Pamene makandulo omwe amatsitsa mgonero wa chikondi amatha, mtima wanu umayamba kumenyana molimba. Koma osati kuchokera ku kuyembekezera kwa zomwe zidzatsatire mchere, koma kuchokera ku mantha a ululu - mnzanu wamuyaya wa chikondi ndi chilakolako. Nchifukwa chiyani nthawi yabwino kwambiri yolankhulana ndi okondedwa anu kukupatsani kuzunza koopsa kwambiri? Ndipo kodi n'zotheka kuwachotsa?
Sindikufuna ndipo sindingathe?
Chimene chimayambitsa kugonana pa nthawi yogonana ndi mkazi wamakono chikhoza kusagwirizana ndi mnzanu. Ndipo maphunziro olakwika, pamene makolo kuyambira ubwana amalimbikitsa mtsikana kuti kugonana ndi khalidwe loipa komanso loopsa. Zonsezi zimapereka umboni wakuti thupi limayamba kukana mphamvu zonse zosafuna "kulowerera", zomwe zimachititsa kuti thupi likhale lolimba.
Vuto lina ndilo "ululu" wa ululu: ngati munayamba mwasangalala ndi zinazake, simudzaiŵala ndipo muzomwe mukuyembekeza maonekedwe awo. Nthawi zina zimachitika motero: Mwamunayo sanamukhudze mkazi pano, ndipo tsopano akung'ung'udza mano ake.
Kuti mutulukemo mkangano wovuta, choyamba, muyenera kusintha maganizo anu pa maubwenzi apamtima. Werengani mabuku ofotokoza nkhaniyi, penyani mafilimu okonda zachikondi: amathandizira kudzutsa maganizo.
Ngati mumakonda mwamuna, yesetsani kumupangitsa kukhala wofunika kwambiri. Pangani vuto pamene kugonana sikungatheke, koma mukhoza kusonyezana chikondi. Kwa ichi, dziwe losambira, filimu kapena gulu. Kukhudza wokondedwa ndi kuyang'ana nkhope yake ndi kuyembekezera, mudzapereka ufulu wanu kumaganizo ndi kumva chikhumbo.
Zingakhale zabwino ndipo zimayesedwa
Njira yokondweretsera kugonana kwa mkazi wamakono yodzala ndi zoopsa zambiri - mimba yosafuna, matenda opatsirana pogonana, kuyendera kwa latex ... Pochita mantha, msungwana sangathe kumasuka ndikumva kupweteka chifukwa cha nkhawa.
Kuti musaganize za zotheka mavuto, konzani mantha anu ndikuganiza momwe mungadzitetezere. Adilesi kwa amayi azimayi - athandiza kapena kuthandizira kutenga njira za kulera. Ndipo pewani ocheza nawo pa "masiku oopsa".
Kumverera kwa chitetezo ndi kugonana kwa mkazi wamakono kumakhudzanso ndi malo opangira chikondi. Pakati pa chibwenzi chanu, musadandaule ndi lingaliro la ngati bedi la bedi limamveka kumbuyo kwa khoma, kaya mayi kapena mwanayo alowe mu chipinda.
Osavuta, wokondedwa.
Mwina "chikondi chanu" chimagwirizana ndi kuti wosankhidwa wanu ali ndi chiwalo chogonana chachikulu. Ngati iwe uli chete, mwamunayo sangadziwe za vuto lanu. Mwachibadwa, iye samva zopinga zirizonse, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti amanyalanyaza mphamvu zake ndipo samayendetsa zoyesayesa zake. Ngakhale kuti simunapemphe mobwerezabwereza "chiwongoladzanja", mnzanuyo sangazindikire kuti kumveka kumene mukupanga sikumveka kosautsa, koma kukulira.
Kulankhulana ndi mnzanu pa mutu wovutawu, musayamike pakutamanda ndipo musatopa ndi kubwereza zomwe mumakonda kwambiri komanso momwe mumadzikweza ndi kukula kwake. Ndipo, ndi chisoni, nenani kuti kupusa kwanu ndi kuchepa kwanu sikukuyenda bwino ndi nkhanza zake. Kuvomereza koteroko kumamupangitsa kukhala wofatsa.
Pulogalamuyi ndi yofunika kwambiri. Kugonana mu "ntchito yachikale" ndibwino kukonda kuyanjana. Komanso, nthawi zambiri mumayenera kutenga choyamba kuchokera kwa munthuyo, kutuluka pamwamba. Kotero inu mukhoza kuyendetsa njirayo nokha ndipo musamachite mantha ndi zotsatira zirizonse zosayembekezereka.