"Mukakhala pansi kuti mugwire ntchito," munthu amangochita mantha, kudziwononga yekha, thanzi lake komanso ubale wake. Dziko lalikulu lomwe liri ndi mitundu yonse yocheperapo ndi yopepuka kuntchito zing'onozing'ono zopangira, zomwe chidwi chonse chimayang'ana. Chodetsa nkhaŵa mpaka pano: Banja, achibale, abwenzi - awona kale kuti si ofunika monga momwe zilili. Ntchito pang'onopang'ono kukhala njira ya moyo. Zikuwoneka kuti munthu akupita patsogolo, koma kwenikweni akuyendayenda. Ndibwino kuti, ngati ogwira ntchito akugwira ntchitoyi ndikulipira malipiro awo. Koma banja likumva zowawa chifukwa cha kuponderezedwa - matenda kapena maganizo: kugonana kumatayika, okwatirana pang'onopang'ono amachoka pakati pawo, ana amakula popanda chidwi ndi abambo komanso kutenga nawo mbali pamoyo wawo.
Chifukwa chiyani?
Chifukwa chake nthawi zonse amakhala ndi maganizo ndipo, makamaka, mizu yake ali mwana. Munthu wodetsa nkhaŵa angakhale ndi udindo wotere: njira yowonjezera kudzidalira (ngati munthu wasiya kudzidalira yekha):
tanthauzo la moyo (ngati wina sakufuna kuti ayambe kufunafuna tanthauzo lina);
luso logonjetsa mantha (mwachitsanzo, mantha olephera kuyanjana);
njira yosangalalira, kumva kumverera, komanso kukula kwa adrenaline. Pazochita zonse, ndizofala kupeŵa mavuto aumwini, nkhawa za tsiku ndi tsiku, kufotokozera maubwenzi, ndiko kuti, kupsinjika maganizo.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Vuto la workaholism - matenda kapena mkhalidwe wamaganizo ndikuti, odwala, monga lamulo, amakhala osangalala ndi moyo wotero, amadziona kuti ali wathanzi ndipo safuna kusintha chirichonse. Kukambirana kovomerezeka pa nkhaniyi sikungakhudze mkhalidwewo. Inde, ndi bwino kutembenukira kwa katswiri, koma mukhoza kumenyana nokha.
Poyesa kugwiritsira ntchito mankhwalawa, funsani mwamuna kuti atenge daimondi, zomwe pamwamba pake zikutanthauza magawo 4 a moyo kwa munthu wamkulu: thupi (thanzi), ntchito, banja, olankhulana (kuyankhulana). Kodi nthawi yake yapadera imagawidwa bwanji m'zigawozi? Izi zidzathandiza kuti muone bwino kuti pali chisankho chodziwikiratu (100%, chiwerengero cha magawo onse 25%).
Kodi mwamuna wanu amapereka mtengo wotani chifukwa chochita khama kwambiri? Kukumana ndi thanzi? Banja? Ntchitoyi ndi kubwezeretsa malire m'mbali zonse za moyo.
Mphamvu yosangalala ndi workaholism - luso lofanana ndi luso loyendetsa galimoto. Izi zikhoza kuphunzitsidwa mwa kuyenda mofanana ndi pamene mukupanga luso lina lililonse.
Kumbukirani: ndikofunika kuyang'ana nthawi zonse, kotero kuti mpumulo umakhala chizolowezi.
Kwa mkazi wachikondi kulankhula ndi zokoma - si zokondweretsa, koma chosowa. Kutseka zokambirana, kapena kulepheretsa kulankhulana momveka bwino, mwamunayo amadzibweretsera mavuto ambiri: chokhumba cha mayiyo sichidzabwerera kwa iye, koma mwa njira yolakwika. Koma momwe mungamvetsere uthenga wa munthu wamtendere?
Wokhala chete ngati nsomba
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomveka zokhalira chete ndi kusakhutira kutsutsidwa. Chidziwitso chilichonse chingagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati chida. Nkhani kuyambira ubwana, maubwenzi kuntchito, zochitika mumabanja a makolo - zonsezi mwa manja a amayi aluso amatha kukhala "zipsinjo za tsitsi" za mwamuna. Kumverera kwa ngozi ndi kufooka - matenda kapena mkhalidwe wamaganizo amadzaza ndi kunyoza ndikumupangitsa kukhala chete: palibe chidziwitso - palibe njira yozembera.
Iye samangokhala chete, koma samafuna kumvetsera mkazi (mwachitsanzo, kupita kutali kapena kuvala headphones). Ndi njira yotetezera, njira yothetsera ayi. Mwinamwake iye amadziwa kuti vutoli ndi kuphwanya malo awo , malingaliro amalingaliro.
Perekani mwamunayo mpata woti mumve bwino.
Nthawi zina kukhala chete kwa munthu yemwe amagwira ntchito molakwika ndi njira yowonongolera - njira yolanga, kusonyeza kukhumudwa: mwachitsanzo, ngati atakhala chete ndi inu, koma nthawi yomweyo amalankhulana bwino ndi wina aliyense. Kukakamiza mkazi kuti adzichepetse yekha, amatsimikizira yekha, amadzipangitsa yekha kukhala wofunikira. Musati mutengeke. Kapena dikirani mpaka atayankhula, kapena mwakachetechete ndi mwamtendere kukambirana nkhaniyi - monga akuluakulu. Kodi pali nkhani yomwe imafuna chisankho, pokambirana yomwe ikuyimira ndikupita ku chitetezo chosalankhula?
Ngati nkofunika kuti mumve yankho lanu, yesetsani kuchipeza. Njira imadalira malingaliro anu ndi mwayi. Sankhani ngati mukuumiriza. Ngati mukulimbikira, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kumvetsera yankho lirilonse - zabwino komanso zoipa.