Chikondi ndikumverera kovuta komanso kovuta kwambiri, mwinamwake chifukwa chake ambiri akukumana ndi mavuto pofotokoza izo. Chikondi kwa aliyense - chake, chitani mtundu wake mwapadera, ndipo usadandaule ngati simunathe kumvetsetsa kumvetsa komweku.
Mudziko la mitundu yambiri, zinenero ndi miyambo, mawuwa nthawi zina amapatsidwa tanthauzo losiyana. Ndipo tsopano - timanena kwa munthu "Ndimakonda" osakayikira, ndikutanthauza chiyani. Kwa anthu ena mawu awa ndi olekanitsa, pakuti ena ali ndi mawu akuti "khalani ndi chikondi."
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti chikondi chili ndi zigawo zitatu:
Choyamba ndi ubwenzi wapamtima. Ndikumverera kokondana, kukopa. Tikufuna kukhala pafupi, kuti moyo wa wokondedwa wathu ukhale wabwino.
Lachiwiri ndilo lingaliro, kudzipereka. Kumbali imodzi, ndiko kuzindikira kuti anthu amakondana wina ndi mzache - chikhumbo ndi khama kusunga chikondi ichi.
Ndipo lachitatu ndi chilakolako. Zimadzutsa chikoka cha kugonana. Ngakhale chilakolako sichingakhoze kutchedwa chigawo chachikulu cha ubale wachikondi, koma popanda izo, malingaliro akhoza kuziziritsa ndi kusawonongeka.
Musaganize kuti chikondi sichidalira munthu, sichoncho. Mukhoza kukhala otsimikiza kuti ngati wokondedwa wanu akuwoneka mosiyana, kapena mwachitsanzo, adapeza zizoloŵezi zoipa zomwe zimakukwiyitsani, ndiye ziribe kanthu momwe mukukumverera mukukhazikika, mumakhala kusintha kosasinthika. Chikondi chathu ndi mndandanda wa zonse zokhudza chinthucho, kuchokera ku fano lake lachiwonetsero, kutha ndi zovala ndi fungo. Chilichonse chimene chimachitika kwa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu, kuyenda kwanu kulikonse ndi kuyang'ana, mau anu onse - zonsezi zimapanga ndikukonzekera kumverera kwanu. Choncho, nkofunika kuzindikira kuti chikondi sichikhala ndi moyo wokha, chiyenera kukhazikika nthawi zonse, chithandizidwe, ndipo nthawi zina nkofunika kutsimikizira chikondi chanu kwa wokondedwa. N'zosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti chikondi chenicheni ndi ntchito yaikulu. Mudzafunikila kutsimikizira chikondi chanu pamphindi iliyonse. Ngati mukufuna ntchito iyi, khalani pansi pa bizinesi. Simungathe kutaya miniti.
Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza kuti chikondi ndi mphatso. Anthu ena mu miyoyo yawo yonse sadziwa kuti akumva bwanji. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndiyenera kuyambiranso malingaliro anu pa moyo ndikusiya kuganiza kuti chikondi ndi chinthu chachibadwa komanso chodziwikiratu. Kwa ena, izi ndizokwanira kuyamba kuyamikira nthawi zonse za chikondi.
Nthawi zambiri funso ndi "momwe mungatsimikizire chikondi chanu kwa wokondedwa wanu", Kumakupangitsani kulingalira za china chake. Kodi mukuyenera kutsimikizira chirichonse kwa wina? Ndipo ndani akufunikira umboni umenewu ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Kaŵirikaŵiri, iwo ndi ofooka ndi osatetezeka omwe akufuna kukhala osamveka, omwe akufunafuna njira yoti adziwonetsere okha ndi anthu omwe amawakonda. Ndizochita nkhanza, sichoncho, kuthetsa mavuto anu pamene mukupweteka achibale anu? Ikhoza kuthandiza, popeza sizingamveke banal, kukambirana momasuka, mawu okoma. Pomaliza, mwinamwake, muyenera kuganiziranso za munthu wotere, ngati tsogolo lanu ndi mitsempha ndizofunika kwa inu. Kaŵirikaŵiri osati, anthu oterewa ndi "opricious," akudzipiritsa ndi mtengo, kenaka, akusiyirani ndi mtima wosweka ndi wotopa, umasunthika pofunafuna munthu watsopano.
Zikuchitika kuti munthu amafunika umboni wa chikondi, mungathe kunena, kuvulaza, kungotulutsa mtima. Amafuna kubweretsa maganizo ndi mitundu pa moyo wake mwanjira iyi, pamene izi sizingatheke mosiyana. N'zosatheka kuti malingaliro anu ndi ogwirizana, choncho, musapereke mpata ku chiyanjano choterocho.
Pomaliza, ganizirani zomwe mungachite mukakhala bwino, mukondana wina ndi mzake, ndipo inu nonse muli "agulugufe akukuta m'mimba" ... Choyamba, muyenera kuyang'ana nokha. Mwina, kuti atsimikizire chikondi chake panopa, o, ziyenera bwanji. Yankhani funsolo, kodi ndinu owongoka ndi wokondedwa wanu? Kodi inu simukumverera chirichonse? Musaganize kuti zinsinsi zanu ndi zinsinsi zanu zilibe ndi inu. Simukusowa kukhala katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti muzindikire kuganizira nkhope, kulingalira mozama ndi chinsinsi. Theka lanu lidzadzipangira nokha, ndipo "lidzawongolera" chithunzi chanu mu moyo wanu. Choncho chotsani zinsinsi, kung'ambani zonse zomwe zingasokoneze ubale (kupatulapo, ndithudi, mukufunitsitsa kuwasunga), ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, mvetserani chikumbumtima chanu - chimakuuzani nthawi zonse ngati muli pa njira yolondola. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amati "ndimakonda" ...