Chikondi ndi nthawi yosangalatsa, pamene malingaliro onse ali pa munthu mmodzi yekha. Ndikufuna kuthera nthawi yochuluka pamodzi, ndipo nthawi ino sichiwonongeke, sindifuna kukhala pansi ndikukumbatira filimu yachikondi, komanso kusangalatsa.
Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi, okondedwa saganiziranso moyo popanda wina ndi mzake, choncho nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nkhani zokambirana, nthawi zonse amalemba mauthenga kwa wina ndi mnzake, amalankhula momasuka pafoni. Osati kuwonana wina ndi mzake, ngakhale nthawi yaying'ono kwa iwo akuwoneredwa kuti akuzunzidwa. Ena samafuna kuti apite kachiwiri kwa wokonda kapena wokondedwa wawo, amasankha kuchita zonse pamodzi. Koma kodi ziyenera kukhala choncho?
Ambiri a ife timakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka yokonda zinthu, ndipo izi zingayambitse mavuto ambiri. Ambiri amapereka maphunziro awo kapena ntchito yawo, kuti awone okondedwa awo, momwe angathere nthawi yambiri ndi iye. Koma malo awa ndi owopsa, choyamba. Sikoyenera kusiya sukulu kapena kusiya masukulu, kupempha ntchito yoyamba kapena kusakhalapo konse chifukwa chakuti muli pachikondi ndikuganizira za wokondedwa wanu mphindi iliyonse.
Mwinamwake njira yabwino kwambiri kuti ubale ukhale wabwino, osati kuchuluka. Ngati okondedwawo amatha tsiku lonse palimodzi, tsiku lotsatira akukumbukira, nthawi zosangalatsa za tsiku lapitalo zidzakumbukiridwa. Momwemo, ziyenera kukhala choncho. Kotero, nthawi yomwe mumakhala pamodzi mofulumira, idzakuikirani inu kukhumba kwakukulu. Choncho, musayesetse kuthawa kwa mphindi imodzi kuti muwone, zidzakhala zofunikira kwambiri kukumana nthawi yanu yopatula ndikusunga tsiku lonse palimodzi, m'malo mozembera nthawi yochepa.
Pali lingaliro lakuti ngati mumathera nthawi yochuluka pamodzi, mukhoza kutaya umunthu wanu. Kukhala osasinthasintha nthawi zonse pokhala ndi munthu mmodzi, ngakhale wokonda kwambiri, kungalimbikitse kudzipatula kwanu polankhula ndi anthu ena. Mwachimodzimodzinso, movutikira kuchita zonse palimodzi, simungathe kunyamula kusungulumwa ndi kuchita zinthu zina nokha, mudzafuna kuona wokonda pafupi, kuti akuthandizeni. Choncho, mumangodalira kwambiri pa theka lanu lachiwiri. Sitikunenedwa kuti maubwenzi oterewa ndi oipa komanso osakhazikika, tsiku limodzi pamene wokondedwa wanu amakana kukuthandizani mu chinachake kapena sangathe kulipira moyenera, monga momwe zinalili poyamba, mudzakayikira chikondi chake pa inu.
Mu mau, kulankhulana kawirikawiri kungakuvulazeni. Ndipo zonsezi zingathawe bwanji?
Mwina, choyamba, - sikuyenera kuiwalika pa anzanu ndi achibale, ngati muli ndi ubale wachikondi. Musati muzimitse kwa iwo ndi kubisala wokondedwayo, kulowetsani mmenemo. Apo ayi, anzanu angakhumudwitse inu ndipo ngati mkangano ndi wokondedwa wanu simudzagawana chisoni ndi wina aliyense ndipo palibe amene adzatha kukuthandizani. Ngati izi zikuchitika, mumadzidzimutsa kwambiri mwa mnzanuyo, ndipo pambuyo pake, iyenso, tsiku lina ndiye kuti ndiwe yekha amene mumamuwona komanso yemwe mukufuna kumuyankhulana naye.
Chinthu chachiwiri chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kusankha nokha ngati mukufuna ubale weniweni womwe inu nonse mumadzuka ngati munthu. Muyenera kusankha ndi mafunso anu okondedwa za zomwe mungachite pamodzi ndi zomwe muyenera kuzigawa.
Musaike mtanda pa zofuna zanu, maphunziro, ntchito. Pitirizani njira yomweyi kuti muzichita bizinesi yanu ndikupereka ufulu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Ngati mwakondana kwambiri, ndiye kuti idzakhala iwiri pa unyolo. Koma kumbukirani kuti munthu aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yake komanso wokonda, yemwe ali ndi ufulu wochita monga swami.
Nkhani ina mu ubale umene wayamba ndi momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthawi pamodzi.
Kaya ndinu okwatirana kapena wachiwerewere, yemwe wangoyamba kumene chibwenzi, mwa njira ina pali funso la nthawi yogwiritsira ntchito komanso yofunika kwambiri, kuti ikhale yopindulitsa. Monga momwe mu maubwenzi, mu mpumulo wogwirizana, chinthu chachikulu ndi khalidwe, osati kuchuluka. Pali nthawi yambiri yosungira, ndipo wina amakhala ochepa chabe, koma izi siziyenera kukhudza khalidwe la ena onse.
Choyamba, muyenera kusankha masiku amenewo omwe mungakhale omasuka monga momwe mungathere, kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yolipira ndi zosangalatsa ndikusankha zomwe mudzakhala mukuchita.
Tsopano ambiri otchuka akupita ku mafilimu. Pulogalamu yotereyi idzakuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala, ndikusangalala, mukuyang'ana chiwonetsero cha filimuyo. Zingakhale zokondana, zokondweretsa, ndi filimu yochititsa mantha, chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti chithunzi chosankhidwa chikugwirizana ndi zokonda za okondedwa onse, ndiye kudzakhala chisangalalo chosangalatsa.
Zingakhale bwino kamodzi pa sabata, malingana ndi mwayi wa ndalama wa mnzanuyo, kukachezera cafe kapena malesitilanti. Chikondi, vinyo kapena mkaka, zokometsera zokoma zimabweretsa ubale wanu ndikukulolani kumasuka, kulankhula zakukhosi.
Zopanda phindu zimayenda mumlengalenga, kaya ndi paki, malo ozungulira kapena msewu mumzinda wa usiku. Tchuthi chotero ndi chikondi mwa njira yake. Kuyenda koteroko kungakhale kosiyana ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi, njinga. Anthu ambiri amakonda kupita kumapaki ndi kukwera pa zokopa zosiyanasiyana. Ndi zosangalatsa komanso zosaiŵalika. Mukufunabe kukumbukira zosangalatsa zoterozo, mosakayikira, mukufuna kuzibwereza, osati kamodzi.
M'chilimwe, malo anu a tchuthi akhoza kukhala tsiku limodzi. Palibe chabwino kuposa kugona pansi pamchenga wotentha ndikuthamangira ku chitofu chozizira. Ngati mulibe malo osambira mumzinda mwanu, mukhoza kupita ku dziwe. Inde, dziwe silinalowe m'malo osangalatsa, koma limakupatsani nthawi yokhala pamodzi.
Kuyenda kugula pazifukwa zina nthawi zonse kumawoneka ngati ntchito ya mkazi. Koma bwanji osatenga naye chikondi chake, ngati sakudziwa? Ndipo, sikofunikira kuti ugule chinachake kwa iweeni, chitani zodabwitsa zomwe mumakonda ndipo musankhe chinachake kwa iye. Koma sizothandiza kuyendayenda kwa nthawi yaitali, mwamuna, ngati sakusonyeza kuti watopa, ndiye kuti akuganiza, ndipo kwa nthawi yaitali kupuma koteroko kudzakhala nthawi yaitali yopuma.
Musaiwale za ena ndi abwenzi. Ndikofunika kuti amuna aziyankhulana ndi munthu wina osati inu. Pempherani ndi anzanu. Palimodzi mukhoza kupita ku chilengedwe, mwachangu shish kebabs, muzinena zambiri.
Ngati mwakhala mukudziwa kale ndi makolo ake komanso mumadziwa mnyamata wawo ali ndiyekha, sikungakhale koipa kuti muwachezere, pitani kapena mukawachezere. Mukhoza kukonza chakudya chaching'ono cha banja, komwe mungadziwe bwino, mwinamwake ndi apongozi anu aamuna ndi apongozi anu ndi apongozi anu. Kuphatikizanso, ngati mnzanu ali ndi mlongo wamng'ono, mukhoza kuwatenga kuti azipuma pa chilengedwe kapena paki. Zidzasokoneza zosangalatsa zanu ndi kulimbikitsa maubwenzi ndi achibale anu, ndipo n'zotheka, zidzakuthandizani kulingalira momwe mungayendere mtsogolo ndi ana anu.
Ndikufuna kukumbutseni kachiwiri kuti chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kuwonjezereka. Musamangoganizira za chikondi chokha, chifukwa ngati zinthu zonse zikuyenda bwino, mukhalabe pamodzi moyo wanu wonse ndikukhala ndi nthawi yokhumudwa. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musaiwale za zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa, zomwe zingakuthandizenso kusiyana kwa ubale wanu ndipo simudzasokonezeka.