Choyamba, atsikana ndi amayi omwe amadzifunsa okha funso ili si zophweka. Pambuyo pake, ambiri a iwo amakonda mwamuna wawo, ambiri ali ndi ana kale ndipo amakhala moyo wawo woyezedwa, akuchita ntchito ya banja, ndipo onse amakhala osangalala. Koma palinso atsikana omwewo omwe anakwatira msanga kapena kwa munthu wosakondedwa. Ndiyeno YES akuwonekera! Amene mumagwirizanitsa naye, ndipo mwinamwake sungathe, koma kugwirizana kwina kwatsala. Iye amene ali wokongola kwambiri, wolimba mtima kwambiri komanso wokondweretsa. Ziribe kanthu komwe mudakumana naye ndi pansi pazimenezo. Mwinamwake iye sanakuzindikire inu. Ndipo inu munayamba kufotokoza zithunzi kuchokera kumbuyo. Ngakhale kuti ubale wanu sunali wabwino (malinga ndikuti mukuthabe), zokondweretsa, nthawi zowala zimakumbukiridwa, pamene amayenda kuzungulira paki, kuvina pa disco, osasuka m'chilengedwe, kupita ulendo, ndi zina zotero. . Zonsezi zikukwera ndi kukwera mumutu mwanu. Inu mumadzigwira nokha mukuganiza kuti mukuziganizira mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo mumadzifunsa mobwerezabwereza, muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwakwatirana ndikukumana ndi chikondi chakale?
Tiyeni tiganizire, bwanji osayiwala wokondedwa wanu wakale? Tiyeni tione zifukwa zomveka izi:
® Zikumbutso za zolemba zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kawirikawiri zimakhala "zabwino" kuposa momwe zinaliri pambuyo pake. Zoipidwa zimawoneka kwinakwake, ndipo nthawi zabwino zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri. Ndipo mu ubale wamakono, chirichonse choipa ndi zabwino chimaphatikizapo. Chirichonse chabwino, chifukwa china mwachangu mwakumbukira, koma zolephera ziri pamwamba. Makamaka ngati tilingalira mfundo yakuti maganizo okhudza mbiri yakale imapitirizabe.
® Maubwenzi atsopano sakukutsatirani mwanjira ina. Chinachake ndi cholakwika, ndipo iwe sungakhoze kuchilingalira icho. Zotsatira zake, zobisika pambuyo pazikumbukiro zakale.
® Chisangalalo chokondweretsa. Izi ndizomasuntha ambiri a amai. Mukuganiza kuti iye yekha ndiye wosungulumwa, ndipo pambuyo pake adalibe wina. Iwe wasiya zolemba zakuya pa moyo wake, ndipo palibe yemwe angakhoze kukuchotsani inu. O, ndi zonunkhira bwanji ku mtima wanu. Ndipo pali chikhumbo "chomukondweretsa" iye, chifukwa iye adzakhala wokondwa kwambiri, adzakunyamula iwe mmanja mwake. Mwachiwonekere, anali atazindikira kale kuti wataya, osati kuti ulipo, omwe sakukuyamikirani.
® Mukunyalanyaza kwambiri kukumbukira kwanu. Mwinamwake zinasanduka chizolowezi? N'kutheka kuti nthawi zina mumakumana pamsewu. N'zotheka kuti izi ndi zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuchoka kumbuyo nokha ndikumangokhala kukumbukira kosangalatsa.
® Kodi ndi chikondi chenicheni? Njirayi imachitikanso. Pankhaniyi, mukufunabe kulankhula ndi mtima wakale. Pambuyo pake, mwina sangadziwe kuti mumamva bwino, ndipo simukufuna kubwereranso.
Tsopano tiyeni tiyesere kumvetsetsa izi mwadzidzidzi.
Ngati mwakwatirana ndipo mudakondana ndi chikondi choyambirira, ndipo msonkhano uno wadzaza mtima ndi kukumbukira, muyenera kukumbukira kuti panthawi yomwe munasweka. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti panali chifukwa cha izi. Ngati mwakhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali, komabe mwabalalika, payenera kukhala chifukwa chachikulu. Ndizo zomwe muyenera kuziganizira. Ndiponso, kumbukirani nthawi zovuta za ubale wanu, kuyankhulana kwanu. Pali zotheka kwambiri kuti pamene bukuli lidzayambiranso, zonsezi zikhoza kuyambanso ndipo simungathe kugawana nawo. Maganizo ndi malingaliro amenewa nthawi zambiri amalepheretsa "kubwezeretsa chirichonse."
Yesani kumvetsa nokha. Kodi mumayamikira ukwati wanu, banja lanu, makamaka mwamuna wanu? Kodi mumawafuna?
Kodi mukufuna kuyambiranso mgwirizano wakale? Kodi mungatani ngati mnzanu wakale akusonyeza kuti mumayambiranso? Kuyankha moona mtima funso ili, mumadzithandizira kufotokoza chithunzichi.
Kodi mungachite chiyani ngati muli ndi magulu okhudzana ndi chikondi choyambirira? Choyamba muyenera kuyesa kuzizira. Izi ndi zofunika kuti tipeze bwinobwino mkhalidwewo. Dzifunseni nokha ngati kumverera komwe kumatchedwa "chikondi" kunayaka kwambiri mwa inu? Kapena kodi ndi chilakolako chabe, ludzu la mgwirizano wapamtima, wochokera m'makumbukiro a masiku apitawo? Kapena kodi ndikumenyana koopsa? Ngati izi simunayambe kuziganizira, chifukwa ubongo wanu umakhudzidwa ndi zomwe mukukumana nazo, ndipo malingaliro opandukira mwamuna wanu amamveka pamutu mwanu, dziyeseni nokha ndi zonse zomwe mwachita kale. Zaperekedwa? Chabwino, ndipo zimamva bwanji? Kodi mungathe kukhala ndi izi? Pazochitika zawo, aliyense amasankha yekha.
Koma, ngati mukufunabe kukhala ndi zomwe muli nazo tsopano ndikukonda mwamuna wanu moona mtima, simukusowa kumunyenga, ngakhale mumalingaliro anu. Sungani ndi mphamvu ndi nokha kamodzi kokha ndipo musalole kuti muwononge zakale. Pokhapokha mutapanga chisankho cholimba ichi, mutha kukhala ndi mwayi weniweni wokumbukira chikondi choyambirira. Zidzakhala zophweka, koma ndani adanena kuti moyo ndi chinthu chophweka?