Pezani zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa atsikana ndi anyamata akuyamba pazaka zosiyana. Avereji ya msinkhu kwa nthawi yoyamba nthawi zambiri ndi gawo pakati pa zaka 17-21. Panthawiyi, chikondi choyamba ndizochitikira, ndipo njira yakutha msinkhu imatha. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kugonana kumangokhala kosavulaza thanzi, komanso kumathandiza. Inde, ndi kofunika kuti tiyandikire izi ndi malingaliro, ndipo timamvetsetsa udindo wonse ndipo sitiiwala za kulera.
Kotero inu munaganiza kuti mutenge gawo ili. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti ndilo lingaliro lanu, osati abwenzi, abwenzi abwenzi kapena munthu wopitiriza. Atsikana amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi funso lokhalo: "Kodi zimapweteka mtsikana kuti agonepo nthawi yoyamba?". Ndi pa iye amene tiyesa kuyankha tsopano.
Ziri bwanji?
Inde, pamene njirayo ikuchitika, mwakhala mukudziwiratu kwa nthawi yaitali, mukuwerenga mabuku ambiri, mutatha kuwona kanema kapena nkhani za anzanu odziwa zambiri. Koma muli ndi mafunso ambiri omwe mungayankhe pokhapokha mutengapo gawo lofunika kwambiri. Koma pali maunthu angapo omwe ayenera kuganiziridwa, kotero kuti choyamba chanu chidzapambana. Ndipotu izi zikhoza kudalira pa chithandizo chamankhwala. Kulankhulana pa nkhaniyi ndi kotheka komanso ndi amayi, ngati muli ndi maganizo obisika, kapena kuonana ndi dokotala. Ndikhulupirire, pempho lanu siliwoneka lokwanira, ndipo mutha kulandira mayankho oyenera mosavuta.
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri ndi chikhalidwe chanu. Muyenera kukhala mumtendere wokondwa kwambiri, mwinamwake njira yowonongeka ikhoza kukhala yovuta chifukwa cha kusowa kwa mafuta okwanira okwanira, kuphatikizapo kumverera kosasangalatsa, simudzamva kanthu kalikonse. Musathamangire ndi kukangana, choncho yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito zonsezi mutatsimikiza kuti simungalephereke. Yambani ndi zosawirizana, kapena momwe zimatchedwa kupuma. Ngati mnzanuyo akudziwa zambiri, akuloleni akusonyezeni chidwi komanso chifundo, ndipo simungayambe mpaka mutakonzekera. Musawope ngati nthawi yowonjezera ikufunika pa izi. Monga mnzanu, kukhala ndi chidziwitso chiyenera kutenga udindo wanu pa nthawi yoyamba. Musaiwale za kusankha bwino posankha, mkhalidwe waukulu umene ayenera kukhala kwathunthu kumasuka thupi lanu. Kuchokera mu mwayi wotsitsimutsa ndi makhalidwe anu aumunthu adzazindikira kukula kwake. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti zimamupweteka mtsikanayo nthawi yoyamba, ayenera kumvetsera zomwe akufuna komanso osafulumizitsa, ngakhale kuli kofunika kusiya ndi kusiya zinthu zonse mpaka nthawi yotsatira.
Kuganiza.
Choyamba, tiyeni tikumbukire zomwe njira ya defloration yokha ndiyo. Kuwongolera, kapena kutaya ungwiro - ndiko kupasuka kwa anthu, panthawi yoyamba kugonana. Nkhani zomwe zotsatiridwazi zimaphatikizidwa ndi ululu ndi magazi siziri zoona. Ndipotu, ngati zonse zikuchitidwa molondola komanso molondola, ndiye kuti padzakhala mavuto ochepa. Palinso milandu yapadera pamene mthirawo umang'ambika wokha m'maseŵera, kapena mwinamwake osati, chifukwa cha vuto la thupi. Choncho, nthawi zambiri amai samakhala ndi maganizo olakwika pamene agonana nthawi yoyamba. Ndipo funso loti ngati zinali zopweteka kwa mtsikana kuti agonepo nthawi yoyamba, yankhani "ayi". Pali milandu pamene mateka pa nthawi yoyamba kugonana amatha kutambasula, ndipo mtsikanayo akhoza kutaya chibwenzi pambuyo pachiwiri.
Kodi kuli bwino kuchita izi?
Mu maloto awo, atsikana ambiri amadzipangira okhaokha chikondi chawo usiku woyamba ndi okondedwa awo, komwe nthawi zambiri pali bedi lalikulu, maluwa, maluwa, ma kandulo komanso chikondi china. Koma mu moyo izi zimachitika kawirikawiri, ndipo kugonana koyamba ndikokhumudwitsa kwachinyamata. Choncho pokonzekera kuchita izi, lankhulani ndi mnzanuyo za malo omwe chilakolako chogonana chomwechi chidzachitike. Ndi bwino ngati muli ndi malo omwe muli nawo, ndipo muli ndi chitsimikizo chokwanira kuti palibe amene angakuvutitseni tsiku lonse, kapena usiku. Ndikofunika kuti padzakhala kusamba kofunda, ndi bedi losangalatsa, ndi zonse zomwe mungafune, kuphatikizapo tilu ndi nsalu zoyera. Kuyesera ndi maimidwe ndi malo koyamba sikoyenera. Dzichepetseni kusintha kwa umishonale ndi bedi losangalatsa. Musataye umaliseche wanu m'madzi, makamaka ngati matupi a chilengedwe, kapena kusambira nthawi zonse. Inde, madzi adzakuthandizani kuti muzitha kupumula, ndikuchotsani ululu wina, koma panthawi yomweyi pali leaching ya mafuta a chilengedwe, ndi kuthekera kwa matenda.
Kodi kugonana kumayamba liti?
Ngati tasiya makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino pa nkhaniyi, ndiye kuti zokhazokha ndizofunika kukhala zowonongeka. Kwa atsikana, kutha msinkhu kumadza pafupi ndi zaka 18-21, ndiye amitundu ndi mazenera amawumbidwa. Panthawi imeneyi, mateti amatha kutambasula mosavuta, zimakhala zotsekemera ndi misonzi popanda ululu uliwonse. Nthawi imeneyi imatha zaka 26. Pambuyo pa zaka zino zowonjezera zimakhala zocheperachepera, ndipo kupatukana ndi namwali, pazaka 30, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuposa zaka 20. Poyambirira nthawi yoyamba, ikhoza kuphatikizapo kupweteka kwina.
Choonadi china choyesa, chomwe sichifulumira ndi zotsatira za maphunziro omwe anachitidwa pakati pa akazi a mibadwo yosiyana. Choncho, kugonana kwabwino, komwe kugonana kwawo kunayamba zaka 16 zapitazo, kunakhala kovuta kwambiri, koma patangotha zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndikukhala ndi moyo wogonana nthawi zonse, pomwe iwo omwe anamwalira asanakwatire zaka 18-25, adamva kuti ndi apamwamba kwambiri danga losangalatsa pambuyo pa zaka 1,5-2.
Pamene, ndi ndani komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito usiku wanu woyamba - ziri kwa inu, lamulo lalikulu siliyenera kuthamangira, khalani okonzekera chirichonse ndipo chitani ndi munthu wachikondi ndi womvetsa bwino. Ndipotu, simukufuna kuti mukhale ndi maganizo oipa.