Pali ziphunzitso zambiri zomwe zikufotokozera chikhalidwe cha kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mwachitsanzo, chikondi cha amai kwa amai ogonana chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mphamvu ya mahomoni. Ofufuza ena amati pali mgwirizano weniweni pakati pa thupi ndi kugonana. Akatswiri mu psychoanalysis amakhulupirira kuti chifukwa cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kungakhale zochitika kuyambira ali mwana (mwachitsanzo, kugwirizana kwambiri kwa mwana wamkazi kwa mayi), komanso chinthu chosasangalatsa chomwe anapeza pochita ndi amuna. Komabe, nkotheka kuti zonsezi ndizo pamtima wa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Paunyamata, atsikana ambiri amayamba kukonda kugonana. Pambuyo pake, maganizo amenewa nthawi zambiri amatha. Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zambiri amai amawanyengerera, monga lamulo, chifukwa cha maganizo a anthu.
Lingaliro lakuti mu mgwirizano wa azimayi awiri, mmodzi wa iwo amachititsa udindo wa "munthu" ndipo winayo - "mkazi" ndi wolakwika. Kugawidwa kumeneku kwa maudindo n'kosavuta. Kulumikizana pakati pa azinyanja kumatanthauzidwa ndi kuti iwo akhoza kukhala chomwe iwo ali.
Zotsatira zamakono zowonjezera zimasonyeza kuti m'mayiko otukuka, ubale wapamtima pakati pa akazi ndi wofala kwambiri kuposa momwe kale ankaganizira. Pafupifupi mkazi aliyense wachisanu ali ndi zaka 40, kamodzi kamodzi pamoyo wake anali ndi ubale wapamtima ndi anthu ake. Nthawi zambiri, akazi omwe amathawa ndi akazi amasiye amalowa muukwati. Kuwonjezera apo, malinga ndi zomwe zinalembedwa, azimayi amaonanso kuti akugonana amakondwera nthawi zambiri kusiyana ndi amayi omwe ali ndi chikhalidwe. Monga momwe chiwerengerochi chikuwonetsera, kugonana kumathera nthawi zonse ndi anthu 68% omwe ali ndi zibwenzi omwe amakhalapo kwa zaka zisanu ndi wokondedwa wawo (pambuyo pa zaka zisanu zaukwati, kugonana ndi mkazi kumathera ndi akazi oposa 40%). Palibe chidziwitso chodalirika chokhudza amayi ambiri omwe ali amaliseche. Amakhulupirira kuti ma "lesbiya" enieni amapanga 1-3% mwa amayi onse.
Zolakanso kuganiza kuti mkazi yemwe ali ndi malingaliro osagwirizana nawo ayenera kufanana ndi munthu: mwa maonekedwe, makhalidwe, ndi zina zotero. Koma si amuna onse ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amachitira motere. Azimayi ena akhoza kuchita mwanjira yakuti anthu oyandikana nawo sangathe kuganiza kuti mkazi uyu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi.
Mdziko lachikazi, pali amayi ambiri amene amalowa mu ubale wapamtima ndi mkazi wina. Komabe, ziyenera kudziŵika kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikofunikira kwambiri pa chikazi.
Nthawi yovuta kwambiri pamoyo wa mtsikana (komanso amuna) amabwera panthawi yomwe amadziwa kugonana kwake. Kawirikawiri pa nthawi imeneyi, mtsikana amakhala ndi maganizo osiyana kwambiri, amasokonezeka maganizo komanso amavutika maganizo. Komabe, masiku ano pali mabungwe ogonana ndi azimayi komanso mabungwe a amayi, komwe mungapeze anthu oganiza bwino ndikukambirana nawo mavuto omwe adayamba.
Amayi achiwerewere amagonana ndi akazi okhaokha, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo ndi muzhenenavistnitsami. M'malo mwake, amwenye ambiri amakhalabe paubwenzi ndi amuna. Choncho, lingaliro loti amwenye amadana ndi amuna ndilolakwika.