Kubwezeretsa maubwenzi abwino, simungathe kuchiritsa moyo, komabe pamlingo wina mumakhala ndi moyo wabwino. Akatswiri a zamaganizo adayambitsa kafukufuku ndikupeza kuti ubwenzi ndi amayi umathandiza kuchepetsa nkhawa, ndipo izi zimawathandiza kuti azikhala osangalala kwambiri. Kugawana ndi bwenzi, timagawana naye, ndikukumana ndi mavuto. Kotero, ngati muli ndi bwenzi lenileni, ndiye kuti muyenera kukhala okonzeka kukhululukira ndikupempha chikhululukiro, pambuyo pake mudzakhalanso mthandizi wanu wamnyamata mu zodabwitsa ndi zosangalatsa za moyo. Koma choti muchite ngati simukudziwa kumene mungayambe, kupanga mtendere ndi mnzanu, popanda kudzichititsa manyazi, ndikugonjetsa mkwiyo wake. Momwe mungachitire izo molondola, ife tikuphunzitsani inu tsopano.
Kuyanjananso ndikofunikira kupita patsogolo
Tiye tikambirane kuti simukudziwa kapena simungamvetse, chifukwa chake bwenzi lanu lakukhumudwitsani. Simudziwa chifukwa chake akukwiyirani, ngakhale izi zikuwonekera. Choyamba, yesani kudziwerengera nokha. Onetsetsani zochita zanu zonse, zomwe munachita kapena zisanachitike, mutayamba kuzindikira mkwiyo wa bwenzi lanu. Mwina kumbukirani kuti munanena chinachake, chomwe chinakhumudwitsa ndi mnzanu.
Gawo lotsatira la chiyanjano ndikuyankhula ndi bwenzi, ziribe kanthu ngati mutha kuzindikira zifukwa za mkwiyo wake ndi mkwiyo kapena ayi. Funsani mtsikanayo ndikumufunseni za msonkhano, muuzeni kuti mukufuna kukambirana zomwe zinachitikazo, komanso mukufuna kupeza njira zomwe zingakuthandizeni kubwezeretsa ubwenzi. Ngati simungathe kuitanitsa chifukwa china, ndiye kuti simumamvetsetsa, simukudziwa choti munganene, ndiye lembani kalata ndikuitumizira ndi imelo. Konzani msonkhano pamalo amodzi, mukhoza, mwachitsanzo, kukomana mu cafe kapena paki. Kusonkhana kumalo osaloĊµerera kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zisachitike mwachibadwa zomwe zingathandize kuthetsa mavuto.
Mukakumana nawo nthawi yomweyo muuzeni mnzanuyo kuti mukufunika kukumana bwanji. Ngati mnzanuyo akukhulupirira kuti ubwenzi wanu ndi wofunika, ndiye kuti n'zosavuta kuti muyambe kukambirana momasuka ndi kukhazikitsa mawu abwino. Ngati pachiyambi cha zokambirana zovuta mumatchula momwe akumverera, ndiye zotsatira za zokambiranazi zidzakhala zopambana. Ngati muwerenga kuti ubwenzi wanu wafala kwambiri, dziwani kuti mukulakwitsa. Ngakhale mutaganiza kuti mnzanuyo ndiye akutsutsaninso, mumadzipangira nokha. Panthawiyi, chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa inu nonse ndi chiyanjanitso ndi kubwezeretsanso maubwenzi akale, choncho musafunse kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali ndi mlandu pa izi.
N'zoona kuti sizingakhale zosavuta kuti mulandire cholakwa chilichonse chimene chachitika, makamaka ngati mukufuna kutsimikiza nokha. Komabe, ndi bwino kuganizira kuti ubwenzi wanu uli pangozi ndipo mukufuna kuusunga. Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti kudzitukumula kwanu kudzakhala "kubisala" mpaka nthawi yabwino.
Koma choyenera kuchita ngati mnzanu akukhulupirira moona mtima kuti mwakangana chifukwa cha mkangano pakati pa inu ndi momwe mungayanjanitsire? Pankhaniyi, muzokambirana, gwiritsani ntchito "I-mawu". I, mmalo mwa "iwe ..." anena "ndimakhulupirira", "ndimamva", "Ndikufuna" kapena "ndikuwona". Ngati mutati "inu ...", ndiye mtsikanayo akhoza kutenga malo oteteza. Ndipo, poyankhula za malingaliro ake ndi iyemwini, wolumikizanayo sangazindikire pa zokambirana kuti akufuna kumuimba mlandu chifukwa cha kupuma komwe kunachitika.
Eya, munayankhula naye ndipo mwapeza kuyanjana, tsopano mukuyenera kupereka bwenzi lanu nthawi kuti musapweteke. Sikoyenera kuthamanga ndikuganiza za momwe zingakhalire mtendere ndi mnzako msanga mwamsanga. Mwachita kale zambiri, tsopano chisankho ndi cha bwenzi lanu, ndipo mukuyenera kuyembekezeretsa kubwezeretsana komaliza kwa ubale wanu.
Chenjezo ndi uphungu
Musasiye abwenzi anu osasamala, ngakhale atakwiya, pitirizani kuzindikira zomwe wapindula, kupereka mphatso, mwachitsanzo, tsiku lobadwa kapena nthawi ina. Mukamamvetsera, mumasonyeza kuti mukumukondabe.
Mfundo ina yofunika ndi yakuti pamene simukufalitsa mphekesera mu mkangano, musayese kupindula kwa anzako omwe mumacheza ndi anzanu. Zoonadi, khalidweli lingamawoneke, chifukwa mukhoza kusonyeza mnzanu kuti ndi amene akulakwitsa, koma mutaya anzanu onse, kotero kuti muzitsutsa njirayi mwamsanga. Muyenera kumenyana ndi abwenzi anu, choncho musalole kuti zifukwa zing'onozing'ono zilepheretse ubwenzi wanu. Nthawi zina, pofuna kubwezeretsa mabwenzi, tiyenera kudzipereka. Ngati simunakonzekere kapena simungapereke kanthu chifukwa cha mnzanu, ndiye kuti chibwenzi chanu sichiri chenicheni. Khalani ndi chipiriro, chifukwa muyenera kuyembekezera kuti ubalewo ubwerere ku njira imodzi yomwe iwo adalili musanayambe kukangana. Momwe mungagwirizanitsire ndi bwenzi lake adzanena nthawi yokha. Kubwezeretsa ubwenzi kumafuna chitsimikizo cha kukhala woona mtima, kulimba mtima ndi kumvetsa.
Ngati mutapanga chiyanjano choyamba, muzisonyeza kuti mumayamikira ubwenzi umene uli pakati pa inu ndipo mukufuna kubwezeretseratu ubwenzi umene munataya chifukwa cha mkangano.