Kodi mukuvutika? Kodi mukufuna kutenga pakati? Kusamvana kosamvetsetseka kwasokonekera? Pali zovuta zogonana tsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe zingakhale zothandiza pazovuta zilizonse. Nkhaniyi ikupereka maganizo a akatswiri abwino kwambiri pankhani ya thanzi labwino la amayi poyerekeza ndi zovuta zambiri. Khalani okonzeka kuphunzira kupambana kwatsopano kumapita mu phwando lanu lachikondi.
Cholinga chabwino kwambiri cha pathupi.
Inde, mukhoza kutenga pakati pa malo aliwonse, koma pali kugonana kokha, komwe mwayi woyembekezera kubereka kumawonjezeka kwambiri. "Uyu ndi" Mishonare "pose (munthu pamwamba) ali ndi mapepala otukuka," akutero Emmy Levine, wophunzitsa chiwerewere ku New York, yemwe ndi wovomerezeka wogonana komanso woyambitsa SexEdSolutions.com.
"Mwa kuika kanyumba kakang'ono pansi pa matako, mutha kukonza malo otetezeka a pelvis ndikukwaniritsa zochitika zapadera," akutero. "Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kwa spermatozoa pa njira yawo yovuta kudzera mumtsinje wa khola komanso ku dzira. Kawirikawiri amayi omwe amasankha izi kuti azigonana tsiku ndi tsiku amachititsa kuti azikhala osakwanira, monga momwe umuna umakhalabe mukazi nthawi yaitali poyerekeza ndi "zopambana". "Komanso, musaiwale za zowoneka," adatero Ava Cadell, wophunzitsa zachiwerewere komanso woyambitsa University of Loveology ku Los Angeles. "Kusangalala kungathandizenso kutenga mimba, makamaka ngati sikutalika pachimake."
Malo abwino kwambiri kuti mkazi azikhala olimba kwambiri pabedi.
Mwinamwake mumamva kuti mulibe chitetezo pabedi ndipo mukufuna kuphunzira njira zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale otetezeka komanso bwino kuthetsa vutoli? Ngati ndi choncho, Debbie Herbenick, Ph.D., mlembi wotsogolela kugonana kwa amayi kuti akwaniritse zosangalatsa ndi kukhutira, "Chifukwa chiyani ndikumverera bwino," chimakupatsani kanthu. Kumbukirani mawu atatu okha: "Nthawi zonse mumakhala pamwamba". Tsiku liri lonse, kugonana kwa "Wovina" kudzakuthandizani kuti muyambe kuyendetsa bwino kayendetsedwe kake ndikukhala ndi chidaliro, "akutero. "Onetsetsani kuti zonse zikuchitika monga momwe inu mumafunira. Mutha kuima pa mawondo anu kapena kuswa, tembenukira kwa nkhope yanu kapena mutembenukire. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iye ndi inu muyenera kusangalala. "
Njira yabwino kwambiri yokondweretsa akazi.
"Atsikana, kodi mwakonzeka kuphunzira za izi?" Tsopano Dr. Herbenic adzakupatulirani kuzinthu zanzeru zimene simunamvepo! Njira imeneyi imatchedwa mgwirizano wa coital. "Ichi ndicho kusiyana kwa" mmishonale "ndi imodzi mwa malo ochepa ogonana omwe atsimikizira kale kuti akhoza kukhala osangalatsa," akutero Debbie. "Wothandizana naye amalimbikira patsogolo kuti mapewa ake apitirire kwanu. Madera a m'mimba samayenera kusokoneza kwambiri ndi kukangana bwino. Izi zikukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chidwi cholimbikitsira clitoris, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti akazi azikhala okhutira ndi kugonana. "
Njira yabwino ya kugonana kwa nthawi yaitali
Pamene chibwenzi chanu chitafika msanga, muyenera kuchita zinazake, ndipo poyamba yesani kusintha khalidwe lanu la kugonana. Malinga ndi zomwe a Levine adalangiza, udindo wa "mmishonale" (munthu wochokera kumwamba) ndipo pano ukhoza kuthandizira kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino, kuonjezera kupirira kwa kugonana kwa mnzanuyo. "Kugonana ndikofunikira makamaka ngati mwamuna ali ndi vuto ndi mtunda," akutero. "Pamene ali pamwamba, zimakhala zosavuta kuti azigonjetsa zogonana. Ngati mukufuna zosiyanasiyana, gwiritsani ntchito malangizo a Cadell. "Udindo wa" Fox "ndi kusiyana kwa" mmishonale ", koma ndi miyendo yapamwamba, yomwe mumapachika okondedwa anu pamutu. Kulowera kumakhala kozama kwambiri ndipo mkazi amakhala wodzazidwa ndi thupi la munthu mpaka pamtunda. Wokondedwayo amalowa mkati mwanu, zomwe zimakulolani kusunga chisangalalo popanda kutaya nthawi yaitali. "
Choyenera kwambiri kwa amayi omwe amamva ululu panthawi yogonana.
Amayi ambiri sakhala ovuta kupirira kupweteka kwala. Komabe, ganizirani malangizo othandiza omwe angakuthandizeni pa nkhaniyi. Mwinamwake ndi kusowa kwa mafuta enieni, kotero kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta apadera pamadzi sizingakhale zopanda pake. Ngati ululu ukupitirira, nkofunika kuti iwe, mophiphiritsira, ukhale m'chiuno mwanu. Ndicho chifukwa chake Dr. Herbenik ndi akatswiri ena amalimbikitsa udindo wa "Wokwera" kwa amayi omwe ali ndi zowawa zogonana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kugonana kugwirizane ndi mtundu wovomerezeka wa mkazi.
Cholinga chabwino kwambiri ndi "chimphona" cha kugonana kwakukulu
Ngati mukufuna kufuula zambiri ndi zosangalatsa kuposa kupweteka, njira yotsatira ndi yanu. Debbie Herbenik akufotokoza kuti: "Mnyamata ali ndi mbolo yaikulu ali kumbali yake, ndipo umamupaka, ndikupatsanso miyendo kuti ukhale pamwamba," akutero Debbie Herbenik. "Izi zimapangitsa mkazi kuletsa kukula kwa thunthu lake kuti achepetse matalikidwe ake. Kuonjezera apo, kugwedeza m'chiuno, chomwe chiri chosavuta kuti chikhale ndi malowa, kumangowonjezera ku "kutuluka". Malingana ndi Levine waphunzitsi wa kugonana, amayi omwe amagonana nawo amasiyana kwambiri ndi ziwalo zoberekera, monga izi "zooneka ngati zofanana." "Iwo amatha kuyendetsa kuya kwa kulowa mkati ndi kusangalala ndi kugonana popanda kupweteka komanso" kupanikizika "mbolo mu khola lachiberekero panthawi yovuta kwambiri."
Cholinga chabwino tsiku ndi tsiku pa kugonana ndi mnzanu "wamng'ono".
Akatswiri onse amavomereza kuti kukula kwa mbolo sikofunikira kwambiri pokwaniritsa kukhutira kwakukulu. Makhalidwe a thupi la mnzanuyo amakonzedweratu mosavuta ndi malo osankhidwa bwino ogonana. Odwala opatsirana amalangizana amalimbikitsa pa nkhaniyi, chimodzimodzi "wokwera". Emmy Livain akufotokoza kuti pamtunda kuti mkazi athe kukhutira mokwanira kusinthanitsa bedi kumbali ndi mbali. Pachifukwa ichi, mwayi wa kachilombo kakang'ono kochokera kumaliseche ndi wochepa. "Ndiponso, udindo wa" amishonale "ndi miyendo yoponyedwa pamapewa a wokondedwa ndi woyenera. Izi zidzamulolera kuti alowe mkati mwanu mwakuya kwa kutalika kwake kwa "kukula kwake".
Ndikuyembekeza kuti malangizowo adzakhala othandiza kwa amayi achilendo ndi okondedwa awo omwe akuyesetsa kuti agwirizane ndi kugonana.