"Siyani kugunda kolala. Anthu akuyang'ana kale. Kodi mukufuna kuti aliyense akusekerereni kapena kuti azichita nsanje kuti anditenge nsanje? "- Nthawi ina, amayi a Slava, yemwe ali ndi zaka zisanu, amalanga. "Sindikufuna," akugwedeza mutu wake, "osati mwachindunji, sindikumkhudza konse, iye mwiniwake amalowa pakamwa panga." Amayi amakhumudwa kwambiri, koma ... mwanayo akulondola. Chilichonse chimachitika popanda chifuniro chake. Ichi ndicho kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kulakalaka ndi chizolowezi choipa. Ngati mwana sakuchotsa zidole zake, kapena kuti, amakonda kuti zonse zimasungidwa mumabokosi, ndi chizoloŵezi (pamene munthu angathe kuchita mosiyana, koma amasankha mwanjira imeneyo). Ndipo ngati akung'amba misomali yake, akuwombera tsitsi lake, amawombera mano kapena amagogoda mano, amathira khungu mmanja mwake kapena m'mapazi, amaluma milomo yake, ndipo amachita nthawi zambiri - izi zimakhala zovuta. Amanena mokwanira mawuwo ngakhale iye mwini amamvetsa kuti sikoyenera kuti achite, komabe amachitanso ndipo samayendetsa nthawi yomwe ayamba. Zochita zozizwitsa (compulsions) zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri. Lena ali ndi zaka zisanu sakanatha kukana ngati adawona chomera pafupi: amatenga chidutswa cha pepala, kuchiyika m'thumba mwake, ndipo, popanda kutulutsa manja ake, amathyola muzipinda zing'onozing'ono. Zotsutsa, zikhulupiriro kuti zomera ziyenera kukondedwa ndi kutetezedwa, sizinagwire ntchito. Kenaka agogo anga adaganiza kuti asinthe machitidwe ake, ndikuwonanso kachidutswa kakang'ono kameneka, adafuula ndi mantha: "Kodi inu-munagwetsa maluwa awa? Koma ndi owopsa, ndipo tsopano mungadwale! Mitengo yambiri imakhala yathanzi kwa thanzi! ". Njirayi inagwira ntchito - Lena ankachita mantha komanso adafuula. Anasiya kukolola maluwa, koma adayamba kumatula mphuno yake. Chinthu chapadera cha obsessions ndi mantha amanjenje. Zimayendetsa magalimoto - zogwirizana ndi kupanikizika kosavomerezeka kwa minofu ya nkhope, miyendo (kubwinya, masaya, kutaya, kupweteka) ndi mawu (kukopa, kupopera, kupopera). Tiki amatha kupezeka, ngati mwanayo akuchita zinthu zosangalatsa, zochititsa chidwi, ndikuyambiranso mwanayo atakhala wotopetsa kapena panthawi ya zovuta zinazake. Mankhwalawa ndi osiyana ndi matenda osokoneza bongo.
Zonsezi zinayamba bwanji?
Kawirikawiri makolo sangayankhe funso ili. Palibe nkhawa yooneka. Panali mavuto a m'banja - chaka chonse chinadutsa. Koma zochitika zakale ndi zooneka ngati zamoyo zitha kukhala zifukwa za obsessions. Nthawi zambiri ana sakhala ndi mwayi wothetsera nkhawa, akuluakulu amayamba kuganiza kuti: "Kamodzi kakang'ono sichimvetsa chilichonse. Ndipo osasamala za kubwezeretsa mtendere wa m'maganizo. "Tinasudzulana kwambiri. Anayamba kutsutsidwa, kutsutsana, kuchoka panyumba komanso ngakhale kuzunzidwa. Ndipo ife tinaganiza: msiyeni mwanayo akhale ndi agogo ake mpaka ife tidziwone izo. Ananyamuka kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Kuchokera nthawi imeneyo, ndimamva kuti chinachake chimakhala pakhosi pake, nthawi zambiri amapanga phokoso ngati likugwedezeka. Kafukufukuyu wasonyeza kuti zonse zilipo, koma izi zikumveka. " Ana amamvera kwambiri maganizo a akulu komanso zomwe zimachitika m'banja. Ngakhale makolo sakukangana nkomwe ("Pita, tikambirane"), anawo akuganizabe kuti chinachake chalakwika. Nkhawa za mwana wamng'ono pa nkhaniyi ndi zosayerekezeka. Kwa iye, dziko lapansi likugwera pamene iye akumana ndi kusintha kosasintha. Inde, ngati panthawi ino kumulandira m'manja mwake, kumukakamiza, kuyankhula ndi kutsimikiza kuti zonse zidzakhala zabwino, ndiye kuti mavuto sangakhale ovuta kupirira. Koma ndi nthawi ino kuti akuluakulu sali kwenikweni kwa ana. Ndiyeno mwanayo akhoza kukhala ndi tchi - monga chilakolako chofuna kutchera khutu ndikusowa kulankhula. Amatha kupitako mwamsanga nthawi yomwe zinthu zili bwino, koma akhoza kukhala zaka zambiri. "Yambani" zokhumudwitsa sizingachitike kokha m'banja. Mphunzitsi wamaphunziro a sukulu yapamwamba kwambiri, matenda aakulu, chipsinjo, mikhalidwe yomwe inkawopsyeza mumsewu, pamisonkhano yayikulu ya anthu ochita zosangalatsa. "Ndili mwana, ndinkangokhalira kukwera. Ndimakumbukira, ndinali ndi mantha kwambiri - makamaka amayi anga sanalole munthu kulowa mu elevator. Kwa kanthawi iye anafooka, ndiye anayamba kukanikiza mabatani onse, ndiye-kudumpha. Pa nthawi yomweyi wopitawo anapita. Ndipo kwa nthawi yaitali, ngati chinachake chandichititsa mantha m'mikhalidwe yovuta, ndinalumphira mwakachetechete kapena kuima pamtunda, ngakhale kusukulu. Ndinadziŵa kuti zinali zopusa, koma sindinathe kuzigonjetsa. Mpaka ndikadumpha - sindidzakhalanso chete. " Zovuta zoterezi - monga machitidwe - nthawi zambiri zimachitika patapita zaka pafupifupi 6. Kuchokera ku nkhupakupa iwo amasiyanitsa ndi "chidziwitso" chachikulu, kulungamitsidwa. Koma onsewa ali ndi chifukwa chimodzi - nkhawa yamkati, kupweteka.
Mavuto ena
Monga lamulo, vuto silimangokhala kuchitapo kanthu mopambanitsa. Makolo amadziwa maonekedwe ena osayenera. Mwachitsanzo, mavuto ogona. Mwanayo sangathe kugona kwa nthawi yaitali, amadzuka pakati pa usiku, akhoza kudzuka m'mawa kwambiri, ndipo tsiku lonse amamva kuti ali wolefuka. Ndipo pamodzi ndi iye ndi banja lonse - pambuyo pake, maloto a mwanayo amakhala vuto lalikulu. Vuto lina kwa ana omwe ali ndi vutoli ndi kusintha kwachisokonezo. Whims popanda chifukwa, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa mwa ana oterewa nthawi zambiri komanso amakopera chidwi cha makolo ndi aphunzitsi. Komanso, mantha ndi mantha ambiri. Mwanayo ali wochenjera kwambiri ndi dziko lonse, ngati kuti akudikirira zoipa, iye alibe nthano ayi. Kunja, ana omwe ali ndi obsessions amatha kuoneka ngati athanzi, koma amakhala ozunguzika, samalolera kayendetsedwe ka kayendetsedwe kake, osadziletsa, otopa ndi zochitika zowonongeka. Kawirikawiri zimakhala zomveka komanso zimaganizira bwino.
Gulu la ngozi
Ana ambiri amakhala m'mkhalidwe wofanana. Aliyense amamva uthenga womwewo, aliyense samakumana ndi nthawi zabwino pamoyo wa makolo awo. Koma zovuta sizingakhale zonse. Komanso, ngakhale atakhala ndi vuto lomwelo, pokhala ndi vuto linalake, ana adzachita mwanjira yapadera: wina adzaiwala mu mwezi, ndipo kwa ena padzakhala chisonkhezero cha nthawi zonse ndi zochita zonyansa. Kodi chimakhudza bwanji izi? Choyamba, zizindikiro za khalidwe ndi khalidwe. Mwana yemwe ali ndi mphamvu zochepa zaumanjenje ali ndi chicheperetso chachangu - mwachitsanzo, zimakhudzidwa ndi phokoso, kuwala, mawu omveka. Ana oterewa akupitiliza kukhala osatetezeka. Chachiwiri, umulungu ndi wofunika kwambiri. Pafupifupi nthawi zonse, kholo limodzi limakumbukira kuti iye mwiniyo adakumananso ndi zinthu ngati izi ali mwana, ankangokhalira kuganizira zovuta. Ife, mwa njira imodzi, timalandira makhalidwe a dongosolo la mantha la makolo. Koma makolo amatha kusamutsira mantha awo kwa ana mosadziwa. Mwachitsanzo, amayi, omwe ali ndi nkhawa m'zipinda zochepa, amamangirira dzanja la mwanayo mosazindikira akamalowa. Amagwirana chanza ndi china (komanso osadziŵa), amayang'ana mozungulira pazipata za nyumba mpaka atsegule. Sakuyenera kunena kuti akuwopa - pa msinkhu uliwonse mphutsiyo idzazindikira mwamsanga izi popanda mawu. Chinthu chachitatu pakukula kwa zolakwitsa ndizo zikhalidwe za kulera ndipo, makamaka, zochitika za m'banja. Ndipo mu gulu loopsya, onse osasamala (hypoopeak), ndi omwe makolowo sapereka mpata wopuma mwaokha. Malo ozizira a m'banja, kumene amawoneka kuti akusamala, komabe alibe chikondi chomveka, ndi owopsa. "Inde, sitikweza mawu athu, zomwe zimativuta," akutero makolo, posadziwa kuti izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Kuti timve okondedwa, tifunika kuona chidwi chenicheni. Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumasokoneza, kumapangitsa kuti munthu asamangokhalira kukondana. Ndipo, potsiriza, chinthu chotsiriza (mwa dongosolo, koma osati chofunikira) ndizochitika zolakwika. Ngakhale mwana wamphamvu mwa mtundu wamanjenje akhoza kuvulazidwa chifukwa cha nkhawa yaikulu.
Thandizo
Kawirikawiri makolo omwe amadzimvera mwachindunji amalingalira kuti ndi vuto ndipo amatha kulimbana nawo. Ndipo ichi ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu. Ndikofunika kuganizira za momwe mwanayo alili, osasokoneza zinthu, kuonetsetsa moyo wake. Ngakhale ntchitoyi imayambira ndi kuyendera katswiri wa zamagulu: nthawi zina zochita zowonongeka zingakhale chizindikiro cha matenda, zikhoza kudziwidwa ndi dokotala yekha. Kukhumudwa kwanu, maganizo olakwika adzangowonjezera vutoli. "Inde, ndi angati omwe angakhoze! Nkhondo yoti muyang'ane siyi! "- Gwirani ngati mukufuna kunena chinachake, ndipo ngati mumamva kuti mukukwiyitsa, chokani mu chipinda musayang'ane (musamvetse). Ngati mwana wa msinkhu wotero kuti mwiniwakeyo angathe kuchitapo kanthu, musagwiritse ntchito (manyazi, kutsimikizirani kuti "anthu akuyang'ana"). M'malo mwake - kutsimikiziranso kuti palibe chinthu choipa pa izi, kuti anthu ali ndi mavuto osiyana kwambiri. Izi sizingapangitse mawonetseredwe a zochita zopanda pake, koma, mosiyana, zidzachepetsa. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zina kumangokhalira kulakwitsa (makamaka nkhupakupi), kuopa kuyembekezera ("Ndingayambe bwanji kuchita izi mu sukulu yamoto, pamsewu") ndikusokoneza ndikupanga mafunde atsopano. Mzere wovuta umapangidwa. Chikhalidwe chofunikira kuchiritsa ndikulankhulana ndi mwanayo. Mverani iye mwanjira iliyonse: kusewera masewera pamodzi, kuphatikizapo ntchito zapakhomo, kukoka, kuwerenga, kusewera panja mu nsomba, khalani pafupi wina ndi mzake pamene muwonerera TV. Ndi zophweka, koma kawirikawiri mtundu uwu wa psychotherapy ndi wovuta kwambiri.
Kumbukirani kuti anyamata amakhala oda nkhawa ndipo nthawi zambiri amavutika maganizo (pafupifupi 3) kusiyana ndi atsikana, ngakhale kuti zimawoneka kuti zonse zili zosiyana. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amasonyeza nkhawa zawo, mantha, kulira mobwerezabwereza, ndipo anyamata amakhala obisika kuyambira ali mwana. Choncho anyamatawa amafunikira "chikondi" chonsecho - kuti awatsimikizire kuthetsa tics ndi mphamvu ("Ndiwe mwamuna!") Komabe sizingagwire ntchito. Ntchito zothandiza ndi zapadera. Mwachitsanzo, kujambula pamodzi ndi makolo, ndi ana ena kumalimbikitsa chitukuko cha maluso oyankhulana, kuchepetsa mantha poyankhulana. Kapena zolemba za nthano, pamene mwana akupitiriza nkhaniyo yoyamba ndi inu, kufotokoza maganizo ake mmenemo. Ngati nkhaniyo imakhala yowawa kwambiri, mumamuuza kuti mumakhala bwanji, pomwe, zonse zatha. Zimathandiza masewera ndi magalimoto ambiri pamtundu uliwonse. Ngakhale mutangosewera ndi snowballs kapena kukonzekera nkhondo ndi mapilo, izi zimakhudza kwambiri maganizo - zimathandiza kuthetsa mavuto, zimapangitsa kudzidalira. Masewera enieni - kusambira, masewera, masewera ojambulapo ndi zina zotero - amawonedwa ndi ana m'njira zosiyanasiyana (zimadalira mphunzitsi komanso pamtundu wa katundu), choncho ndizofunikira kusankha. Ndipo, ndithudi, chinthu chachikulu ndi chikhalidwe cha banja. Kukhala ndi chimwemwe chochuluka, kukhudzidwa mtima, kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizana kwabwino kwa anthu mu nyumba, ndibwino kuti mwanayo akhale wathanzi komanso woganiza bwino.