera kupirira nthawi yozizira, osayenerera, mwinamwake kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wake. Koma ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi mwamuna, zimakhala ndi munthu uyu, moyo wanu wonse, muyenera kukhala okonzekera chilichonse. Ndipo ndizoonadi zonse ndi zikhulupiriro zimapewa scandals. Mwamuna wamba, ndi egoist makamaka, samatsutsa pa adiresi yake. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kukhala muukwati, kumbukirani malingaliro onse pa izi ndipo muwachulukitse iwo awiri, mukuchita ndi mwamuna wamwamuna.
Potero, tikufika pamapeto oti tidzakhala ndi moyo ngati munthu wodalirika ndipo tidzakhala osangalala nthawi yomweyo, koma n'zotheka.