Chiphunzitso cha khalidwe.
Fotokozani cholinga. Ndikofunika kudziwa zomwe mukufuna, ngakhale mu trivia tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiyeno mukhoza kusokoneza anthu. Panthawi iyi, muyenera kudziyika nokha zolinga zolondola. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu wakuitanani kuti mupite kukacheza usiku wonse, ndipo simukudziwa momwe mungaperekere nthawi, popeza mukuyenera kukonzekera kukayezetsa, zomwe zidzakhale tsiku lotsatira phwando la usiku. Kapena mawa mukhala ndi chibwenzi choyamba ndi mnyamata wa maloto anu, ndipo mnyamata ndi wofunika kwambiri kuti adzikhulupirire kuti ndiwe wabwino kwambiri.
Kulandira spy.
Chabwino, mukudziwa yemwe muyenera kulankhula naye. Tsopano zatsala kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza munthuyu, ndiye kuti zidzakhala zophweka kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, zofuna ndi zokhumba za mnyamata yemwe angaphunzirepo zimaphunzire kwa anthu omwe amadziwana nawo, peek pa tsamba Vkontakte, LJ kapena ICQ; Zambiri zokhudza kampaniyo, kumene mukudikirira kuyankhulana, kungosonkhanitsa pa intaneti, muyenera kudziwa zambiri za anthu. Ndikofunika kupeza chomwe chimakukondani kwambiri - ndiye kumvetsera kwa munthuyo kudzakhala woona mtima, ndipo izi ndizophatikizapo zazikulu. Aliyense amasangalala kudziwa kuti iye ndi munthu wosangalatsa. Koma zingakhale bwino ngati mukudziwa zofuna za interlocutor osati "dzina".
Kusintha kwa malo.
Inu mukudziwa chimene mukufuna, koma izi si zokwanira, mwina. Dziperekeni nokha pamalo a mnyamata, makolo, mphunzitsi kapena mtsogoleri wa bungwe, kumene mukufuna kupita kuntchito, ndipo yesani kuyankha funso limene akufuna kuchokera kwa inu. Mnyamata akufuna kuwona msungwana woyenera (amangotsala pang'ono kuganiza kuti akuganiza bwanji); makolo - kuti ndinu owona mtima ndi odziimira, kuti zikhale zophweka kulankhula ndi inu; mphunzitsi - sindikufuna kukupatsani inu 5, ngati mukukumbukira nkhaniyi pazinayi ndi zochepa.
Gwiritsani ntchito chithunzicho.
Malonda amanena kuti fano si kanthu, koma nzeru yotchuka imanena mosiyana: amakumana ndi zovala. Ndipo kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito mosavuta anthu, muyenera kukhala nthawi zonse. 80% ya maonekedwe owona za interlocutor omwe timapeza, kuyang'anitsitsa nkhope yake, 20% ya zomwe amapereka zimapereka zovala. Kuwoneka kudzanena za inu pafupifupi chirichonse choyambirira kusiyana ndi kuti mutakhala ndi nthawi yotsegula pakamwa panu. Kuyamba koyamba kumayankhula kamvekedwe ka kulankhulana, china chirichonse chidzaonedwa kuti ndi choyipa - zabwino kapena zoipa. Pa kusankhidwa ndi bwino kupewa zovala za buluu kapena zofiirira - zimadziwika bwino ngati zowonjezera, ngakhale ziri zabwino kwa inu. Pa zokambiranazo yesetsani kuchita popanda kuphatikiza mitundu yowala, zakuya zakuda ndi zochititsa chidwi - izi, ndithudi, zidzakopeka, koma osati kwa inu, koma nokha pamene mukusowa zosiyana.
Kulankhulana kolunjika.
Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "kulembetsa" ("ngati mukufuna", "mwanjira ina", "Ndinganene") - nthawi yomweyo adzadzipereka nokha. Ngakhale kuti mawu akuti "wamkulu", "ndithudi," "atero" adzakhala othandiza kwambiri, chifukwa adzalenga malingaliro abwino. Pewani kusakaniza: "Ndikufuna ....", "Zikuwoneka bwino kwanga ...", "Ndabwera kumapeto ...", "Simudziwa za izo ...." Bwerezerani ndi "Mukufuna ...", "Mudzakhala ndi chidwi chodziwa .... "," Mwinamwake mwamvapo kale izi ... ". Ichi ndi chiwonetsero cha kulemekeza, chomwe chidzakhala chosangalatsa kwa aliyense, motero kudzakhala kosavuta kuwonetsa anthu. Komanso, interlocutor adzayamba kuganiza kuti "wolemba" wa chisankho, chomwe mukufuna kumukakamiza, sichoncho ayi.
Mukhale ndi nthawi mu masekondi 30.
Kafukufuku wa zamasamba asonyeza kuti masekondi 30 ndi kuchuluka kwa owonerera ambiri, kenako amayamba kusokonezedwa ndi zinthu zina. Panthawiyi muyenera kukhala okwanira kunena zomwe mukufuna, chifukwa cha chidwi, kufotokoza lingaliro lililonse ndikuthandizani oyankhulana.
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