Koma aliyense amachidutsa ndikuchimvetsa mwa njira yake. Ndipo panthawi yomwe muzindikira kuti izi ndizo chikondi, mumadzifunsa nokha: kodi ndizokhalitsa? Kodi tingadziwe ngati pali chikondi chosatha tsopano?
Pali lingaliro lokhazikitsidwa bwino lomwe kuti chikondi chenicheni cham'mbuyo, chimakhala ndi nthawi. Komabe, pali zitsanzo za ubale wamphamvu ndi wa nthawi yaitali. Kodi chikugwirizana bwanji ndi anthu awa? Kulemekezana, chizolowezi, ana - zikhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri. Koma akuti: "Timakondana" ndipo tili ndi zaka 25 ndipo tili ndi zaka 65. Kukhalapo kwa chikondi chamuyaya, monga Shakespeare ku Romeo ndi Juliet, sikungatsimikizidwe. Izi ziyenera kumvedwa ndi kukhulupirira.
Chikondi nchiyani masiku ano? Lamulo ndi makhalidwe amasiku ano amapereka, ndipo samaletsa, kuyesa malingaliro anu, pali masomphenya amakono a chikondi ndi maubwenzi omwe amasiyana ndi maganizo a makolo athu, agogo aakazi, agogo aakazi. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, phindu lakumverera uku ndikutsika.
Tsopano chikondi Chamuyaya chimakhala maloto. Koma kuti tisunge chikondi, kuti tiwusinthe mu mphamvu zathu. Kawirikawiri osati, timayesezera munthu, timaganiza kuti nthawi zonse adzakhala pafupi. Koma sipadzakhala chikondi chamuyaya ngati sichidzaperekedwa ndi chidwi, chisangalalo chosangalatsa ndi chachikondi ndi kusamalirana wina ndi mzake.
Ambiri angaganize kuti palibe chikondi chosatha, koma sichoncho. Kodi ndi mphatso kapena kopita? Kukhoza kukonda ndi luso losapatsidwa kwa aliyense. Mwamwayi, nthawi zambiri timakonda kukondana ngati chikondi, kukondana: ali owala, amphamvu, okonda komanso okongola. Koma amapita. Ndipo ngati zitatha izi, mutatha kuzindikira munthu, ndi ubwino wake ndi ubwino wake, mumanena kuti: "Ndimakonda" , ndizomwezo ndizo zokhudza chikondi chenicheni. Ndikovuta m'dziko lamakono kukhulupirira m'chikondi poyang'ana poyamba. Timagwirizana ndi fano, koma timakonda munthu, mtima wake, moyo wake.
Chikondi chosatha ndi chiyani kwa munthu wamakono? Mwinamwake, ndi chikondi basi. Sichikusowa. Zopindulitsa zakhala zosiyana: ntchito, ufulu, abwenzi, zosangalatsa - izi ziyenera kukhalapo m'miyoyo yathu, koma pali mzere umene sungawoloke ngati mukufuna chiyanjano cholimba. Chikondi sichigwirizana ndi kudzikonda. Muyenera kulemekeza okondedwa anu, malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro. Kusunga ndi kusunga kuwala, kuwala ndi chilakolako ndicho maziko a chimwemwe.
Tsopano chikondi chosatha ndi chosiyana kwambiri ndi chomwe chinachitika mu XVIII, XIX zaka mazana asanu, ndipo zimachitika kawirikawiri. Mwinamwake chiyanjano chakhala chosiyana ndi iye kapena zikhalidwe zasintha, - wina akhoza kukambirana pa mutu uwu kwamuyaya. Koma chinthu chimodzi chidzakhala chimodzimodzi: chikondi nthawi zonse chimayang'ana mosayembekezeka m'moyo wathu. Wina ndi wokoma mtima komanso wokongola, wina - wokonda ndi wowala, koma amagwirizanitsa mawonetsero onse a chikondi chenicheni, kuya kwake ndi kusakhudzidwa.
Kodi pali chikondi chosatha? Mwinamwake, ziri, aliyense ali ndi zake zokha. Chikondi chenicheni chimakhala ndi anzake, popanda icho chimakhala chosauka ndipo chimadutsa: kulemekeza, kumvetsetsa, kukhulupirirana ndi kukhulupirika.
Aliyense wa ife, akugwera m'chikondi, amafuna ndipo amakhulupirira kuti izi ndi za moyo, ndizoyaya. Koma sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala choncho. Chikondi ndi ubale. Ndipo pokhapokha mutha kuupulumutsa ndikuupanga kosatha.
"Chikondi si chizoloŵezi, osati kulolera, osati kukaikira. Izi siziri zomwe nyimbo zachikondi zimatiphunzitsa. Chikondi chiri ... Popanda kufotokozera ndi kutanthauzira. Chikondi - ndipo usafunse. Chikondi basi " (Paul Coelho)