Koma, kodi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zotheka kukomana ndi munthu wotero ngati munthu wamakono - wotetezera wa ofooka? Si chinsinsi chakuti dziko lathu lakhala lopanda pake komanso lopweteketsa ndipo nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti palibe amene angateteze mtsikana kwa achifwamba ndipo sadzabwezeretsanso ngongole kwa agogo ake. Kodi mungamvetse bwanji ngati mnyamata wanu angathe kuchita zimenezi?
Choyamba, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti amuna omwe angathedi kuchita chinachake, sangathe kuyankhula nthawi zonse. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha khalidwe lawo. Amuna enieni samakonda kwenikweni kunena za zochitika zawo, chifukwa sawona chilichonse mwachilendo, chachilendo komanso choyenera kupatsidwa chidwi. Zosiyana ndi zomwe zimakhala zosiyana ndi omwe amalankhula nthawi zonse zomwe angachite ngati pamakhala mkangano uliwonse, ndipo amatha kupembedzera kwa munthu wapafupi kapena wosadziwika. Anyamatawa mumitundu yonse amafotokoza khalidwe lawo, mawu onse, manja onse ndi kupweteka kulikonse. Amalonjeza kuti iwo adzapulumutsa komanso kuteteza, ngakhale palibe amene angafunse. Mwatsoka, mwa anthu oterowo mawu, nthawi zambiri, amasiyana ndi nkhaniyi. Ndipo, ngati achifwamba amakufikirani mumsewu, chabwino, mnyamata woteroyo amapereka chirichonse, ngati iye ndi inu sakugwedezeka, ndipo poipa kwambiri - iye adzathawa, kusiya bwenzi lake kuthetsa vuto lomwe liripo.
Chifukwa china chimene munthu angatetezere ofooka ndi chifundo. Ndipotu, khalidwe ili ndi lachichepere kuposa anyamata ambiri. Mwachidule, ambiri mwa iwo amabisa mosamala malingaliro awo, kuti asawonetse kufooka kwawo ndi kufatsa kwawo. Koma, khalidwe ili la khalidwe likuwonekera ngakhale popanda mawu. Izo zawululidwa mu kuti munthu sadzanyalanyaza konse, kunyoza ndi kuseka kwa iwo omwe ali ofooka kuposa iye. Mnyamata woteroyo akhoza kusiyanitsidwa ndikuti samatsata anthu kuyambira ali aang'ono. Ngati kampaniyo ikunyoza wamng'ono kwambiri ndi wofooka kwambiri, sangayanjane ndi ena, koma, m'malo mwake, adzayimira chitetezo. Achinyamata awa saopa maganizo a gululi, chifukwa amadziwa kuti akhoza kuteteza okha kwa aliyense. Ndipo sikumenyana chabe. Anthu oterowo, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mau abwino, kotero amatha kugwiritsa ntchito ozunza m'malo awo, kungoyankhula naye. Inde, mwamuna weniweni sadzatambasula dzanja lake kwa mkazi, ziribe kanthu momwe aliri woipa, ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe iye aliri wolakwika. Ngakhale kuti akumva chisoni, munthu woteroyo amamvetsa kuti mkazi ndi wofooka kwambiri ndipo ngati amumenya, ndithudi sangawonjezere ku ulemu wake, chifukwa ngakhale zida zankhondo zonse za ulemu zimanena kuti kugunda osasamalika ndi kochepa. Ndipo msungwanayo, sali womangidwa, chifukwa chida cha bamboyo, pazimenezi, ndi mphamvu yake, yomwe mkaziyo alibe. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ngati anyamata akukweza dzanja lake pa inu, sikuyenera kuyembekezera kuti adzakhala mtsogoleri wa ofooka. Chowonadi ndi chakuti, kwenikweni, iye ndi wofooka yekha, kutanthauza kuti sangathe konse kukana anthu omwe ali amphamvu mwamakhalidwe ndi mwathupi. Zikhoza kukhala kuti pamene akukakamizidwa, sadzakutetezani, koma adzachita zonse kuti asakhumudwe ndi kumasulidwa. Anyamatawa sayenera kudalirika, chifukwa, zingakhale bwino kuti panthawi yovuta mudzasiyidwa nokha ndipo mmalo momuthandizira, mosakayikira, mudzapangidwa.
Chikhalidwe china chomwe sichivomerezeka kwa munthu yemwe amateteza ofooka ndi nkhanza. Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu achiwawa nthawi zonse amazunza anthu ofooka kuti adziwonetse okha. Komanso, izi zikhoza kukhala chiwonetsero cha zolakwika zina, pamene munthu amabweretsa chisangalalo poyang'ana momwe munthu yemwe mwachiwonekere sangathe kumupatsa chilango choyenera akuvutika. Anthu oterewa samakonda nyama ndipo samaphonya mwayi wakuwapweteka. Ngati muwona chibwenzi chanu ngati chonchi, ganizirani mofatsa ngati mukuyenera kupitiriza naye. Chowonadi n'chakuti anyamatawa amakhala amanyenga m'mabanja awo. Komanso, sikuti akazi okha amavutika, komanso ana, monga ofooka. Abambo oterewa amapanga ntchito zopanda malire ndipo, pamene mwana sangathe kuzikwaniritsa, amabwera ndi chilango, choyenera ndi nkhanza zazikulu. Chifukwa cha khalidweli chingakhale chakuti pa mnyamata wotero akadali mwana, nthawi zambiri komanso kusekedwa, koma sanapeze mphamvu yodzudzula olakwawo. Atakula, munthu woteroyo amayamba kuchita mofanana ndi momwe amamuchitira, poyerekeza ndi omwe ali ofooka kuposa iyeyo. Ili ndibwezera kubwezera ana onse. Tsoka ilo, munthu uyu ndivuta kwambiri kusintha. Ngati anasankha khalidwe lotere nthawi yaitali, palibe chomwe chingasinthe maganizo ake kuwona. Choncho, musaganize mochuluka kuti mutha kumukakamiza ndikumupangitsa kukhala munthu weniweni. Mwinamwake, iye adzakuimbani mlandu chifukwa chosamuwona munthu mwa iye ndi kuwononga ulemu wake. Chotsatira cha mikangano yotereyi ikhoza kukhala kusamvana kapena nkhanza zomwe zafotokozedwa kwa inu. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ngati muwona kuti mnyamata ali ndi chidwi chokondwera, kuyang'ana momwe ofooka amavutikira, ndi bwino kuyesera kufufuza mkhalidwewu mokwanira popanda kuyesa kulungamitsa. Ngati mukuzindikira kuti amachokera ku maganizo ake komanso makhalidwe ake kuposa momwe munthu wachibadwa amamvera, njira yabwino yothetsera mavuto idzakhala yopitilirabe.
Ngati mnyamatayo sakuwonetsa nkhanza kwa ofooka, samalankhulana za zovuta komanso amadziwa mmene angamverere, kenako pambali panu munthu wamakono ndi womuteteza wa ofooka. Ndi kwa munthu wotereyo yemwe mungadalire pazochitika zilizonse ndikuonetsetsa kuti sangakulekerereni nokha ndi mavuto. Mnyamata uyu sadzayesera kuoneka ngati msilikali ndi wolimba mtima, amangochita monga akulamulira ulemu ndi chikumbumtima cha munthu weniweni.