Chifukwa chiyani sitikudziwa kufunsa

Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi otsimikizika: kuseri kwa chinyengo cha kudziimira nthawi zambiri ndikolephera kusamalira okha. "Kuyesera - osati kuzunza, kukana - sikulibe kanthu!" "3a zofuna sizilowa m'mphuno." "Pemphani, ndipo mudzapatsidwa kwa inu." Ndi mawu oterewa osamvetsetsa pamodzi amatilimbikitsa: kufunsa - mwachibadwa, koma sitimakhulupirira ndi kubwereza mau osiyana. Mwachitsanzo, Solzhenitsyn atati: "Musakhulupirire, musawope, musapemphe." Chopempha ndi chikhumbo chodzikweza chovekedwa m'mawu ndi kuyankhula kwa yemwe angathe kuchizindikira. Anthu omwe sadziwa kufunsa, samasamala za zilakolako zawo, amachepetsa mwayi ndipo amakhala ogwidwa ndi kunyada. Ndipo omwe ali osavuta kufunsa musadzilemekeze ndi kudzidalira nokha malinga ndi zomwe anthu ena akuchita ndikuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti asamalire zosowa zawo. Tanthauzo la lingaliro la "kufunsa" lingadziwidwe momwe angagwiritsire ntchito. Wopemphayo, amakakamizidwa kutsegula, kufotokoza zolinga zake ndi zikhumbo zake, adziwonetse yekha. Pempho liri nthawizonse kukhudzana, msonkhano, kufunika kolowera mu chiyanjano. Amaulula malo athu ofooka ndi owopsa, chimanga ndi mabala. Ndipo ndani ali wokonzeka kudzipereka kuti achite zimenezi?

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Timaphunzira kufunsa kuchokera kumasekondi oyambirira a moyo. Momwe amayi ndi anthu ena achikulire amachitira ndi zosowa za mwanayo, kupulumuka kwake kumadalira: thupi ndi maganizo. Dokotala wa ana a ku Britain ndi mwana wa maganizo a maganizo a Donald Vinninoth anafotokoza lingaliro la "mayi wabwino mokwanira" - yemwe amamvetsa ndi kukwaniritsa zosowa za mwanayo kuti adye chakudya, kutentha, kuuma, thupi, ndi maubwenzi, ndipo amathandiza kukhala ndi maganizo osayanjanitsika okhudzana ndi kuthetsa kukwaniritsa zofuna zonse kamodzi. Ndiye mfundo yokondweretsa iyenera kugonjera ku mfundo yeniyeni. Kutanthauziridwa kuchokera ku chinenero cha psychoanalytic, izi zikutanthauza kuti mwana aliyense ali ndi zaka zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi ayenera kuphunzira kuti azindikire cholinga chake chokhutiritsa zosowa zake zonse. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwana atenge zowawa zonsezi: kuti zilakolako zake zakhutira, ndi kuti zosowa zina sizikukhutitsidwa konse. Kapena akhoza, koma osati kwathunthu kapena ayi nthawi yomweyo.

Kusakonda kosayenera kwa zopempha kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi zifukwa ziwiri: ndi makolo angati omwe anakwaniritsa zilakolako za ana ndi momwe anafotokozera malo awo. Kawirikawiri kukana zopempha, ana amaphunzira kuti asafunse china chilichonse. Izi zimawathandiza kupewa zolakwika, monga mkwiyo, mkwiyo, manyazi komanso manyazi. Zomwe zimayambitsa zolephera za makolo: mantha okhudzidwa ndi chuma chochepa. Pachiyambi choyamba, mwanayo amatha kumva ndi kumvetsetsa uthengawo: "Simukuyenera kuti pempho lanu likwaniritsidwe," lachiwiri: "Zopempha zanu ndizopindulitsa kwambiri, musalemetse ena." Ndipo osayesetsa kuti afunse kanthu, munthu wamkulu samatsogoleredwa ndi nzeru zodziwika, koma ndi malingaliro opanda nzeru awa.

Amwini Amagetsi
Kuopa kuti tidzakanidwa pempholi ndi lakuya kwambiri kusiyana ndi mantha oti sitingapeze chilichonse. Kukana kumawoneka ngati kukanidwa, ngati kukana kuti tilipo. Mu malingaliro athu, anthu amatiuza "ayi" osati chifukwa chomveka, koma chifukwa akufuna kuwonetsa okha kukhala apamwamba ndi mphamvu.

The supplicant amakhala pamalo ovuta kwa woperekayo. Titha kukhala ndi maganizo oipa ndipo sitidzakhala ndi zotsatira zake. Kuonjezera apo, timayesetsa kukhala paubwenzi ndi wogonjetsa. Sitifuna kumverera kapena kuwonetsa zofooka zathu, zikuwoneka kuti kuti pempholi limatiyika pamalo odalirika. Osadzizindikira mopambanitsa chofooka ichi - m'maganizo athu ndi chachikulu komanso chofunika kuposa momwe zilili.

Kukhoza kufunsa ndi luso lodziyika mu chiyanjano chimene sichikhoza kulamulidwa. Polimbana ndi vutoli, musawope chifukwa chokayikira. Kufunsa ndiko kulola kukhala wodzidalira, kuzindikira kufunika kwa wina, kuzipereka zakezo. Nthawi zonse pewani zochitika zomwe mumadalira komanso ngakhale ofooka - zili ngati kuyesera kupuma popanda kupuma.

Chikhalidwe cha anthu
Kuzindikira kwathu zopempha kumagwirizana ndi momwe anthu amawachitira. Sitikufuna kuti tigwirizane ndi opemphapempha ndi opemphapempha. Choncho, ndi manyazi, umphaŵi, matenda. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti pempho lililonse ndilo gawo la umphawi, ngati kuti mukufuna kupempha ndipo mwamsanga mudzapezeka muli khonde.

"Musapemphe konse kanthu, makamaka omwe ali amphamvu kuposa inu! Adzaperekedwa okha ndipo adzadzipereka okha!" - anati Bulgakovsky Woland. Kwa ambiri, mawu awa adaphunzira popanda kutsutsidwa ndi kusanthuledwa ndi kuikidwa. Ndikosavuta kuti tisakhale ndi zovuta pamene tikupempha, koma kukhala ndi kuyembekezera amphamvu a dzikoli kuti akwaniritse zikhumbo zathu. Ichi ndi lingaliro la mwana wakhanda yemwe amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mphamvu zake zonse ndipo amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi zilakolako zake zomwe zimakwaniritsidwa pa zofunikira. Munthu wamkulu amadziwa kuti anthu omwe ali pafupi naye alibe mphamvu za telepathikiti kuti azindikire chikhumbocho, ayenera kuti atchulidwe, kapena kuti, atasankhidwa.

Kulephera kufunsa ndi mbali ya amuna. Mwachikhalidwe, amakhulupirira kuti munthu ayenera kuitanitsa chithandizo chochepa, kuti asawononge chithunzi cha wamphamvu ndi chidaliro. Ndipo kwa mkazi mosiyana, ndi njira yosonyezera kutetezeka, chiopsezo.

Makhalidwe angathenso kutsogolo kuchokera kumbali. Osati "mogwirizana", koma "otsutsana" ndi anthu osagwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, mtsikana angasankhe kuti: "Sindingamufunse chilichonse: Ndilibe wina aliyense." Pachifukwa ichi, munthuyo adakalibe wodalirika ndi zochitikazo, koma ndi chizindikiro chosiyana.

Perekani chirichonse
Kulephera kufunsa kungaphatikizidwe ndi mantha a kubwezera chifukwa cha thandizo. Pokhala opanda chidziwitso chonse, lingaliro laikidwa kuti ndizosatheka kuti "mutenge" nokha, tsiku lina kudzakhala koyenera "kupereka". Lingaliro siloipa, koma lowopsya, chifukwa silidziwika pasadakhale kuchuluka kwa "kupereka". Kumverera kwa chitonthozo cha maganizo, kulamulira pa vuto, kumatayika. Tikamapempha chinachake, timaoneka kuti tipatsa wina ufulu wopempha thandizo kwa ife. Tikuopa kuti ntchito yowonjezera idzakhala yovuta komanso yotsika mtengo, ndipo sitidzakhala ndi ufulu wokana.

Lingaliro la kubwezera kwapafupi kwa thandizo lingakhazikitsidwe m'mbiri ya banja. Ngati pangakhale zochitika m "banja mwathu pamene pempho la mankhwala likubweretsa zotsatira zoipa kapena zopweteka, tikhoza kukambirana za banja. Pankhaniyi, tikhoza kudzifotokozera tokha ndi ena kuti ndife osafuna kufunsa, koma tidzatha kuchita zomwe tikuchita potsutsa chikhulupiriro cholakwika: "Ngati mupempha, mudzalipira."

Komabe zirizonse zomwe zimapangitsa kuti tisafune kufunsa, ndibwino kuti tidziwe. Choyamba, kuti muphunzire kudziyang'anira bwino.