Mwakwatirana osati chaka choyamba, ndipo banja lanu liri lolemera kwambiri, koma mukuzindikira kuti palibe chilakolako choyambirira, ndipo mulibe chikondi chochepa, chifukwa muli otopa, ndipo palibe zatsopano. Chirichonse chimadziwika ndi kumenyedwa. Mwinamwake aliyense ali monga choncho?
Zimatuluka, ayi. Ambiri okwatirana amavomereza kuti atatha kuvutika maganizo, adatha kupeza zatsopano. Motani? Nazi malingaliro omwe amaperekedwa ndi odziwika bwino, ogonana ndi maganizo komanso "okwatirana omwe ali ndi chidziwitso".
1. Kugonana ndikumverera
Wolemba zamagulu wotchuka Dilya Enikeeva amayerekezera kugonana ndi duet yoimba: "Oimba amatha kuimba palimodzi, koma amatha kutsogolera phwando lawo lililonse. Ngati akuimba, mawu awo adzakhala ndi mawu osiyana ndi a solos. Mu gulu labwino onse omvera amadzimva ngati wokondedwa. Ngati wina akufuna kuyanjana, yachiwiriyo idzakhala yosintha mosavuta. "
Zoona, kugonana pamasamba makumi atatu sizomwe kugonana kuli ndi khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu. Muunyamata zonse ziri zophweka - mahomoni amasewera m'magazi, mumatha kukhala usiku wonse, ndipo m'mawa mukhala ndi maluwa atsopano, pali chiyembekezo chachikulu ndi mapulani, ndipo ndinu okongola monga Aphrodite.
Kwa zaka zambiri, komanso kukongola, kudzidalira kumapulumuka (makamaka ngati mwamuna wokondedwa nthawi zonse amakukumbutsani mapaundi owonjezera ndi makwinya), khama lokhudza banja limagwidwa ndi mphamvu zonse, ndipo thupi lenilenilo limapempha kupatula ola la kugona, osati kugonana.
Komabe, kukhutira ndi kugonana kumakhudzana kwambiri ndi kukwatirana. Ngati okwatirana akhutitsidwa ndi maubwenzi awo apamtima, izi zimapanga maziko omwe chiyanjano chawo chimawonekera m'madera ena. Chikhalidwe ichi chimakhudza kupambana kwa maubwenzi awa, ndipo kukhutira ndi kugonana, kotero, kumadalira ubalewu.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Poyambira - moona mtima muyankhe nokha ku funso: kodi zonse ziri zabwino pakati panu mu ubale wa tsiku ndi tsiku? Ngati sichoncho - yang'anani pa chiyambi chimenecho, chomwe chinayambitsa chisokonezo, ndi kutseka kusiyana kwa maganizo.
2. Pampanizana!
Mu imodzi mwa nyimbo za Vadim Egorov pali mawu abwino kwambiri akuti: "Chikondi chimene timakonda kwambiri kwa onse amene amatikonda ndicho chofunika kwambiri!"
Zosokoneza: sitimayiwala kulakwa kwa mwamuna mavuto onse omwe adasonkhanitsidwa masana, timapereka madandaulo, kugwetsa abwenzi. Ndipo chikondi chiri kuti? Okwatirana omwe samayiwala kuti amisonyeze chikondi ndi chikondi kwa wina ndi mzake, monga lamulo, musati muzizira wina ndi mzake ndi pabedi.
Kodi munapatsa bwanji mwamuna wanu khofi pabedi? Ndipo ndi liti pamene anamaliza kuzungulira kumsana? Kodi mumayenda madzulo pamwezi?
Banja lirilonse liri ndi "maphikidwe" awo pa nthawi. Nthawi zambiri mumasonyezana zakukhosi kwanu, zimakhala zolimba kwambiri zogonana!
3. Matenda otopa ali ndi chilakolako chogonana
Ndani pakati pathu, akazi okwatira, sanakumane ndi vuto pamene wina akufuna kugona chifukwa cha kutopa, ndipo mwamunayo amayamba mwadzidzidzi? Mukukana - mwamuna akukhumudwa, mumavomereza - mumalankhula nkhanza, ndipo mkwiyo umakwera mu moyo wanu: kodi akufuna chiyani? Ndipo zimachitika mbali ina: mumapita kwa iye, ndipo ali ndi "mutu"!
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Perekani wina ndi mzake mpata wotsitsimula.
Ndili ndi okwatirana "odziwa zambiri" omwe athetsa vutoli (kachiwiri aliyense payekha!). Ena amatumiza ana awo kwa agogo ndipo Loweruka afunseni kuti asawatengere mafoni ndi kuyendera. Ena - omwe safunika kuthamangira kukagwira ntchito ndi kugonana kwachisanu ndi chitatu m'mawa. Ena, m'malo mwake, amawagoneka ana ndipo amamvetsera wina ndi mzake kuyambira 10 mpaka pakati pa usiku. Mnzanga wachikulire akunena kuti kwa iye, kugonana sikulingana ndi kuchuluka, koma ndi khalidwe: ngakhale mobwerezabwereza, koma "mokwanira"!
4. Siyani mavuto omwe ali kumbali!
Musakokera mavuto a utumiki mnyumba. Musatenge zikalata za kunyumba kuti munalibe nthawi yowona kuntchito. Kuimbira foni kwa mtsikana ameneyu m'litali mu ola limodzi ndi hafu nawonso akhoza kusinthidwa.
Ngati mukudikirira foni yofunikira, mugwiritseni ntchito yankho lotha kuyankha, tsopano sivuta kuligula, ndipo mudzasunga nthawi yamtengo wapatali ndi mphamvu yauzimu, mutachotsa kulankhulana kosabereka komanso nkhani zochepa.
Ngati lero muli ndi mavuto ambiri a utumiki, ndibwino kuti musakonzekere madzulo ano a maubwenzi apamtima, chifukwa lingaliro la zomwe sizinachitike sizingakupatseni mpumulo wotsitsimula.
5. Nthawi zina ndi bwino kudziwitsa mwamuna wanu zolinga zanu!
Ngati mumauza mnzanu m'mawa kuti: "Okondeka, tili ndi madzulo kuti tigonane lero!" - ndiye ichi ndi mtima umodzi. Ndipo ngati mwakhala mukudabwa kwambiri ndikuyembekezera madzulo, ndipo mukagwira ntchito nthawi zambiri mumatchula mwamuna wanu, kuti mukuyembekezera madzulo, mudzabwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito osachepera theka la ora kale, kuti mukonzekere chakudya chamadzulo chambiri, pasanapite nthawi kusamalira champagne kapena vinyo, kusamba kapena kusamba - ndiye mutha kukhala ndi maganizo abwino, omwe adzamvekanso pomwepo ndi mwamuna wanu.
6. Pewani misampha!
Malingana ndi kugonana kwa anthu ogonana, msampha wochulukirapo pa bedi la banja ndi chimodzimodzi. Posakhalitsa, koma pakubwera nthawi pamene ubwenzi wapamtima wa wokondedwayo umaphunziridwa mokwanira, motero kupanga chikondi, okwatirana nthawi yomweyo "amatenga ng'ombe ndi nyanga", mwachitsanzo, gwiritsani ntchito mankhwalawa omwe akutsimikiziridwa kuti abweretse zotsatirazo.
Taganizirani izi: Ngati munthu amadyetsedwa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mbatata yokazinga (halva, chinanazi, shrimp), ndiye kuti nthawi idzafika pamene pakuwona chinthu ichi chidzakhala chokhumudwitsa. Kotero mulimonsemo, "menyu" iyenera kukhala yosiyana.
7. Musapangitse mwamuna wanu kukhala bwenzi!
Kawirikawiri, iyi ndiyo lamulo lagolidi la moyo wapabanja. Kumbukirani nthawi zonse: pafupi ndi inu - munthu! Ndipo munthu uyu akusocheretsedwa ndi kugonjetsedwa tsiku ndi tsiku.
Mwachizoloŵezi, icho chimachokera mosiyana. Mkaziyo akutembenukira patsogolo pa galasi ndikudandaula kwa mwamuna wake kuti adawonjezera makilogalamu makumi awiri, amakhala ngati "ng'ombe" ndipo samakwera muketi iliyonse. Kuchokera kwa dokotala wa meno, akuti pali mabowo makumi awiri omwe ali mano ndipo nthawi zambiri amafunika kupulumutsidwa pa nsagwabodza yonyenga. Kapena amavomerezedwa kuti akambirane ndi mwamuna kugula kirimu chotsutsana ndi cellulite. Mwachidziwikire, amachitira zonse zomwe masiku oyambirira achidziŵitso sakanakhoza kuchita!
Inde, pamene mkazi ayamba kudandaula ndi mwamuna wake, amafuna kuti mwamuna wake azinena kuti: "Wokondedwa, ndiwe wokongola!" Koma amuna nthawi zambiri samanena zimenezo. Iwo samawona zizindikiro zirizonse m'mawu anu. Amakhulupirira mawu. Mkaziyo atanena kuti ndi wokalamba, wonenepa, wonyansa, ndi cellulite ndi caries - choncho ndi. Ndipo ndani akufuna kukagona ndi mkazi wotere?
Ganizani, mukukwaniritsa izi?
8. Onjezani zosangalatsa!
Chabwino, ndani wakuuzani kuti kugonana ndi koopsa? Nthawi zina njira yabwino yowonjezeranso chikondi ndi kuseka.
Magazini a amayi ambiri amapereka maphikidwe osavuta, monga kukumana ndi mwamuna kuntchito akusowa pa apron. Mwachidziwikire, iye anakulangani inu mwamsanga ngati chinyama. Ndinali ndi mlandu pamene mnyamata wina adakhumudwa ndi msonkhano wotere: "Ndinabwerera kunyumba ndikutopa, monga bardard wotsiriza, ndipo pakhomo mkazi wanga ali wamaliseche ndi apuloni. Ndinatsala pang'ono kugona: kodi mumayenera kugonana? "
Mnzanga wina adafotokozera njira iyi mwa njira yake: anakumana ndi mwamuna wake osati wamaliseche pamapironi, koma pamapuloti odzola! Mwamuna wanga anaseka kwambiri! Usiku unali wodabwitsa. Zoona, mwamuna ameneyo anali ndi nthabwala. Ngati muli nacho, yesani.
9. Kukumbutsa ndiwothandizana nawo!
Wokondedwa wanga kamodzi anati: "Tinakhala ndi mwamuna wanga zaka khumi. Ndipo ngati mtundu wina wa kuzizira umabwera pakati pathu, ndimachotsa zithunzi zathu zakale. Timakhala ndi mwamuna wanga madzulo, kuwasankha, kukumbukira zinthu zabwino zomwe zinachitika pakati pathu. Inde, timamwetulira ndi kuseka. Madzi oyenera amapitilira pakati pathu. Timamvetsetsa kuti timakondanabe, ndipo timakambirana. Ndiyeno ... Ife tikuwoneka kuti tanyamulidwira usiku wathu woyamba, ku chilakolako chathu ... Zonsezi ndizosangalatsa kuti mukhale ndi chikondi ndi mwamuna wanu! "
10. Kugonana!
Tikudziwa chinachake ndi inu kuti n'zosavuta kukondana ndi munthu wosadziwika: kumwetulira mwachidwi, kuona kuti mwachinsinsi izi zidzakanizidwa kuchokera kukhumba, ndi zinthu zina zofanana. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kukopa ndi mwamuna wanu!
Chabwino, mwachitsanzo, popita kukacheza kapena kuyenda, pezani kamphindi kuti mumunong'oneze mawu a usiku wanu. Ndipo pa ulendo mukamuyang'anitsitsa ndikusazindikiranso ndi ena, yesani phazi lanu pazimenezi (izi zimagwiridwa ndi amuna ena ogonana mu filimuyi - mwina osati pachabe), kapena kukwapula bondo ndi mphuno, ndikuyendetsa pamwamba. Kodi ndikufunika ndikuphunzitseni!
Musaphonye mwayi wakuvina. Nenani kutamanda, kuseka nthabwala zake, kumpsompsona khutu lanu - mwachidziwikire, mumadziwa zina za mwamuna wanu, ngati zopanda pake! Ndipo zotsatira zake zidzakhaladi!
Kumbukirani : chilakolako chanu sichinachoke! Mwachidule, iye anali ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pukuta pfumbi ndikusangalala ndi moyo!