Kawirikawiri, mayi aliyense wachiwiri ali ndi chikhumbo chokulitsa malire a chidziwitso chawo cha kugonana, posakhalitsa amadzigwira okha kuganiza za chimodzi mwa zipatso zoletsedwa - kugonana koyamata . Koma chirichonse chomwe chinali ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro onse a ndondomeko yachisokonezo sizinasinthe pamutu wa kugonana kwabwino, iwo amatsutsana ndi kusamvetsetsa ndi mantha. Lero tinaganiza zoganizira chinthu ngati "kugonana kwa ana: mantha azimayi" omwe amatsagana nawo.
Monga lamulo, za kugonana kwa abambo, mantha amayi, poyamba, kambiranani za khalidwe labwino ndi lingaliro la ndondomekoyi. Kwa amayi ambiri, kugonana kofanana kumakhala kofanana ndi chinthu chodetsa komanso chochititsa manyazi. Koma mantha pa zochitika za kuvulala kotheka ndi kupweteka kwa thupi kumakhala yachiwiri ndipo sizomwe zimanyansidwa mwachilengedwe.
Opani choyamba: Mzimayi samadziwa zambiri zokhudza kugonana kwa abambo, koma chifukwa cha zomwe anamva, amakhulupirira kuti safunikira kuti agwirizane
Inde, m'dziko lathu pali zinthu zambiri zomwe sitidziwa ndipo sizikunena kuti izi ndizoipa ndipo ziyenera kuchititsa mantha.
Koma pano ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti kugonana kwa abambo kwatchulidwa kamodzi kokha m'mbiri ya anthu. Kuyambira nthawi ya chitukuko cha kale, kugonana kwa mtundu umenewu kunkalemekezedwa mwachisangalalo chokhalira pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi komanso chofunika kwambiri, palibe amene adafa ndi izi.
Kuopa chachiwiri: Mzimayi adali ndi vuto loyipa kale, kapena bwenzi lake lidafotokozera momwe ilo likhalire loopsya
Kuopa koteroko kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, kovuta kwambiri kuwoloka. Pano, kuti mupeze kachilombo komanso chilakolako choyesa kugonana, zingatenge miyezi kapena zaka. Koma ngakhale pambuyo pa khama lakutali, sizingatheke nthawi zonse kupeza chiyanjano pa nkhani yovutayi. Nthawi zambiri, izi zimachitika panthawi imene munthu wosalimba kapena wachiwawa amayesa kuthana ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana popanda ubwino woyenera komanso wopanda maphunziro.
Ndipotu, kupweteka kwa akazi ndi kochepa kwambiri kusiyana ndi kwa amuna, koma pakali pano musatseke maso anu ndikuyesera kupitiliza kupyolera mu mphamvu, chifukwa izi zimapangitsa kusakhutira kwa amayi pambuyo pa kugonana komanso kukana kubwereza kachiwiri.
Kugonana ndi chilakolako cha thupi chomwe chiyenera kupatsa mkazi chisangalalo chochuluka kusiyana ndi kugonana kwa amayi. Choncho, musamachite izi mofulumira komanso molimbika. Zikakhala kuti wokondedwayo amachita zonse bwino ndipo sapita msanga kulikonse, mkaziyo apitiriza kumupatsanso kugonana koyambirira m'tsogolo.
Opani chachitatu: mkaziyo anali ndi chilakolako chamagulu, chomwe iye ankakonda, koma amayamba kuganiza kuti nthawi zambiri ntchito ndi yosafunikira ndi yoopsa kwa iwo
Chifukwa chachikulu cha mantha awa azimayi ndi chidziwitso chofanana, chifukwa anthu amaganiza kuti kugonana kwapakati pafupipafupi kumathandiza kuti pakhale matenda osiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa eema, izi zimakhala kuphwanya matumbo a m'mimba kapena matenda a urogenital.
Pankhaniyi, pali zitsanzo zambiri pamene maanja nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana ndi abambo ndipo amayi alibe vuto lililonse la thanzi. Komabe, kugonana kwa mtundu umenewu kumathandiza kupeĊµa mimba yosafunika.
Ndipo potsiriza, ine ndikufuna kuwonjezera kuti mantha onse okhudza kugonana kwa anal ali ndi zifukwa zawo ndi kukana, kotero, iwo ali ndi ufulu kumoyo. Koma ngati mukufuna kuchepetsa moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana, muyenera kuthana ndi mantha anu ndikuyesa kugonana koyamba. Koma samangokhalira kugonana ndi abambo, chifukwa mukuchita zinthu mwachidwi, muyenera kusamala. Ndipo, ndithudi, musaiwale kuti malingaliro onse onena za kupewa matenda ndi ofanana, monga kugonana kwa abambo: kugonana kumakhala ndi munthu wathanzi, ndipo mukuyenera kusaiwala za kugwiritsa ntchito makondomu ndi mafuta apadera. Kumbukirani kuti ndi njira yoyenera ndi kukonzekera kugonana kwa abambo, simungangolandira zokondweretsa zokha, koma mumayiwala za mantha anu (kapena kuchotsani zomwe zilipo) kwanthawi zonse.