Pazifukwa zina, mbadwo wamakono wamamuna umasiyanasiyana kwambiri kuchokera kumbuyo yonse. Amuna awa amavala mazenera a pinki, nsapato zazing'amba, monga momwe amachitira nthawi zonse, zomwe ziri zabwino ndi zodabwitsa, amapereka mipango ndi kupukuta misozi. Inde, iwo ali otsimikiza kuti ndi amuna abwino kwambiri padziko lapansi ndipo atsikana ayenera kugwa ndi mapazi ndi kuyamika Mulungu kuti ali ndi chimwemwe choterocho.
Koma padali amuna ena omwe amatsutsana kwambiri, komabe amaganiza kuti si abwino kwa amayi awo. Ndipo kotero amuna awa amangopita, kusiya akazi omwe amawakonda, mu chisokonezo chathunthu. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati chibwenzi chanu sichikuyenererani, ndipo ndinu otsimikiza kuti ndizosiyana?
Zimayambitsa
Choyamba, nkofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mnyamatayu anali ndi maganizo oterowo. Mwachidziwikire, chifukwa chake sichikuyenda bwino kapena chizoloŵezi chanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata wanu ali wokoma mtima, woona mtima, wolemekezeka, wokhulupirika komanso wakukondani kwambiri, ndiye kuti khalidweli lingayambitse chifukwa amadziwona yekha zolakwa zomwe amaona kuti ndizoopsa kwambiri. Amuna ambiri a mtundu umenewu sali okondana komanso otsekedwa. Amati "ndimakukonda" pafupifupi kamodzi m'moyo wanga, koma fotokozani chikondi changa ndi zochita, osati ndi mawu. Atsikana omwe, monga momwe tonse tikudziwira, amakonda ndi makutu awo, izi si zokwanira, ndipo amayamba kukhazikitsa zifukwa zomveka zokhumudwitsa za kuti mwamuna sanganene mawu ndipo samamukonda. Kotero, inu mukufuna pang'ono kuti mutenge kuchokera kwa iye chifundo, ndipo mnyamatayo akukulitsa kumverera komwe iye amakusokonezani nthawizonse ndi kukupwetekani inu, kotero mu zotsatira za nkhaniyo amangosankha kuti asamamupweteke wokondedwa wake ndi kusiya.
Chifukwa china chomwe mnyamata angasankhe chomwe sichiri choyenera inu ndi ndalama. Ngati mwamuna akuwona kuti muli ndi makolo olemera kapena mumapindula zambiri, ndipo pazifukwa zina sangakupatseni ndalama zambiri, wachinyamatayo amangokulirakulira. Poyang'ana momwe mumagula zovala zodula, amayamba kuganiza kuti palibe angathe kugula zinthu zoterezo komanso zochuluka. Choncho, monga wopeza, mwamuna amayamba kuwonekera zovuta ndipo amasankha zomwe sizingakwanire kuti muthe kudalirika. Zotsatira zake, mwamunayo, adakhumudwa mwa iyemwini, akuchoka. Ndipotu, sakufuna kusiya moyo wanu kwa inu, ndikukhulupirira kuti wina akhoza kukupatsani zonse zomwe munkachita kale, ndipo adzakukakamizani kulekerera zinthu zomwe simukuzivomereza.
Zifukwa ziwiri izi ndi zifukwa zazikulu zodzionetsera kuti munthuyo ndi wosayenera. Monga lamulo, lingaliro ili lidzabwera amuna abwino kwambiri omwe sadziwa zabwino zawo zonse. Ndipo ngati ayendetsa chinachake pamitu yawo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuziletsa, koma nkuthekabe.
Kotero, nthawi zambiri timakhala chifukwa chodzipangira tokha. Tiyeni tiwone mkhalidwe umodzi kuchokera kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Mwachitsanzo, tsiku la kubadwa kwa mtsikana. Mnyamata amamubweretsera zida za maluwa ndi manja, koma popeza iye mwini alibe zifukwa zina, ake okondwa amakhala ouma. Msungwanayo, powona izi, akudandaula chifukwa chakuti samamukonda, kuti sangathe kunena chilichonse chabwino, mawu ndi mawu, zonse zimapita kwa munthuyo ndipo amatha kufika pomwe mtsikanayo akuyamba kufuula monga "Ndimadana nawe, iwe nthawi zonse mumandikhumudwitsa. " Kodi ife timapeza chiyani kumapeto? Kwa mkazi, iko kunali kungowonjezereka. Iye samadana aliyense ndipo amamuyamikira mwamuna wake, kotero iye akufuna kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti iye anali ndi chikondi chochuluka, popanda chomwe iye anali nacho choipa. Ndipo munthu amawona chiyani? Amawona kuti ziribe kanthu momwe amayesera kusonyeza chikondi chake, m'malo mwake amangovulaza. Kuti malingaliro ake ndi momwe akumvera zimasokoneza moyo wake. Ndipo ngati zochitikazo zikubwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza, ndiye pamapeto pake, mnyamatayo amangopereka chitsimikizo kuti amabweretsa zowawa komanso zokhumudwitsa. Ndipo masamba.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji vutoli?
Ndipo zitatha izi timadziwa kuti sitimasowa niromantica, kapena "ndimakukonda" theka la ora lililonse, koma ndikungofuna kuti akhale pafupi. Choyamba, muyenera kungoyankhula naye. Ingokumbukirani kuti inu simukusowa kuti muzitsutsa zotsutsana nazo. Kulankhulana tsopano kumapita patsogolo kuti iye akhoza kupanga zomwe iye akufuna, ndipo iwe udzatseka maso ako. Pano akunenedwa kuti simudzafunanso kwa iye mawonetseredwe a malingaliro omwe si achilendo kwa iye. Choncho, kumuitana munthuyo pazokambirana, mwamsanga mumulole kumvetsetsa kuti mumamukonda ndipo mumakhala naye bwino. Ngakhale mutakhala chete ndi kutsekedwa muli bwino. Ndipo mwinamwake simukufuna kwenikweni chikondi chomwe chimakupatsani, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti simungathe kukhala popanda izo. Ndipotu, khalidwe lanu ndilokhudzi la mkazi. Ndipo inde, inu munatsata cholinga cha chinachake kusintha, chifukwa, monga mukudziwira, akazi ndi abwino kwambiri ndi okhulupirira, koma tsopano mumvetsetsa kuti mukhoza kukhala opanda chikondi ndi matabwa a maluwa pansi. Koma simungathe kukhala opanda munthu wanu.
Ngati mnyamata wanu ayamba kunena zotsutsana ndikuwonetsa kuti mudzakhala bwinoko popanda iye - ingompsompsonani. Ndikhulupirire, kupsompsona kumamupangitsa kuiwala zomwe adanena komanso kumachepetsa kwambiri chilakolako chake chokhala wolemekezeka ndikukutulutsani. Ndiyeno nenani kuti mumamukonda, kuti mukufuna kukhala naye yekha ndipo simusamala kuti adzalankhula za chikondi kamodzi pachaka, pa tsiku lanu lobadwa, ndipo kenako, osati zomwe zidzachitike. Muyenera kutsimikiza kuti munthu amakukhulupirirani, kotero kuti alibe kukayikira podziwa kuti si iye amene ali woipa, koma nthawi zina mumakhala opanda pake.
Ndipo chinthu chomaliza chimene muyenera kukumbukira ndi funso la ndalama. Pachifukwa ichi, munthu amakhala ovuta kusintha maganizo ake, chifukwa amadzidalira yekha, monga momwe akufunira. Choncho, muyenera kumusonyeza kuti, poyamba, zilibe kanthu kwa inu, munagula bulasi pa yachiwiri kapena mu botolo, ndipo kachiwiri, mumuthandize munthu kuti ndalama sizidzakubweretsani chimwemwe ndipo sanakumvetsereni. Mwinamwake, zochitika zoterezi zinayamba chifukwa inu mumakhulupirira kuti mnyamata wanu akhoza kukwaniritsa ntchito yaikulu. Ndipo pa chifukwa china iye sanachite izo. Lankhulani naye ndipo muuzeni kuti simusamala kuti adzalandira ndalama zingati, ndipo ndizofunika kuti adziwe zomwe angathe, chifukwa ali ndi yaikulu. Koma ngati sakufuna kuchita izi chifukwa cha zifukwa zina, simudzamukhudza, ndipo ngati ali waulesi, mwinamwake mungathe, koma simudzakhala chifukwa chakuti mulibe njira zakuthupi. Mumakumbatira zonse, mumamukonda kwambiri kuti mum'funire zabwino.
Mwinamwake, pambuyo pa kukambirana kotere, mwamuna adzabweranso ndipo sadzangowonjezera mfundo zake zopweteka ndikuyesera kuzigwira momwemo.