Asayansi sanaleke kupanga malingaliro osiyanasiyana pa kubadwa kwa mapasa. Kwa chiphunzitso cha majini, mawatsopano atsopano amawonjezedwa tsiku ndi tsiku. Zimakhulupirira kuti zaka, zakudya komanso kukula kwa mayi wamtsogolo zimakhudza kubadwa kwa mapasa. N'zochititsa chidwi kuti ubale pakati pa mapasa ukhoza kubwereranso m'mimba, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti njira yomwe amaphunzitsira imayenera kuchitidwa nthawi yabwino. Kodi khalidwe la mapasa amene anakulira mu fomu limodzi la banja? Ndipo mungatani kuti izi zitheke?
Mapasa nthawi zonse ankaonedwa kuti ndi ana osadziwika. Chidziwikiritso chawo chimakhala kuti kuyambira kubadwa kwawo ubale weniweni umakhala pakati pawo. Tsiku lirilonse, ndikudziyang'ana ndekha mchimwene kapena mlongo, ngati galasilo, osapatukana kwa mphindi, ana amayamba kudzimva okha ngati theka la lonse. Iwo amakula palimodzi, kusewera, kuphunzira kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, kuchita mofanana, ngakhale chidziwitso ndikumverera ngati. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti nthawi zina mapasa amatha kuona maloto omwewo komanso ngakhale kuwerenga.
Koma, zimachitika kuti makolo, okondwa ndi lingaliro la kuyandikana kotere kwa ana, amapereka mapasa kwa iwo okha. Pambuyo pake, banja losangalatsa silidzatopa - lidzabwera ndi ntchito inayake. Izi ziri choncho, komabe, kuti ana aphunzire kusamalirana bwino - kuyamikira kuthandizira, kumvetsetsa, chikondi - ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo osadalira wina ndi mzake, amafunikira thandizo ndi chisamaliro cha makolo awo. Inde, kupatula nthawi muzinthu zopanda malire zapakhomo pa maphunziro - ntchitoyo si yosavuta. Ndipo komabe m'pofunika kuyesa.
Chifukwa payekha
Nthawi zina makolo sangathe kuganiza kuti mapasa omwe anakulira m'banja limodzi amadalira wina ndi mzake.
Elena, mayi wa ana aamuna awiriwo, anati: "Ndinapita kukagwira ntchito kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi Andrew ndi Stepan akubwera. - Zinali zofunikira kupeza ndalama, ndipo ndinasamalira ana onse kwa namwino. Zinkawoneka kuti iye anapirira bwino ndi maphunziro a ana anga: nthawi zambiri madzulo anyamatawo ankandidzudzula chifukwa cha zomwe adachita. Iwo ankasonyeza zojambula, kuwerenga, kuwuza nkhani zamatsenga, kuimba nyimbo. Mwamwayi, sindinaganizire zomwe Andrei akuwerenga ndikundiuza, koma akuganiza Stepka. Tidasankha kusanalembera kusukulu kuti tilembere maphunzirowa, Andrei sanamvetsepo kalatayo, ndipo Stepan amadziwa kuwonjezera zilembo kuchokera m'makalata omwe Andryushka amamuuza momveka bwino. Ndinkafunika kupeza ngongole yatsopano, yomwe tsopano inkagwira ntchito limodzi ndi mphasa iliyonse malinga ndi zosoŵa zake. " Akatswiri amavomereza kuti kufalitsa koteroko sikunali kozoloŵera m'mawiri awiri. Chimene chimagwira ntchito bwino kwa wina sikuti chimakhala nacho china, chifukwa ana nthawi zonse amatha kuthandizana. Zotsatira zake, ziwirizi zimasinthidwa bwino pamene mapasa ali palimodzi, koma aliyense wa iwo akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto aakulu padera. Pofuna kupewa izi, kuyambira ali mwana, yesetsani kuphunzitsa m'mapasa onse chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi khalidwe lawo. Khalani nokha, osati umodzi mwa awiriwo.
Ubale umodzi.
Amapasa kawirikawiri sakonda kutenga alendo kuti azitha kukhala osangalatsa komanso osasangalatsa. Komabe, pokhala wamkulu, mapasa adzayenera kulankhula ndi anthu osiyanasiyana, ndi zofunikira za kuyankhulana uku - kuthekera kokhala ndi abwenzi, kufunafuna kuyanjana ndi kuthetsa chidziwitso - ayenera kuphunzitsidwa mwamsanga. Kuphatikizanso, kuyankhulana ndi anzanu kumathandiza kwambiri kuti pakhale chitsimikizo chokwanira. Ndipotu, mapasa onsewa ayenera kulemekezedwa osati m "mzake" wa "magazi," komanso mzanga wokhawokha kapena masewera. Choncho, mwamsanga mwamsanga, mpaka mapasa atsekedwa m'magulu a wina ndi mnzake, yesetsani kuwafotokozera ana ena. Limbikitsani zoyesayesa za aliyense kuti apange mabwenzi kapena kuitanira abwenzi kuti aitane mmodzi wa mapasawo kukawachezera. Ndipo mulole mwana winayo amathera usiku wonse pamodzi ndi inu.
Kusagwirizana ndi abale
Ngakhale chigwirizanocho, nthawi zambiri pamakhala mpikisano pakati pa mapasa.
"Anya ndi Vika, kawirikawiri amakhala osangalatsa komanso omvera, mwadzidzidzi anayamba kukonzekera nkhondo zenizeni," Svetlana, mayi wa ana aakazi a zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, akuti: "Tingoti tipewe, kukangana kumabuka mwamsanga." Amalumbira chifukwa cha kanthu kakang'ono: Ndani angapite pawindo pawindo, amene angapeze chidutswa cha keke ndi chidutswa cha lalanje, amene ali pambali pa agogo aakazi. Ndipo atangopanga chinyengo, akuganiza kuti ndi ndani mwa iwo amene anali ndi yamatcheri ambiri pamapuloni awo. Ine ndikuwopa chabe khalidwe lawo! Sindikudziwa momwe angawayanjanitsire. "
Chifukwa chofala kwambiri cha mikangano imeneyi ndi mpikisano wa zaka zambiri ndi nsanje. Monga lamulo, mapasa amatha kudziwa kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali wabwino komanso wamkulu. Koma chidani chidzachepa pang'onopang'ono, pamene anawo potsiriza adzagawana maudindo. Mmodzi wa mapasawo adzatenga malo a mtsogoleri, winayo - kapoloyo. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti "kupatukana kwa nsanamira" monga ma mapasa amene anakulira m'banja lomwelo amapezeka 80%. Kawirikawiri izi zimagwirizana ndi malingaliro a mapasa awiri, ndipo sizitsogolera kuthetsa makhalidwe ena ofunikira kapena kupititsa patsogolo umunthu wa mmodzi wa iwo.
Chabwino, pamene ana ali pankhondo - khala ndi chipiriro. Musamamvetsetse nkhondo zamasiku ndi tsiku pakati pawo ndipo musasokoneze popanda chifukwa chabwino. Ndipo, ndithudi, musaiwale kukumbutsani anawo mwayi waukulu kukhala ndi bwenzi, munthu amene akhala ndi inu kuyambira kubadwa, amakukondani ndikukumvetsetsani ngati palibe wina.
Mbali za maphunziro awiri.
Pali njira imodzi yokha yophunzirira za mavuto kapena zofuna za mwana - kulankhula naye. Onetsetsani mapasa onse (osati kwa onse!).
Amapasa amafunikira awoawo, okhawo ali a zinthu. Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi malo ake omwe mnyumba, zinthu zawo (chophimba, tebulo, mpando, etc.), zovala zawo. Ndipo, ndithudi, bokosi lake ndi zidole ndi katundu wake, zomwe sangakhale nazo ndi mnzako.
Thandizani ana kumanga chithunzi chodziimira okha. Aliyense adzikumbukire, malingaliro ake, maloto awo. Kuti achite izi, akhoza kupatulidwa kwa kanthawi: mwachitsanzo, ndi mmodzi wa iwo amapita kumaseŵera, ndi wina - ku mpira machesi. Mmodzi amachoka kumapeto kwa sabata kwa agogo anga, ndipo wina amakhala kunyumba. Mukhoza kupereka kuti muwawerengere mabuku osiyanasiyana, ndiyeno kambiranani zomwe aliyense akuganiza zokhudza nkhaniyi. Ndipo, ndithudi, pokambirana ndi ana, yesetsani kuwaphunzitsa pang'onopang'ono kuganiza kuti si nthawi zonse nthawi yomwe m'bale wanu ali pafupi.
Gemini, mosiyana ndi abale ndi alongo okhaokha, akhoza komanso ayenera kuyerekezana. Koma osati cholinga chokonzerana wina ndi mzake, koma kuti apitirize kutsindika za umunthu wake. Mwachitsanzo, nenani: "Masha amavomereza bwino, koma Vika amaimba bwino kwambiri."
Itanani maina onsewa ndi dzina, osati "ana" okha. Ngati mukufuna chinachake kufunsa ana, perekani ntchito zawo, zomwe aliyense angamve kuti ali ndi udindo wake ndipo angakuuzeni kuti: "Ndinachita" - osati: "Tinatero." Mwachitsanzo, lolani mmodzi wa anawo atsike pansi, ndipo wina achotseni zisudzo (ndipo osati pamodzi adzachita chinthu chimodzi poyamba, ndiyeno).
CHITSANZO CHA OPENDA:
Anna CHELNOKOVA, mphunzitsi
Ngati mphamvu za ana ndi khalidwe lawo ndi zofanana, ndipo nthawi yomweyo makolo a msinkhu wawo amayamba kukhala ndi ufulu wodziimira komanso amodzi mwa mapasa, ndiye kuti sipadzakhala cholakwika ndi kuti ana adziphunzira limodzi: poyamba mu sukulu, kenako kusukulu. Kungokambirana ndi aphunzitsi kuti apitirizebe kulekanitsa ana. Inde, ana sayenera kukhala pa desiki, kuchita ntchito imodzi yokha komanso yofanana pazochitika. Koma ngati mapasa akudalira kwambiri wina ndi mzake kapena mmodzi wa anawo ndi mtsogoleri wowonekera, ndipo winayo ndi wochepa kwambiri kwa iye, ndizomveka kuganiza za kusiyana. Izi zidzakhala zothandiza kwa mtsogoleri ndi wingman. Mwanayo- "pansi" adzakhala wodziimira yekha (pambuyo pake, munthu wapamwamba ali kutali, palibe yemwe angamuyembekezere, tiyenera kuchita yekha). Mtsogoleri wa ana amasiya kuumiriza mlongo wake kapena m'bale wake, phunzirani kukhala wololera ena (sikosavuta kuwatsogolera ena ngati mapasa ake). Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, ziyenera kunyalidwa m'maganizo kuti kugawanika kwa mapasa kungakhale kovuta kwa iwo ndipo kumakhudza kwambiri kukula kwa mwanayo. Choncho, musalekanitse ana kwa nthawi yaitali. Maola angapo patsiku kwa ana oyambirira sukulu ndi theka la tsiku kwa ana a sukulu ndikwanira kuti mapasawo azidzizindikiritsa okha komanso akhale ndi mwayi wolankhulana.