Koma komabe pali kumverera kwabwino, kumverera kwa chikondi, komwe kuli ndi malamulo ake, nthawizina mofanana ndi malamulo a chikondi, nthawizina amasiyana nawo. Kawirikawiri, chiyambi cha chikondi chachikulu ndi choyera ndi chikondi, chomwe chimamera ngati mtengo wolimba kuchokera ku mbewu yaing'ono.
Maganizo awiriwa nthawi zambiri amakhala osokonezeka, choncho tiyeni tione chomwe chikondi chenicheni ndi kudzipereka. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, sitidzayankhula zomwe ziri zabwino kapena zoipa. Si ntchito yathu kuyerekeza mfundo izi. Timayesera kuti tizimvetsetsa, komanso ndi zovuta zawo.
Kotero, tiyeni tiyese kupeza chomwe chikondi chenicheni chiri. Mlingaliro langa, choyamba ndi mgwirizano, kuwona mtima ndi kumvetsetsa, tidzasanthula mbali izi pansipa, mwatsatanetsatane.
Chiyanjano - ichi ndi chimodzi mwa maziko a chikondi chenicheni, chifukwa momwe sitingathe kupotoza, ngakhale mgwirizano wosagwirizana kwambiri, umene umatchedwa "ayezi ndi moto," amamangidwabe mogwirizana. Inde, nthawi zina mgwirizanowu ndi wovuta komanso wosamvetsetseka kwa ena, koma chofunikira kwambiri ndikumveka kwa wokonda, mwinamwake sipadzakhala chikondi popanda icho. Ndipo nthawi zina maanja okongola kwambiri omwe sagwirizana bwino sangathe kukhala pamodzi, chifukwa palibe mgwirizano mu ubale wawo wokongola.
Kuona ndi mwala wina wapangodya pa maziko a chikondi. Popanda izo, chikondi sichimangidwanso, ndipo samakhulupirira wina amene amanena kuti popanda mabodza palibe mgwirizano weniweni, weni weniwo umamangidwa pa choonadi. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndikofunikira kudula chiberekero cha uterine choonadi, nthawi zina ndikofunikira kuti muzitha kuyendetsa ngodya ndikuchita zinthu mosavuta, komabe musaname. Ndipotu, zili ngati kachilombo koyamba, zikuwoneka kuti ndizochepa komanso zosavuta kuzilamulira, koma zimamangiriza wina ndi mzake ndipo tsopano nyanja ya chikondi imadetsedwa ndi mafuta aakulu a mabodza.
Kumvetsetsa kumodzi ndi khalidwe lofunika kwambiri m'chikondi. Pambuyo pake, popanda izo, mudzakhumudwa nthawi zonse pa malo otetezeka ndikudzidzidzimutsa ma cones ambiri. Ndi chikondi chanu muyenera kulankhula "chinenero chimodzi", ndipo mwina zidzakhala ngati nsanja ya Babel, lingalirolo ndilobwino, koma chifukwa chosowa kumvetsetsa palibe chomwe chinachitika. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, payenera kukhala chinsinsi mwa mwamuna wanu, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo ziyenera kukhala zosangalatsa, kuti musatopa ndi kumangoganizira za moyo wanu tsiku ndi tsiku.
Tsopano ndi nthawi yolankhula za kugwera m'chikondi ndikuyesera kuzindikira chomwe chikondi chenicheni chiri. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi zomwe timanena, chikondi ndi kugwera m'chikondi, siziri zofanana, ngakhale kuti kumverera kuli kofanana. Koma chikondi chiri ngati mphepo yamkuntho yofiira, mvula yowala ya bowa. Chikondi, ndi zambiri, ndi mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Koma izi sizikutanthawuza kuti kuchokera mu chikondi ndikofunikira kuchotsa ndikuwona kuti ndikumverera kochepa ndi kosafunika, komwe kuli kosavuta kuwoloka. Pambuyo pake, pafupifupi nthawi zonse, chikondi chimakula chifukwa cha chikondi (monga tazitchula kale).
Kuchokera pamwamba pazimenezi, zikutanthauza kuti chikondi chiyenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe ofanana ndi chikondi, koma chilinso ndi zingapo, zenizeni. Makhalidwe amenewa ndi otetezeka, komanso kukondana kwamtundu wa wokondedwa. Tiyeni tiwaganizire mwatsatanetsatane.
Zosangalatsa za ubalewu, zikuwoneka kwa ine, ndipo zikuwonekera kwa aliyense, kawirikawiri pamene ubale wabwino umayamba ndi thukuta ndi ululu. Ndipo ndithudi kugonana kumene kulibiretu chiyembekezo kwa zabwino, sikudzapindulitsa kanthu. Kuchokera pa izi zikutsatila kuti chikondi, choyamba, ndichibadwa m'kuunika kwa dziko lapansi, ndiko kuti, kuwonetsa dziko lapansi mu pinki! Chikondi chimakula kuchokera muzu womwewo, chifukwa timadziwa kuti aliyense ali ndi zofooka zake, koma panthawi yomwe timakondana sitikuwazindikira. Ngati, komabe, kumverera kumakhala m'chikondi, tazindikira kale, koma tikhoza kuchipirira kapena kuchikonza.
Kuchokera pazinthu zonse zomwe zanenedwa, zikutanthauza kuti kumverera kwa chikondi chenicheni ndi chikondi chenicheni ndi chimodzimodzi, komabe sizomwezo. Pambuyo pake, chikondi si chikondi, ndipo chikondi chonse sichitha kukhala chikondi chenicheni!