Koma ife tikufuna kuti tiyankhule pang'ono pokha za chinachake lero. Tiye tikambirane za nkhaniyi pamene mwamuna amayesetsa kupewa kuyankhulana ndi mkazi. Poyamba, zochitikazo zingawoneke ngati zopusa komanso zonyansa - tonse ndife akuluakulu, ndipo apa munthu amayesetsa kupewa kucheza ndi anyamata kapena akazi okhaokha. Kodi nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa ntchito zoterozo ndi zomwe munthu amayesera kudziziteteza yekha pakuchita ntchito zoterezi?
Ndipo timayambira ndi zochitika za moyo zomwe zimakhudzana ndi maudindo komanso malo a moyo kwa abambo ndi amai. Osati chaka chimodzi ndi zoposa zana limodzi ife tonse timawona bwino ndikumvetsa kuti munthu ndi wogonjetsa ndi msaki, ndipo mkazi ndi wosunga nyumba ndi nyumba. Koma muyenera kuzindikira kuti ngati zinali ngati zaka 200 zapitazo, tsopano zonse sizikhoza kukhala ngati izi. Ndipotu amayi ambiri amagwira ntchito "yamwamuna," ndipo amuna - "akazi" lero samadabwitanso aliyense. Koma, mwinamwake, izi zimaphimba chinthu chachikulu cha funso lakuti "Ndi chiyani chomwe, ngati munthu amapewa kuyankhulana ndi mkazi?"
Mfundo yakuti mkazi akuyesera m'moyo uno kuti asamangogwira ntchito zapakhomo, khitchini ndi ana, koma amadziwanso kuti kuthekera kwake monga katswiri m'deralo kwakhala kovuta. Ndipo kuti mkazi akufuna kuti akhale wopambana mofanana mu banja ndi mu ntchito, zovuta kwambiri ndi oimira kugonana kolimba. Zingakhale bwino bwanji kuposa ine ngati ndine mwamuna? Mafunso oyambirira amenewa, mwinamwake, kamodzi kamodzi kalowa m'maganizo mwa amuna ambiri. Ndipo mfundo yoti munthu angaphunzire zochitika zapakhomo zimachotsedwa chifukwa chakuti "uwu si ntchito ya munthu"
Kenaka, pamene hafu yaumunthu yamphamvu imayamba kuwona ngozi ya oimira gawo lokongola mwa njira yochepetsera mbiri yawo ndi udindo wawo - ndiye amayamba kupewa kucheza ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kawirikawiri mumakumana ndi amuna omwe amavomereza kugonjetsedwa kwa amayi? Ndi izi apa.
Pamene munthu ayamba kupeĊµa kuyankhulana, ndiye malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, izi zikutanthauza kuti munthuyu, poyamba, amachita zozizwitsa zoyambirira. Pambuyo pake, palibe amene adathetsa umunthu wa kudzipulumutsa.
Koma tikukhala mdziko. Kotero, apa zifukwa ndi zolinga zimasinthidwa pang'ono, mosiyana ndi zinyama. Ndipo amuna ambiri sangathe kuvomereza okha kuti ngati mwamuna awona mkazi wopambana ndi wodalirika pamaso pake, ndiye, monga lamulo, amapewa kuyankhulana naye. Izi zimamuchititsa manyazi komanso kumunyoza, monga wandale wadzilola kuti adziwonetse yekha.
Ndipo akazi, kuphatikizapo kukhala opambana, amakhalanso ataya ukazi wawo . Pambuyo pake, pamene mubwera pamphaka, muyenera kukhala mmbulu umodzi. Apo ayi mutha kuzungulira mimbulu iyi. Choncho, kupindula bwino ndi ntchito, muyenera kudzifunsa funso - koma kodi ndibwino kuti zinthu zonsezi zikhale zopindulitsa pa zomwe ndikuthawa panthawi yomweyo? Pambuyo pake, ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse, popanda chifukwa chomveka, amapewa kuyankhulana nanu - izi ndi chifukwa chake.
Ndipotu, amayi ambiri amasiya ntchito 150% kuchokera ku zolephera zaumwini kapena za banja ndikupeza zomwe akufuna. Kuyankhulana ndi mkazi kuntchito ndi panyumba, monga mkaziyo, kumakhala kosiyana kwambiri. Kuntchito, mkazi, makamaka ngati ali ndi maudindo akuluakulu, amasandulika kukhala "wodwala muketi" ndipo woipa kuposa abwana sangapeze dziko lonse lapansi - ndiwo amuna ambiri omwe amaganiza. Ndipo chitetezo cha pakhomo ndi ulesi mungathe kusunga zachilengedwe ndikumasuka, chifukwa simukusowa kukhala okhwimitsa. Masewera oterewa amakhala ndi amayi ambiri.
Ndipo zomwe zingatheke mukulankhulana ndi mkazi ndi kalembedwe ka khalidwe la mkazi pamene zimasiyana m'banja komanso ntchito. Pambuyo pake, ngakhale kuti hafu yokongola ya anthu ikadali yothandiza kwambiri komanso yokhudzidwa, ambiri mwa iwo sangathe kudzikonzekera okha ku ntchito yogwirira ntchito komanso panyumba amakhalanso ngati ogwira ntchito. Izi, malinga ndi akatswiri, amodzi mwa mavuto akuluakulu a anthu amasiku ano, omwe amakhudza mtundu wamakono ndi maubwenzi ake.
Monga momwe anthu ena amanenera, kulankhulana ndi mkazi yemwe si mkazi yekha koma nthawi yomweyo bwana wanu ndi mtundu wa masewera ndi masewera. Ndipotu, nkofunikira kufotokoza zambiri mwanjira kuti akhutire, ndipo musaiwale kupanga zina, ngakhale zochepa, kuyamika kwa banal.
Pano pali mfundo zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsa mozama chifukwa chake abambo amapewa kuyankhulana ndi amayi. Ndipo ngati chifukwa chachikulu cha ichi ndicho mantha a mkazi wopambana, ndiye kuti ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti chimwemwe sichiyankhidwa ndi ndalama kapena kupambana kwa ntchito. Palinso zambiri zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo ku moyo wathu. Ichi ndi chikondi, achibale, achibale, ndi abwenzi. Mwinamwake mkazi uyu ali wosasangalala kwambiri pamoyo wake moti simungathe kuzilingalira?