Ngati muli ndi vuto la maganizo

Kuvulala kwamaganizo ndi koopsa monga thupi. Ndipo zotsatira zake zingakhale zochepa kwambiri. Kokha kuti tipewe kukhumudwa maganizo ndi zophulika, nthawi zambiri sitifulumira. Tikuyembekeza kuti idzadutsa yokha ... Komabe, moyo wa munthu ukhoza kudwala kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo nthawi zina timanyamula zovuta zathu zapadera m'moyo, ndipo sitimachotsa katundu wowawa. Mwachilungamo, ndiyenera kunena kuti si nkhani yongokhulupirira zokhudzana ndi maganizo. Maganizo a maganizo, mosiyana ndi zowawa za thupi, zingakhale zovuta kuzizindikira. Sitingathe ngakhale kuganiza zomwe zinachitika, nthawi komanso momwe. Palibe zoterezi. "Kotero-pano, apa pali chisokonezo, pomwepo podzidzimvera nokha, osati kwakukulu, koma kale kwambiri, pafupi zaka zitatu." "Izo zimagwirizana ndi chisudzulo chanu mu nthawi." Chabwino, ife tidzachiritsa. " Zoona, kuyesa kuopsa kwa vuto ndi kupeza chowonadi sizingatheke. Inde, pali lingaliro la kukula kwa chochitikacho. Timati: "Kusintha ntchito, ngakhale kusunthira - ndizopanikizika kawiri," "Kusamalira wodwala wodwala kumakhala kolemetsa komanso kochititsa mantha." Komabe, cholinga cholemera sichigwirizana nthawi zonse ndi chidziwitso. Kwa munthu mmodzi kukangana ndi bwana kudzakhala kuyesa kwakukulu, pambuyo pake sadzatha kuchita ntchito zake, kudzipatula yekha ndi kusiya kulankhula ndi timu. Kwa wina, zomwezo zidzakhala zolimbikitsana pazochitika zatsopano ndi kudzikuza - komanso popanda maganizo apadera. Zimatengera kufunika kwake kwa mwambowu, umunthu wa munthuyo mwiniwake, komanso, moyo wake wonse. Choyamba, poyamba, chinthu chochepa ndi nthawi zina zokwanira kuti chithunzichi chikhale chosiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, fungulo. Mabanja awiri achichepere amakhala m'mkhalidwe wofanana, ndipo amakhala ndi mgwirizano wofanana (osati wabwino) pakati pa mpongozi wake ndi apongozi ake. Koma apongozi ake ali ndi fungulo ku nyumba ya achinyamata ("Ndi amayi anga," akutero mwamuna), ndipo winayo samatero. Mkhalidwe wachisokonezo mu moyo wa mkazi kuchokera ku nambala ya nambala imodzi ndi wapamwamba kwambiri. Chifukwa fungulo limatanthauza kuti mwamuna sakufuna kuti azilekanitsa ndi amayi ake, kulamulira kwake mosalekeza, kulamulira, komanso chifukwa cha kupweteka kwa mpongozi wake. Mavuto a mkazi wa banja lachiwiri ndi ovuta (kusagwirizana ndi makolo kumabweretsa chimwemwe), komabe siwowopsya. Adzakhala osakhala osatha, choncho sangawonongeke msungwana.

Poyamba kuyambira ubwana
Chiwerengero cha psychotraumas timabwerera mu ubwana, ndipo izi ndizolepheretsa kuchiza. Panthawi imene tikudziŵa zomwe zinachitika, zakhala zikuchitika kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo zotsatira zake zimakhala zovuta kuchiza. Koma tili aang'ono timakhala osatetezeka, osatetezeka komanso odalira akuluakulu. Ngakhale kuti tingathe kuchitapo chimodzimodzi (kulira, kukuwa), koma kuti timvetsetse vutoli, kuti tichite bwino kuti likhale lopweteka kwambiri ndipo likhale lopweteka kwambiri, tsoka, silingathe. Zingaoneke, zingakhale zovuta bwanji pamene makolo aiwalika mwana wa sukulu ya kindergarten? Osati mwachindunji chifukwa. Mayi anga ankaganiza kuti bambo anga angawatenge, bambo anga - omwe amayi anga. Inde, mwanayo anakhala kumeneko kwa maola angapo, koma osati mmodzi yekha, koma ndi mphunzitsi. Komabe, ambiri mwa anthu omwe nkhaniyi idakumbukira kukumbukira kuti ndi imodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri pamoyo wawo. Ndibwino, ngati makolowo akupepesa ndikupempha mwanayo kuti asamalire komanso kuti asamalire. Ndipo ngati akunena kuti: "Nanga n'chifukwa chiyani mwamusokoneza namwino? Kodi mukuganiza kuti makolo alibe nkhawa zina?" Kumverera kosiyidwa, mwinamwake, mu nkhani iyi sikudzatha konse. Pokhala wamkulu, munthu sangaganize kuti ndi vuto. Ndipo zomwe amadana nazo pakalipano, pamene wina ali mochedwa ndipo akukonzekera zenizeni zenizeni za izi, ndi chikhalidwe cha izi ...

Kodi mukudandaula za chiyani?
Zovuta pa kuyankhulana, khalidwe losemphana, manyazi amodzi ... Zonsezi zingakhale zotsatira za maganizo odziwa bwino maganizo. Anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amati "nthawi zonse" kapena "sindinayambe", amasiyana ndi ziweruzo zosalongosoka komanso zakuthwa. "Sindilola aliyense kuseka nane." Koma kodi kuseka-ndi koipa? Kwa munthu uyu - inde. Kuseka kwa iye kumatanthauza kukhumudwitsa interlocutor.

Chizindikiro china cha psychotrauma ndi zomwe zimagwira mtima. Mwachitsanzo, munthu akamakhala wosangalala, zimakhala zovuta kupuma. Ndipo izi zingakhale ngakhale ndi zofooka zochepa. Izi ndizochitika zomwe zinali zopweteka ndipo thupi limayambiranso mobwerezabwereza. Nkhawa, mantha, zochitika nthawi zambiri pa malo opanda kanthu, kukonzekera mavuto ... Patapita nthawi, kugona tulo, kupweteka kwa mutu, matenda osokoneza thupi, kupweteka kwa mtima m'deralo kumawonjezeredwa.

Wothandizira mwiniwake
Pokhala ndi chidwi chokwanira m'maganizo, chilakolako chodzimvetsa, munthu akhoza kuthana ndi mavuto ake. Komabe, ngati pali cholinga choyang'ana kwa katswiri, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti:

• ngakhale katswiri wa zamaganizo / maganizo opatsirana maganizo a padziko lapansi sangathe kuthandizira ngati wodwala sanafike kwa iye yekha, koma potsutsidwa (amayi anga adapeza katswiri wa zamaganizo, chifukwa alibe mphamvu yakuwonera mwana wake wamkazi akuvutika; bwenzi langa anandiuza kuti ndipite kwa katswiri);
• katswiri ayenera kusankha, osangoganizira chabe ntchito zake m'munda wake, mlingo wotchuka, malingaliro, komanso chikondi chaumwini. Kulumikizana kumakhala kosavuta, kosavuta ndi kachepetse - adzalankhulanso zaumwini;
• kuyambira nthawi yoyamba bwino (kuchotsa) sizingatero. Psychology si matsenga, ndipo akatswiri a maganizo samagwedeza wand wamatsenga, akuyendetsa kutali mavuto onse kutali, koma amuthandize munthu kuti azigwira ntchito payekha ndi kupeza njira zothetsera vutoli.
  

Kugaya kwa zipsinjo za maganizo
Zingakhale zopanda nzeru kuganiza kuti vuto lililonse la psychotrauma, komanso matenda, amachiritsidwa. Ngakhale madokotala opaleshoni abwino sangabwezeretse mkono kapena mwendo wotayika. Choncho opaleshoni yabwino kwambiri sangathe kubwezeretsa moyo wakale mu mawonekedwe omwe analipo musanakhale zochitika zambiri. Ndizofuna kukhala ndi moyo watsopano, kuvomereza kutaya, zokhumudwitsa. Anthu omwe apulumuka chigawenga, chiwawa, sichidzafanana ndi kale. Kusintha dongosolo labwino, malingaliro pa moyo, iwo amakhala osangalala ndipo nthawi zina amakhumudwa. Mwamwayi, ambiri psychotrauma ndi ochepa kwambiri, ndipo kupambana kwa chithandizo chawo chimatengera khalidwe lolondola. Kuti mudzipange nokha pa nthawi ino muyenera kukhala mosamala, mochepa, mwachifundo. Pangani malo abwino, okonzekera holide, mwinamwake kugula chinthu chimene akhala akuchilota kale.

Zomwezi zomwe zinayambitsa vutoli, ziyenera kuganiziridwa kuchokera kumbali zonse. Pezani mmenemo chinachake chabwino ("koma chikhoza kukhala choipa kwambiri"), kuganiza kuti ndibwino kuchotsa. Izi zimachepetsa zotsatira zake, chifukwa "kufotokozera" kumaphatikizapo kusaganizira kwambiri, kumatheketsa kuyang'ana zomwe zikuchitika kuchokera kunja. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ngati vuto silili kale, koma pakalipano. Ngati munthu akukakamizidwa kuti akhale m'mikhalidwe yomwe imamukhumudwitsa, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kwambiri kuphunzira kukhala kutali. Ndipo ndithudi, nthawi zambiri nkotheka kuti posachedwa zinthu zonse zidzasintha bwino.