N'zoona kuti msungwana wokongola kwambiri amakopeka ndi amuna. Kotero anyamata athu akukonzekera - amakonda maso. Kwa munthu aliyense ntchito yofunika imasewera ndi maganizo a ena. Ndipotu, kawirikawiri amuna amakonda kukonza mtundu wa "kulankhulana", omwe amasankha pamodzi ngati kuli koyenera kukomana ndi mtsikana wina. Inde, izi sizingatchedwe kuti ndizochita mwanzeru, koma kudalira pa anzako nthawi zina kumadabwitsa. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kuchita mwanjira yakuti munthu sasamala momwe abwenzi ake amakukonderani. Koma ndibwino kuti achitepo kuti iwowo akondwere ndi inu. Koma momwe angachitire kuti mnyamatayo azisokoneza za ine? Kotero kuti iye sangawone aliyense ndikumvetsera kwa ine ndekha. Kotero kuti sindinayambe ndamuwona maso ake oblique akuwonekera kwa mtsikana wina.
Anyamata amakwiya kwambiri atsikana akamalankhula molakwika za makampani awo. Ndipo ngati mukuchita zosiyana? Ngati mumacheza ndi anthu ake apamtima ndikusamala misonkhano ya amuna awo? Chinthu chachikulu sikutsika ndodo ndikukhala "mchimwene wanu" pa chibwenzi chanu. Abwenzi ake ayenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti ndinu mtsikana, koma nthawi yomweyo amachitira zinthu ngati akugwirizana ndi mnzanu. Nthawi yomweyo muyenera kuzindikira kuti ngati mnyamata alidi wosasangalatsa, simukuyenera kudzikakamiza kuti mukhale naye mabwenzi. Koma ngati anyamatawo akukukondani, mumatha kukhazikitsa chibwenzi.
Muzochitika izi, ndi zophweka kwa amayi awo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa makampani a amuna ndikufulumira nawo nawo. Atsikanawa amatha kuyanjana ndi anthu atsopano m'maola angapo ndipo potsiriza amakhala bwenzi lenileni. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti musamangire ndodo kuti chibwenzi chanu chisakhale ndi nsanje. Ndipo akhoza kukhala achisoni m'magulu awiri: inu kwa anzanu ndi mabwenzi anu. Zingakuwonekere kuti mumamumvera chisoni kwambiri mnyamata wina, kapena kuti, anyamatawo anayamba kukuganizirani kuti ndinu bwenzi wabwino kuposa iyeyo. Choncho, muzochitika izi, onetsetsani kuti mukuyesera kutsatira ndondomeko ya golidi ndikupewa kupitirira. Ngati mutachita zonse bwino, kampaniyi idzakuchitirani zabwino ndipo ngati zidzamukumbutsa kuti ndinu wabwino komanso kuti mukhumudwitse msungwana woteroyo sizothandiza.
Amuna onse amakonda amayi awo omwe amatha kuthetsa mavuto awo okha, osadalira thandizo lake nthawi zonse. Inde, simukuyenera kukhala wachikazi, yemwe nthawi zonse amasankha yekha ndikumaganiza kuti mnyamata ndi wotsika. Koma ngati mnyamata wina amakuwonetsani kamodzi momwe mungasinthire gudumu pamakina kapena kuyika kachitidwe ka kompyuta pamakompyuta, yesani kukumbukira izi ndikuzichita nokha nthawi yotsatira. Anyamata amasangalala kumvetsetsa ndi kuuza ena kuti chibwenzi chake chimadziwa kuti sichichita ntchito yazimayi. Mumtima, anyamata ambiri amene amakhala ndi maganizo olakwika amanyansidwa ndi amayi aang'ono omwe nthawi zonse amakhala ndi malingaliro aumwini ndipo amawona kuti sangakwanitse kuchita zinthu zamakono ndizochititsa manyazi. Ndicho chifukwa chake pamene mukuchita ntchitoyi nokha, mwamuna amanyadira ndi inu, akudziuza yekha kuti pafupi ndi mkazi wanzeru.
Ngati mukufuna kuti mnyamata akuyamikeni, phunzirani kuphika. Kwa munthu, kumatha kumudyetsa iye ndi chinthu chokoma ndi kofunika kwambiri. Anyamata amatha kudzitamandira kwa abwenzi kuntchito kotero kuti wokondedwa wake amatha kumudyetsa kunyumba ndi kuika chinachake chokoma ndi chokhutiritsa kugwira ntchito. Inde, pali amuna omwe amakonda kuphika okha, koma ndizosangalatsa malamulo. Ndipo ngakhale kwa mnyamata wotere, ndikofunika kuti mumusangalatse iye ndi mtundu wina wa zokoma. Komabe, musaiwale kuti "njira ya pamtima ya munthu imakhala m'mimba." Ndipo izi ndizopangidwa m'zinthu zamagetsi. Zivomerezani, makamaka, ngakhale m'nthaŵi zakale, wofulumira ndi wovuta kwambiri anali msaki wodyetsedwa bwino. Ndi iye yemwe angakhoze kugwira ndi kulandira nyama zambiri, zomwe zikutanthauza kupeza chakudya chokwanira ndi kudyetsa banja.
Mkazi weniweni ndi mkazi yemwe, poyamba, amadziwa kudzikonda yekha. Ndichifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna mnyamata kuti akhale wopenga za inu, simungakhoze kudandaula nthawi zonse za inu nokha, moyo wanu, ntchito, mawonekedwe, ndi zina zambiri. Ndi chinthu chimodzi chogawana mavuto ndi zina - nthawi zonse ndikudandaula kuti moyo walephera, simuli wina ndipo ndikukuitanirani mwanjira iliyonse. Inde, anyamata amakonda kuteteza akazi awo okongola, koma asathetse mavuto awo onse ndikuwatsitsimutsa pa chifukwa chilichonse. Mutha kukhala osalimba kunja, koma mutakhala ndi ndodo mkati. Ndipokha ndi msungwana wamphamvu ndi wauzimu mwamuna akhoza ndipo akufuna kuyika moyo wake. Khalani wokondana pang'ono ndi inu nokha. Mukhoza kudzichitira nokha zokondweretsa zazing'ono ndipo musalole kuti mavuto asokoneze moyo wanu ndi maganizo anu. Ngati munthu akumva zabwino, zomwe zimachokera kwa dona wake wa mtima. Iye mwiniwake amamva mphamvu ndi chikhumbo chochita chinachake mu moyo. Choipa chosatha chimangotsutsa ndikukupangitsani kuganiza: chifukwa chiyani akusowa izi?
Mwamuna aliyense amafunika zabwino kumbuyo ndi kuthandizira. Musaiwale kumukumbutsa kuti mumamuyamikira, mumamuyamikira komanso mumamukonda. Ayenera kumverera kuti nyumba yake ili pafupi ndi inu. Amuna ndi amphamvu okha mwakuthupi kuposa akazi. Koma mwamakhalidwe iwo amakhala ofooka kwambiri. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu kuti wokondedwa wanu samabisala mavuto ake, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale misonzi, amafunikira kumvetsetsedwa, kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa panthawi yovuta. Ngakhale anthu ovuta kumvetsa angamvetsetse. Muyenera kumvetsera ndi kuwerenga pakati pa mizere, ndiko, kuti mumve pakati pa mawu. Amuna athu nthawi zambiri amalankhula za mavuto awo, koma sitingamve ndikumvetsa. Koma ngati mzimayi waphunzira kudzimva wokondedwa wake mwachidwi, mofunitsitsa kapena ayi, adzamuyamikira chifukwa cha izo, ulemu ndi chikondi.
Amuna ngati umunthu wamphamvu. Choncho, musayesane ndi chibwenzi chanu pachilichonse. Fotokozani maganizo anu, kambiranani. Koma musamaimire nokha, musatenge malingaliro ake ndikutsutsa mawu a wokondedwayo. Amuna akuvulaza ulemu wawo ndipo zochita zawo n'zovuta kuti akhululukire. Nthawi zonse mukhale nokha ndipo musaiwale nzeru za amai, ndiye chikondi chake pa inu sichidzatha.