Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti mkazi wamphamvu samasowa chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Ndipotu, izi siziri choncho. Amafunanso kupeza chikondi, sangalole kuti asangalale. Kotero, iye sangakhoze kusonyeza kumverera kwa mnyamata ndi kumachita ngati mayi yemwe amadziwa momwe angachitire izo, mwapadera mu kukopa ndi kukopa.
Funso ndi lakuti mkazi wamphamvu akhoza kupeza chikondi chake, amadandaula amayi ambiri amene amagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti adzikhalitse moyo wawokha, koma safuna kuti izi zichitike kosatha. Kotero, tingatani kuti titsimikizire kuti chikondi cholimba cha atsikana otero ndi chiyanjano.
Inde, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti chikondi chawo nthawi zonse chili champhamvu. Amayi awa saganizira kanthu nkomwe. Choncho, ngati amakonda kwambiri, amakondana ndi mtima wawo wonse. Koma chikondi ichi, pazifukwa zina, sizimayamikiridwa ndi anthu nthawi zonse. Cholakwika ndi chiani ndi momwe mungachikonzere? Choyamba, msungwana wotere sangalole kuti mnyamata akhale mwamuna weniweni. Iye samazichita izo mwachindunji. Msungwana wamphamvu yekha adagwiritsidwa ntchito pothetsa mavuto onsewo. Iye samadikirira kuti mnyamatayo apeze nthawi ndi kufuna kumuchitira chinachake. Ngakhale iye akufuna ndipo ali ndi mwayi wochita chinachake, mkaziyo amangowamba chabe. Sayesa kupeza nthawi yothandizira chibwenzi chake. Mkazi uyu akudziwa kuti iye adzachita yekha payekha. Inde, muzinthu zambiri iye ali wolondola, amuna okhawo sakonda izi. Amafuna kukhala makina ndi opulumutsa. Ndipo msungwanayo sakusowa izi, amanjenjemera ndipo amatsutsidwa ndi khalidwe lotere. Zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala otsika kwambiri. Choncho, anyamata amadziwa komanso mosamala kuti apewe atsikana omwewa. Iwo safuna mkazi pafupi ndi iwo kuti awachitire zonse ndi zabwino kuposa iwo. Ngati mwamunayo ali wokhutira ndi zochitika izi, palibe chabwino mwa izi. Mwinamwake, mnyamata uyu ndi Alphonse ndi rag. Amakonda pamene mayiyo akumusamalira ndikukhazikitsa mavuto onse. Ndizosatheka kumanga maubwenzi ndi amuna oterewa chifukwa amagwiritsa ntchito amayi amphamvu.
Kuti mupeze chikondi ndi munthu wamba, mayi ayenera kukumbukira kuti ali wofooka komanso wosatetezeka. Musayime kukwera mahatchi ndikuyenda pazinyumba zotentha. Ili ndilo gawo la anyamata ndi iwo okha. Msungwanayo ayenera kuvomereza manja awo ndikudziyesa kuti sakanatha popanda thandizo la munthu.
Vuto lina la amai olimba - nthawi zonse amatenga sitepe yoyamba. Akazi oterewa samangokhala okhumudwa, koma amangopanga zomwe akufuna. Koma, mwatsoka, izi sizikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse zimatha. Kawirikawiri, mu chiyanjano zonse zimachitika mozungulira. Ngati msungwanayo akuyitana ndi kulemba, woyamba amavomereza mwachikondi ndipo akuganiza kuti ayambe kukumana, mwamunayo, kachiwiri, amamveka wolefuka. Iye ali ndi lingaliro lakuti chirichonse chikugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa iye. Ndipo amuna awa samakonda kwambiri. Ndichifukwa chake amawadzudzula akaziwa ndikuyesera kuti asayanjane nawo. Kawirikawiri mumayi wamphamvu, anyamata samawona mtsikana, koma bwenzi. Mwamwayi, amayi amadzikakamiza kuti azitha kutero. Amachita monga momwe anthu amachitira. Kawirikawiri, amayi olimba amadziwa kumwa, amatha kulumbirira ndi mwamuna, kukambirana madandaulo, samakonda kulankhula za zovala ndi zodzoladzola. Iwo nthawizonse amanena chirichonse pamaso ndipo samadera nkhaŵa makamaka za psyche ya munthuyo. Mwa njira, kuti asungwana otere sali okhutira ndi zovala sizikutanthauza kuti sadziwa momwe angasankhire zinthu zabwino ndi kuvala bwino. Ndizoti amayi oterowa samalankhula za izi nthawi zonse, samaika maonekedwe awo pamutu pa chirichonse.
Atsikana oterewa ndi "abwenzi" komanso "abale" abwino kwambiri. Pakati pawo mukhoza kumwa mowa, kambiranani atsikana ndipo musadandaule kuti mayiyo sangamvetse. Koma ndiko kumvetsetsa kumeneku kumapangitsa kuti msungwanayo asawonenso chinthu chopanda chifundo. Amakhala mwamuna wake ndipo izi ndizovuta kwambiri kumvetsa. Choncho, ngati mkazi wamphamvu akukhumudwa chifukwa chakuti anyamata amamuchitira ngati m'bale wake, ayenera kuphunzira kuchitapo kanthu pazinthu zina zomwe zikuyenera mtsikana. Inde, simukuyenera kusewera masewerawo ndikukhumudwa ndi mawu aliwonse. Koma, safunikanso kuseka mokondwera ndi nthabwala, atsikana opusa, nthawi zonse kukamba za kuti akazi alibe ubongo, ndipo amuna okhawo amatha kumvetsa zonse, komanso amadzitcha okha mnyamata. Ngati msungwanayo alibe chikazi, adzamunyengerera ngati bwenzi, koma sadzamuona ngati mkazi. Chifukwa kukwatira bwenzi lanu ndi kulakwitsa komanso kosayenera. Zomwezo, malingalirowa amakhala pansi pa zosamvetsetseka za achinyamata. Ndicho chifukwa chake, pochita ndi achinyamata, mkazi amafunika kudziletsa yekha osati kudzilola yekha kusankha yekha ndi kukhala ngati anyamata akutsogolera. Choyamba, poyamba zidzakhala zovuta, koma, ndi nthawi, munthu aliyense amazoloŵera ndipo sakuzindikira zomwe zakhala zikulamuliridwa. Mwa njira, podziwa kuti palibe amene amachititsa amayi olimba kuti asinthe okha kapena kuvala maski. Mwachidule, m'pofunika kuti mudziwe kumvetsa komwe mungasonyeze mphamvu zanu, ndikuti - kufooka. Amayi mwa chibadwidwe adzalandira chidziwitso, chomwe chimayenera kuphunzira momwe angagwiritsire ntchito. Ngati mumasamala ndi kumvetsera nokha, muwone amuna, mumatha kumvetsa nthawi yomwe muyenera kusonyeza kufooka ndi chifundo, ndipo pakuyenera kukumbukira mphamvu zanu ndi kupirira kwanu.
Amuna amakonda anthu omwe angathe kuwapangitsa kuti amenyane ndi kugonjetsa, koma sangataye vuto ndipo adzatha kudziteteza ku mavuto ambiri ndi nzeru ndi chikondi. Mphamvu ndi zofooka, chikhalidwe ndi chikazi, kudziletsa ndi kukhudzidwa ziyenera kugwirizanitsa mwa mkazi. Ngati chinachake chikusoweka, anyamatawo amachiwona ndipo peresenti yomwe adzalumikizana ndi mtsikana woteroyo amakhala ochepa komanso ochepa. Ndichifukwa chake mkazi wamphamvu amayenera kupeza mphamvu ndi nzeru mwa iyemwini kuti aphunzire kukhala ofooka ndi akazi, monga momwe munthu weniweni amafunikira.