Sichichedwa kuchepetsa kuthetsa vutoli, koma izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Nchiyani chinayambitsa khalidwe ili lachilendo? Osangokhala chete kapena chete. Si kwa inu kusankha chilichonse. Kodi mukuganiza kuti mukhale wamisala ndi bata? Izo siziri choncho konse. Yesetsani mwachikondi komanso mosagwirizana kuti muwone bwino. Ngati chinachake chikulakwika kuntchito, yesetsani mawu omwe ndi osakhalitsa. Kodi angakhale ndi vuto la midlife? Chitani kuti amvetsetse kuti mumamuthandiza, kuti ndinu mnzake komanso mnzanuyo, kuti pamodzi mutha kulimbana ndi mavuto onse.
Ngati pali vuto pamene wokondedwa wanu wakhala pansi, inu, monga njuchi ndi ntchito ndikutsogolera banja lonse, koma zonse siziri choncho ndizomwe siziri choncho, kodi ndibwino kuti muzunzidwe ndi mwamuna wake? Ngati iye sagwira ntchito basi, amamwa mowa, Mulungu amaletsa, amakulowetsani m'nyumba ya mabwenzi osadziwika. Kodi mukusowa zotsegula zoterezi? Mwinamwake, iwe, pokhala wotonthozedwa pang'onopang'ono, sankhani kuti ndi bwino kusiyana ndi wotere popanda mwamuna aliyense. Ganizani-ndani ali bwino? Nthawi zonse mumakhumudwa, mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi matemberero, ngati pali ana, amamva zowawa kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti ndi bwino kwa mwamuna wanu. Yambani, potsiriza dzilemekezeni nokha! Inu ndi ana anu mumalengedwa kuti mukakhale mosangalala! Muthamangitseko ndipo musakhale ndi chisoni chilichonse. Pamene iye, ngakhale atayankhula, amakuseka iwe, samakuchitira chifundo ndipo samakulemekeza. Kumbukirani kuti muli woyenera kwambiri!
Kuvutika ndi nkhanza za mwamuna sizingatheke. Inu, choyamba, yambani kukumba nokha, kuyesa kupeza zolakwa mwa inu nokha ndi kulankhulana ndi iye, ndipo inuyo nokha mupange zovuta. Mavuto ndi osatsimikizika. Mwamuna wanu, powona kuti mwayamba kukhala nokha, mukhoza kumva kupambana. Izi zimamupangitsa kukhala wokondwa kwambiri, ndipo adzatsimikiza kuti akuchita zabwino. Musadandaule ndi iye, ngakhale simungathe kubweza maganizo. Palibe vuto silikuphatikizapo kuthetsa mavuto a bwenzi lanu, komanso makolo, onse anu komanso mwamuna wanu. Ndi malangizo awo, iwo adzapangitsanso chiyanjano chanu.
Ndi bwino kukhala mwamtendere kusiyana ndi kulekerera nkhanza. Mwinamwake mkwiyo wake umayamba chifukwa chakuti pali anthu ambiri mnyumba mwanu, ndipo sangathe kumasuka, khalani chete. Kuti avomereze yekha pa izi sangathe. Ngati mumakhala m'nyumba imodzi ndi makolo anu, chotsani kanyumba kanthawi. Kumverera kwa kukhalapo kwa "makutu achilendo" kudzadutsa ndipo zonse zidzakhala zachilendo mu ubale wanu. Mwinamwake, simunapumane pamodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, simunapume pantchito. Kusintha kwa chizoloŵezichi kumathandiza kuyang'anani wina ndi mzake mosiyana, kumayambitsa chikondi.
Mwinamwake mwamuna wanu anali kupanga zolinga zazikulu, koma mwadzidzidzi anagwa, chifukwa cha zifukwa zomveka, ulamuliro wake wosafooka, ndipo lingaliro la kulephera silikupumula. Kambiranani, khalani chete, molimbikitseni ndi chidaliro kuti nthawi yotsatira zinthu zonse zidzatha.
Nthawi zina ubongo wamunayo ukhoza kuyambitsidwa ndi khalidwe lanu, malingaliro ake. Zingakwiyitse zofuna zanu, miseche, zomwe sakufuna kumva. Kusakhutira kwanu kuti mum'patse iye, pamene pamsewu umodzi umapita mndandanda, ndipo pa wina - kulowetsa mwachindunji ku mpira. N'zoona kuti nthawi zambiri nthawi zambiri munthu sangagwirizane nazo, koma moyo wosagwirizana sizingatheke popanda kulemekezana komanso kumvetsetsa. Ndikofunika kuchotsa mavuto omwe amayamba mu chiyanjano kamodzi, mwinamwake kudzudzula kumodzi kudzakulira mukutemberera, ndipo sipadzakhalanso chisudzulo pamenepo. Fotokozerani momveka bwino kwa mwamuna wanu kuti akukhumudwitsani ndi maganizo ake, chifukwa mumamukonda, ndipo ngati simukukonda, simungasamala.