Ndani amaganizira za malamulo pamene akumana ndi alendo? Momwe mungakhalire ndi kudzipereka nokha kuti mukhale ndi chidwi? M'nkhani ino tikambirana malamulo oyambirira a zoyankhulana ndi alendo.
Mukakumana ndi alendo, muyenera kuwayitanitsa kuti "inu", mosasamala kanthu kuti ali wamng'ono kapena wamkulu, bwana kapena wogonjera, mkazi kapena mwamuna - pempho la "inu" likulolani kuti mukhale patali pakati panu. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumayanjanirana ndi munthu uyu, kapena chilichonse chimene amakuchotserani, ulemu uyenera kukhala woyamba - ndipo udzakuthandizani kusungunula mtima uliwonse. Mukakumananso, onetsetsani kuti dikirani mpaka mutayambitsidwa. Munthu yemwe ali ndi malamulo a khalidwe labwino, adzakuwonetsani inu kwa mlendo. Khalani okondwa ndi kudzidalira nokha. Pambuyo pa chibwenzi ndibwino kuti musamasunthire ku "inu", zingakhumudwitse kapena mwakhumudwitsa mnzanu watsopano. Yembekezani mpaka mutapatsidwa kuti mutembenuzire ku "inu". Siziyenera kudziŵika mofulumira kuti muyandikire bwino. Inu ndi anzanu atsopano amafunika nthawi yoyamikirana.
Mukamayankhula ndi anthu osadziwa kuyamba mankhwala ndi moni komanso mawu oti "khululukirani", "ndikukhululukireni, khalani okoma mtima". Samalani mawu anu, ayenera kukhala ofunda ndi ochezeka. Onetsetsani kuti mumwetulire. Kwa m'badwo wokalamba, nkofunika kusonyeza ulemu, kaya ndi munthu wodziwika kapena wosadziwika.
Nthawi zina pali zochitika zotero zomwe zimawoneka zosayenera. Kungokambirana kumene kumayambira pakati pa anthu pamzere, mu basi, mu cafe. Pofuna kutaya mau angapo samadziwulula okha, ngati wina ayamba kukuyankhulani - yankhulani. Khalani otseguka, khalani mwachibadwa ndi mwachifundo ndi alendo ndipo chifundo chanu kwa inu chidzabwerera.