Inde, ngati mufunsa funso: Kodi mungakondane kwambiri ndi ana khumi ndi asanu a zaka za m'badwo uwu, ambiri adzayankha muzovomerezeka. Koma, aliyense akumvetsa kuti pa khumi ndi zisanu, ife timagwiritsidwa ntchito mopyolera muyeso ndikuyang'ana dziko lapansi kudzera mu magalasi obiriwira. Nanga bwanji zenizeni? Kodi mungakonde zaka zingati? Ndipo kawirikawiri, kodi zaka zimakhudza zomwe mukufunadi kuzikonda?
Mwinamwake, luso lokonda limadalira osati pa msinkhu, koma pa kulera, kulingalira kwa dziko ndi malingaliro. Anthu ena ndi makumi atatu sadziwa zomwe ena akumvetsa ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu. Ndipo izi sizimakhudzidwa nthawi zonse ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso maubwenzi ndi makolo. Pano ife tikukamba za lingaliro la udindo.
Achinyamata ambiri ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu akulira ndikulira chifukwa cha zomwe amakonda. Koma ndi chikondi chotani ichi? Kawirikawiri pamsinkhu uwu aliyense amayamba kukonda zolinga. Makamaka atsikana. Pa nthawi zosiyana pali zosiyana. Tsopano munthu wokongola yemwe mungathe, koma m'malo mwake ayenera kukonda ndi woimira chikhalidwe chosavomerezeka omwe ayenera kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kukhala ndi njinga. Mnyamata woteroyo akhoza kusonyeza anzanu ndikukuuzani za momwe mumamukondera. Kwa ichi, mukhoza kulira usiku ndikudandaula chifukwa samvetsera. Koma, makamaka, chikondi choterechi chinakhazikitsidwa. Zimangowoneka ngati atsikana akufunikira kukonda ndipo akuyang'ana zolinga zomwe zimaperekedwa ndi intaneti ndi televizioni. Maganizo otere amatha msanga. N'zoona kuti palinso zoopsa pamene achinyamata amadzipha. Koma, kwenikweni, izi siziri chifukwa chakuti iwo anali mu chikondi chenichenicho. Mwachidule, ana amafuna kukopa chidwi ndikuwonetsa dziko lonse kuti alibe chimwemwe, chifukwa palibe amene amawakonda.
Pali zochitika zina pamene achinyamata ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri chifukwa cha maganizo awo. Koma pa msinkhu uwu, lingaliro la "chikondi" liri bwino mofanana ndi lingaliro la "ngati." Inde, ndithudi, mtsikana angakonde mnyamata, ndipo akufuna kukhala naye. Koma sizingatheke kuti mtsikana wina amaganizira za zomwe zidzachitike atatha maloto ake. Inde, m'badwo wamakono umakula mofulumira kwambiri. Mwa ichi amathandizidwa ndi kutuluka kwadzidzidzi kwadzidzidzi, zomwe malingaliro ang'onoang'ono sakudziwa momwe angasankhire. Vuto ndilo kuti achinyamata amayamba kugwirizana ndi zomwe amawona pazowunikira. Ndipo izi: kuvomereza, kugonana kwaulere ndi zina zotero. Sadziwa kuti chikondi ndi udindo waukulu. Ndipo udindo sali wochuluka kwa iwo eni, monga munthu wina. Pambuyo pake, Fox molondola anati mu ntchito yonse yotchuka: "Ife tiri ndi udindo kwa yemwe watchulidwa." Anthu amakondana ndi chikondi, ndipo akazindikira kuti sangathe kukhala ndi udindo kwa okondedwa awo, amachititsa ululu. Ali wamng'ono, zochitika zoterezi zimakhala zoopsa kwambiri. Koma achinyamata samvetsa izi. Kupsompsona pamwezi ndi mowa pa benchi - ndi momwe chikondi chawo chikuwonekera. Iwo samadziwa kuti kumwa ndi kusuta sizowona. Ndipo ngati wokondedwa akamachita izi, safunikira kutamanda ndi kuyamikira. Za iye muyenera kudandaula. Chitsanzo ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe sizikuganiziridwa pa khumi ndi zisanu.
Koma, kodi onse ali achinyamata omwe ali ochepa kwambiri? Ndipotu, pali zosiyana. Pali anyamata anzeru kwambiri omwe sali ofanana kwa zaka zambiri. Anthu awa amatha kukonda kwambiri. Ngakhale ali aunyamata wawo amadziwa kuti kusuta ndi kumwa sizowoneka bwino. Kawirikawiri, atsikana ameneŵa amalankhula ndi anyamata ndi atsikana achikulire ndi anzeru omwe amachita moyenera, osati mwachangu. Komanso, achinyamata awa samasankha mnyamata malinga ndi chitsanzo chomwe chatsopano cha mafashoni amasiku ano. Iwo amatenga nthawi yaitali kuti asankhe munthu yemwe ali wokondweretsa kwa iwo, monga munthu. Kwa iwo, mnyamatayo si mwayi wina wodzitamandira kwa atsikana ake. Uyu ndiye munthu yemwe akukonzekera tsogolo lake ndikupanga ubale weniweni. Inde, pokhala msinkhu, zofunikira zimasintha, ndipo chikondi chikhoza kudutsa. Koma, zirizonse zomwe zinali, pa nthawi imeneyo ndi zenizeni, chifukwa msungwana akumvetsa udindo wake kwa yemwe ali naye. Sadzasangalala kuti chibwenzi chake chimamwa mabotolo asanu ndi limodzi a mowa kuposa bwenzi lake komanso masewera olimbitsa.
M'malo mwake, ayesa kumuthandiza kuchotsa zizoloŵezi zoipa ndikuonetsetsa kuti sakuyambitsa maphunziro ake. Atsikana oterowa ndi osowa kwambiri. Iwo ngakhale atakwanitsa zaka fifitini amadziwa zomwe zidzakhala zofunikiradi pamoyo, ndi zomwe zidzathamanga ngati fumbi.
Inde, amachitanso zolakwitsa, koma samayesa kutsimikizira kuti dziko lonse lapansi ndi anzeru kwambiri. M'malo mwake, amamvera malangizo a abwenzi ndi abwenzi achikulire omwe kale ali ndi chidziwitso ndipo akhoza kulangizitsa chinthu chabwino komanso cholondola. Atsikana oterewa saganizira zazing'ono, kapena, yesetsani kuti musachite. Ngati wokondedwa ali wamkulu, amayesetsa kufika pa msinkhu wake, kukula, kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandiza aliyense kuposa momwe angathere. Nthawi zina, pazinthu zina, achinyamata awa akhoza kukhala anzeru kwambiri kuposa anthu, okalamba kuposa iwo kwa zaka zingapo. Inde, mwa njira zina amakhalabe ana, koma khalidwe lawo ndilosiyana kwambiri ndi khalidwe la anzako ambiri. Mwa njira, mofanana ndi dziko lapansi. Atsikana oterewa, ngati kuli kofunikira, angalowe mumsinkhu, kumene palibe makolo, koma pali moyo, mavuto azachuma komanso zinthu zina zomwe achinyamata saziganizira. Nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuthetsa mavuto awo okha, amaphunzira kupeza ndalama, komanso kuyang'ana dziko lapansi kudzera m'magalasi obiriwira, iwo angathebe kulingalira zoona zowopsya. Amakula pamaso pa ena ndipo m'njira zina ndizochepa. Koma kwinakwake - izi ndikulumikizana kwakukulu. Ndi achinyamata awa amene angathe kukondadi m'miyezi khumi ndi isanu, chifukwa kumverera kwa iwo si mwayi woti adziwonetse okha ndi zina zotsimikizira. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha moyo chomwe iwo akufuna kuphunzira, kusintha ndi kupereka nsembe.