Zimaoneka ngati zokhumudwitsa, koma mkazi aliyense wachitatu amayenera kuthana ndi kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wokondedwa. Akazi amachitira chinyengo mwa njira zosiyanasiyana: wina amakhululukira wokondedwa, wina samakhululukira, kenako amanong'oneza bondo, wina sagwirizana nawo. Kodi mungakhululukire bwanji ndikuiwala kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wake? Ndipo kodi zingatheke konse?
Kodi nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa chiwembu cha amuna?
Kawirikawiri, kupandukira amuna ndi chizindikiro chakuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino mu ubale wanu.
2. Amayamba kuyamba kusintha pamene chikondi chimakhala chozizira komanso chikondi chachikale chikudutsa.
3. Amuna amakhalanso akusintha akakhala atatopa ndi mavuto a kunyumba kapena pamene zinthu zili bwino kwambiri.
4. Ndipo amuna ena amasintha chifukwa chakuti ndi chikhalidwe chawo iwo ndi amuna aamuna. Ndipo n'zosatheka kukonza. Pali njira imodzi yokha yotuluka: kaya muvomereze kapena muzisiye.
5. Koma chifukwa chachikulu cha kusintha kwa amuna ndi kusowa kwa kudalira ndi kuthandizira mu ubale. Pankhaniyi, mbuyeyo amakhala bwenzi komanso womulankhulana naye, yemwe amamvetsa ndi kuvomereza izo ndi zofooka zonse.
Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mungakhululukire chiwembu?
Musanakhululukire, ganizirani ngati inu, podziwa za chiwembu, mudzatha kukhalabe ndi moyo. Kukhululuka ndiko kuiwala ndi kusasunga chakukhosi. Inde, izi sizikhala zophweka.
- Ngati munthu akubisira kwa inu chikondi chake kumbali, zikutanthauza kuti akusowa. Pankhaniyi, mukhoza kukhululukira chiwembu. Ngati mwamuna adakali ndi chidwi ndi inu, ndipo mumamva chikondi ndi ubale pakati panu, ndiye kuti mwatopa kwambiri .
- Chifukwa cha ana, nawonso, ndiko kukhululukira wochimwa. Zoonadi, njirayi si yoyenera kwa aliyense, makamaka ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse amasintha ndipo salekerera mphamvu.
- Kukhululukidwa kungakhululukidwe ngakhale ngati wotsutsa akubwezeretsa, amadziimba mlandu ndipo amayesa kukhazikitsa chiyanjano. Inde, adzayenera kupeza chikhululukiro chake. Kupatula pang'ono, mwachitsanzo kwa miyezi iwiri, kudzakhala maphunziro abwino. Mudzakhala ndi nthawi yoganizira mozama za zomwe zikuchitika ndikupanga chisankho. Mwamuna wanu samataya nthawi pachabe ndipo akupitiriza kuyenda? Ndiye zonse zimveka bwino. Koma ngati mukufuna kukubwezerani, musakhale osakhululukidwa kwa miyezi ingapo. Mulimonsemo simukuwonetsa zopweteka zanu. Mulole iye aganizire kuti iwe ndiwe wokondwa, atachotsa wotsutsa. Mwinamwake, wopandukirayo adzalapa, ndipo mudzayamba moyo watsopano.
- Mwamuna wamasintha iwe kamodzi kokha pambuyo pa kusokoneza banja, kapena kuledzera. Kenaka mukhoza kutseka maso anu pazimenezi. Koma mulimonsemo, kupandukira kumakhala kosasangalatsa komanso kumapangitsa kuti wokondedwayo asamakhulupirire.
Kodi simukuyenera kukhululukira anthu?
Kodi ndi zophweka kukhululukira munthu amene mumamukonda mwamunayo, ngakhale moyo wopanda pake ulibe nzeru? Mwamuna uja anakuperekani. Zimakhala zosasangalatsa makamaka ngati munthu akusintha ndipo nthawi yomweyo akukuuzani za chikondi ndikukulumbira.
Kodi ndi koyenera kukhululukira kusakhulupirika ngati munthu wasiya kuyamikira ubale ndi inu ndipo akumva bwino popanda inu? Inde, kuti mupitirizebe kukhala ndi chibwenzi chotero sikoyenera. Mungathe kukhululukira, koma simungabweretse ubale wakalewo. Kusakhulupirika kumawonongeka ndikukhulupilira. Ndiyeno sipangakhale funso la chikondi.
Anasankha kuti asakhululukire chiwembu? Pankhaniyi, chitani zonse zomwe mwamuna sakudziwa za zomwe mwakumana nazo. Musanapatukane, munganene chinthu choterocho, kotero kuti moyo suwoneka ngati iye tsopano. Nenani kuti sanamudziwe, nthawi zonse ankafuna kuthetsa ubwenzi wawo, ndipo anangobweretsa mphindi yolekanitsa. Chiwonongeko ndi malo olemera mu chibwenzi, pambuyo pake palibe.
Chimene sichiri choyenera kuchita.
Kuwatsatira mwamuna wake ndi mbuye wake, kudzichepetsa, kulira, kupempha kuti muganizire ndi kubwereranso, yesetsani kukondweretsa, kudziwitsa achibale ndi abwenzi onse sikofunikira. Ziri zovuta kwa inu, koma khalani onyada ndipo musataye ulemu! Musamuuze aliyense kuti mwamuna wanu wasintha inu, chifukwa ambiri a anthu akuzungulira akuseka basi!
Mwina mungayanjane ndi mwamuna wanu. Tangoganizani momwe anthu adzakuyang'anirani, podziwa zambiri za moyo wanu!
Musamufunse wotsutsa za mbuye wake ndi ubale wake. Mukadziwa zonse, mudzakhumudwa kwambiri.
Mwina mungayanjane ndi mwamuna wanu. Tangoganizani momwe anthu adzakuyang'anirani, podziwa zambiri za moyo wanu!
Musamufunse wotsutsa za mbuye wake ndi ubale wake. Mukadziwa zonse, mudzakhumudwa kwambiri.
Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji munthu atagulitsidwa?
Choyamba, khalani olimba mtima, khalani oleza mtima ndipo kambiranani ndi vuto lanu ndi mwamuna wanu yekha. Musasokoneze malingaliro ake, ganizirani kumene mwalakwitsa. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu okonzeka kukhululukira zochitika zake zonse!
Khalani ndikuwonetsa kuti mkazi akhoza kukhululukira chiwembu, koma musaiwale. Ndipo pakakhala mikangano yosalekeza kudzakhala chilakolako chodzudzula mwamuna wake.
Ndipo funso lina lidali lotseguka. Kodi mungayambe bwanji kugonana? Kawirikawiri mkazi amayesera kutsimikizira kwa mwamuna wake kuti akulakwitsa, ndipo amadzidalira yekha pa kugonana. Ndipo anthu ena mosiyana nthawi zonse amamva kukhalapo kwa ambuye pabedi, iwo atsekedwa mwa iwo okha. Kugonana kumakhala zolemetsa kwa iwo.
Kawirikawiri, yesetsani kuyang'ana chidwi cha anthu nthawi zonse. Yang'anani mawonekedwe anu ndi zovala, mvetserani kwa iye pamene abwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, kumwetulira mobwerezabwereza, pangani nyumba yabwino, chonde funsani mwamuna wanu ndi chakudya chokoma ndi kumuuza kuti mumamukonda kwambiri.