Chikondi sichikhalitsa kwamuyaya. Pambuyo pa chaka, zaka zitatu, zisanu ndi zitatu, timapeza kuti malingaliro adatha, chilakolako chachoka, ndipo moyo wokhudzana nawo umakhala wochuluka ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo wasiya kusangalatsa mtima. Kodi mungabwerere bwanji kumverera kwa wokondedwa amene tinasankha kumanga tsogolo lathu? Ndipo kodi izi ndizotheka? "Mwinamwake!" Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi otsimikiza. Kuwonjezera apo, malingaliro atsopano atsopano ndi abwino kwambiri komanso okongola kusiyana ndi omwe kale.
Nthawi zolekanitsa sizidzadutsa awiri amodzi. Timaganiza: mwinamwake, ndani ali pafupi ndi ife, munthu wangozizira? Timakhumudwa ndi maubwenzi opanda pake, zochita za mwamuna wake zimakhumudwitsa, ndipo zizoloŵezi zake zimawoneka zopanda pake. Maganizo oterewa amawonekera m'magulu awiri, ndipo samawuka limodzi, ngakhale kawiri pa moyo wokhudzana. Ndipo, mwatsoka, ndipo mwinamwake, ndipo mwachisangalalo, kupatukana mu izi sizingakuthandizeni. Muyenera kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza kuti maganizo opsinjika mtima adutsa. Ndi gawo lachibadwa komanso labwino la chitukuko.
Chifundo ndi kusayanjanitsika, chikondi ndi kukwiya zimadzaza ubale uliwonse - banja, abwenzi, antchito. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti izi ndi lamulo la chirengedwe. Chikondi ndi chamoyo chamoyo, chimene, tsiku ndi tsiku, chimadza ndi mphamvu zatsopano, zimagwa. Koma chotsatira chiri chonse chikondi cha mnzanu wokhazikika chimatipatsa ife kukhudzika kwakukulu. Ndikhulupirire, tsiku lina mudzapeza mwadzidzidzi kuti ndinu wabwino komanso wokondweretsa ndi mnzanu. Ndipo iye ali kwa inu - chilengedwe chonse, wabwino kwambiri, wapafupi ndi wokondedwa. Koma kumvetsetsa machitidwe achiyanjano sikukutanthauza kuyika manja. Nchifukwa chiyani mukudikirira mpaka banja lanu lidzamangidwenso palokha, ngati mungathe kutenga chilichonse m'manja mwanu? Tenga vuto, chifukwa pobwezera kumverera kwa wokondedwa wanu, mukhoza kulimbikitsa banja. Khulupirirani nokha ndi mnzanuyo - tengani sitepe yoyamba.
Chinthu choyamba chochita ndi kufufuza zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi chizoloŵezi cha banja. Ganizilani, ndizomwe zimakuvutitsani? Mwina mwatopa kudya chakudya nthawi yomweyo tsiku lililonse ndi mbatata yosasunthika ngati mbali yodyera, kugonana pabedi limodzi kapena kumvetsera m'mawa moni moni wa mwamuna wake "Weld coffee, baby"? Patapita nthawi, timapeza mndandanda wa miyambo ing'onoing'ono yomwe timachita pamakina. Kawirikawiri zimakulepheretsani kuona moyo wanu ndi mnzako m'njira yatsopano. Ngati vutoli limangokhala pazinthu zazing'onozi, uwauzeni za mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndikuzisintha pamodzi. Chitani chilolezo, pita kudya mu cafe, m'malo mwa TV ndi masewera. M'mawu ake, pekani zizoloŵezi zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuwona momwe mumamvera.
Kawirikawiri timadandaula kuti "chinachake chikusowa" kwa ife, koma ndife aulesi kukhala pansi ndikumvetsa zomwe ziri. Khalani womasuka kuti muvomereze moona mtima kwa mwamuna wanu kuti mumasowa masiku okondana pansi pa mwezi, kupsompsona kwa nthawi yayitali musanagone ndi mphatso zazing'ono koma za mtengo wapatali pamtima. Ndipotu, kuchokera ku zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimatizungulira pa moyo wathu wa tsiku ndi tsiku, kumverera kwathu kwa wokondedwayo kumadalira makamaka.
Mwa njira, pakufalikira kwa malingaliro, zizoloŵezi sizowonongeka nthawi zonse. Mwinamwake mulibe zachilendo zokwanira? Mwachitsanzo, ndinali ndi nkhawa kwambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana, zomwe zinakhala zopanda pake. Ine ndimaganiza kuti ndi mapeto ndipo chilakolako sichingakhoze kubwerera. Ndinaganiza kuti ndiyese kuyesanso kutentha kwapita, ndipo ngati sindinapambane, ndiye nthawi yoti ndigawane. Ndipo ndinamuuza mwamuna wanga kuti "apange" chipinda cha hotelo ... Sitinkachita izi kale. Sindidzasokoneza, ulendo umodzi ku hotelo sunasinthe ukwati wathu kukhala nthano. Koma izi zinkakhala zolimbikitsa kukonza zolakwika zomwe tinkafunikira kwambiri. Ziribe kanthu kuti mumakhala zaka zingati pamodzi, onetsetsani kuti mupitirize kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano - mbale zatsopano, zosavuta, masewera ndi zosangalatsa. Pamapeto pake, sintha tsitsi lanu ndikugula mipando yatsopano. Gawo lachizolowezi lachilendo limathandiza kwambiri kuti maganizo asamakhumudwitse komanso kuti asakhumudwe. Ndipo musayime pa zomwe zapindula. Pambuyo pa zonse, moyo wanu ukupitirira, ndipo pali zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa kuzungulira!
Nthawi zina, timachoka kwa wina ndi mzake, chifukwa tilibe kanthu kena kalikonse koma kunyumba. Tili ndi ntchito zosiyanasiyana, zosangalatsa komanso abwenzi ndi amuna anga. Ngati simungapeze zofuna zofanana, ndiye kuti mukufunika kuzipanga. Zomwezo ndi zomwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza. Mungathe kujowina anthu awiri mu studio yovina kapena phukusi losambira, kugula kamera komanso phunzirani kutenga zithunzi zamaluso, kuwerenga mabuku omwewo ndikukambirana za chiwembu ndi malo a wolemba. Ziribe kanthu kaya ndi ntchito iti imene mumasankha, ngati ikukukondani inu nonse. Pomaliza, mutakhala kale kale.
Ngati muli wovuta, yesetsani kudzipangira nokha vuto lanu kapena kukhazikitsa cholinga chovuta. Sizomwe akunena kuti mavuto ophatikizana amasonkhana. Izi zingakhale, mwachitsanzo, ulendo wopita ku Thailand. Lembani zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukwaniritse cholinga ichi. Mwachitsanzo, kupeza ndalama zambiri, kupeza pasipoti, kupeza visa ku ambassy, kugula suti ndi kanema kanema, kusonkhanitsa sutikesi ndikulemba mndandanda wa maulendo oyendetsa. Palimodzi, tavomerezani motsatira ndondomeko ya masitepe ndikudziwitsanso maudindo a maphwando. Mudzawona: pokhala atatsiriza mapeto ndikugonjetsa zopinga zonse, simudzakhalanso pafupi ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu, koma mudzakhalanso ndi kunyada mwa awiri anu! Kubwereranso kwa wokondedwa wanu, mudzabwezanso mapiko anu ndipo mudzatha kusangalala ndi moyo mokwanira.
Ndipotu, n'zosavuta kulandira ndi kuvomereza kuti mwamuna wanu salinso ndi maganizo omwe mumakhala nawo pa nthawi yachisangalalo. Inde! Tsopano muli ndi zifukwa zazikulu zovutikira. Chikondi chotayika chikhoza kukumbukiridwa pa mpata uliwonse, ndikudzichitira chifundo. Komabe, izi sizothandiza komanso zowononga. Choyamba, muyenera kuzindikira kuti chilakolako choyaka moto sichitha kukhala chamuyaya. Ndipo ndi zabwino! Moyo wanga wonse sindingathe kugona ndikudya chifukwa cha chikondi. Monga momwe zilili ndi banal, koma kukula kwa zilakolako kumalowetsedwanso ndi malingaliro ambiri ofanana. Kuwonjezera apo, yesani kudziyankha nokha ku funso limodzi: kodi mungaganizire moyo wanu wopanda mwamuna wanu? Zoonadi! Kwenikweni kudandaula kwa anzanu-amzanga - mmodzi, ndi kumawoneka kuti akusungulumwa kwenikweni ndi nkhani ina. Ndipo chifukwa ngati yankho lanu liri "NO" - ndiye kuti akumvererabe akadali moyo. Yesetsani kukumbukira zomwe makamaka mwamuna wanu anakonda kuyambira pachiyambi. Kodi wasinthadi kwambiri? Kodi palibenso china chilichonse cha munthu ameneyo? Yesetsani kukumbukira malingaliro anu. Lembani izi mozama ndikuyesera kuyang'ana mwamuna ndi okonda - ndi maso.