Nthawi yodikirira kwa nthawi yayitali - mwakhala mayi! Pali kale atatu mwa inu, ndipo mwinamwake kwambiri ... Tsopano membala watsopano wa banja adawonekeratu - wamng'ono, wokongola, wodikiridwa komanso wofunira chidwi kwa munthu wake. Ngakhale kuti mwatopa pambuyo pobadwa, muyenera kukhala ndi udindo watsopano ndipo musaiwale za mwamuna wanu wokondedwa ndi wachikondi ...
Ndikuganiza kuti si makolo onse amtsogolo omwe amaganiza za moyo wa kugonana ndi maonekedwe a mwana, koma pachabe ... Ndikofunika kuti musakonzekere makhalidwe anu nthawi imeneyi. Momwe mungakhazikitsire ubale wapamtima mukatha kubadwa, nkhaniyi ikukuuzani. Ndizofunika, ndithudi, kuti "mukumane" nazo musanayambe kuvutika.
Pambuyo pobereka, mkazi amasintha maganizo, tsopano chikondi chake ndi chidwi chake zimakhala pazing'ono, koma musaiwale za munthu wokondedwayo. Kuti muthe kuchira, mufunika masabata 6-8, mosasamala kanthu kuti mwabereka kapena gawo la chakudya. Nthawi imeneyi ndi yofunika kupirira. Choyamba, pali chiberekero cha chiberekero ndi umaliseche pambuyo pa kubereka, ndipo, kachiwiri, padzakhala nthawi yokonzanso zikhalidwe zatsopano. Musathamangire! Ndipotu, kugonana musanafike msanga kungayambitse kupweteka ndi kutupa. Choncho, m'pofunika kufotokozeratu nthawi yodziletsa ndi mwamuna, kotero kuti sizatsopano komanso zosadabwitsa kwa iye. Komabe, sindikulangiza maganizo anga kokha ku chikondi cha platonic. Ubale wapamtima, kugonana pamlomo - izi ndi zomwe mukusowa tsopano! Mudzati: "Liti?" Inde, nthawi iliyonse imene mukufuna! Chinthu chachikulu ndicho chikhumbo cholimbikitsa ndi kulimbikitsa malingaliro anu ndi maubwenzi. Ndipo ngakhale mutatopa, mutha kupeza nthawi yokumbatira ndikupsompsona.
Kugonana koyamba pambuyo pa kubereka
Amuna oyamba atabereka amakhala ofanana ndi kugonana koyamba. Inu simukudziwa momwe chirichonse chidzakhalire. Ndipo ngati zida zikugwiritsidwa ntchito chifukwa cha kupweteka kapena episiotomi (kudula kwa perineum), ndiye kuti mantha ndi aakulu kwambiri. Choncho, monga nthawi yoyamba, payenera kukhala chifundo ndi chikondi. Mwamuna ayenera kupeĊµa zofuna zachiwawa za chilakolako chake ndi chiwonetsero chochuluka monga momwe zingathere.
Mavuto angakhalepo
Vuto lalikulu limene amayi ambiri amakumana nawo pa nthawi yoberekera ndi ubweya wouma. Izi zimafotokozedwa, choyamba, ndi kusintha kwa mahomoni (kusowa kwa estrogens), ndipo kachiwiri, ndi kutopa.
Sizovuta kwambiri kupirira zonsezi. Tsopano anagulitsa ma gels apamtima, mafuta, osati m'masitolo ogonana, komanso m'masitolo ndi masitolo. Choncho, ndikuganiza kuti ndibwino kugula "chinyengo" chotere kapena kulamula mwamuna kuti akhale "mphatso".
Nkhani zapakhomo ziyenera kufalitsidwa. Lolani, ngati n'kotheka, mwamuna wanu amakuthandizani, ndipo simuyenera kukana thandizo lochokera kwa achibale. Kugona tulo - kugona ndi inu, chifukwa mayi woyamwitsa amafunikira mpumulo wochuluka. Dziko lamakonoli lakhala likuthandizira kwambiri ntchito yamayi. Makina ochotsa, makina ochapa amachepetsa kwambiri ntchito zapakhomo.
Dzikondeni nokha!
Nthawi zambiri vuto la kugonana pakati pa nthawi yobereka ndilokusasangalatsa mkaziyo ndi maonekedwe ake: mapaundi owonjezera, mabere akulu, zizindikiro ... Ndikuona kuti izi sizinakhutsidwe ndi amuna omwe sagwirizana ndi mkaziyo. Muyenera kudzikonda nokha kuti ndinu ndani!
Kuwonjezera apo, musaiwale kudzipenyerera nokha kuti mupitirize kumva amayi osati amayi okha. Dzichepetseni kamodzi pa sabata ndi masikiti a nkhope, chitani tsitsi lanu, chitani zozizwitsa, kupanga maonekedwe okongola, kumapeto kumverera ngati mkazi - wofunidwa, wokongola, wokondedwa.
Kuchokera pazochitikira zanu
Patsiku la kubadwa kwa mwana wanga wamkazi woyembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali, ndinayandikana ndi chikondi ndi chidwi cha mwamuna wanga. Tsiku lomwelo tinamva chikhumbo chodabwitsa cha chibwenzi ... Osati kanthu akunena: "Chipatso choletsedwa ndi chokoma." Pambuyo poyeretsa kuchipatala cha amayi omwe akuyembekezera, vuto la chisamaliro linayamba, chilakolako cha kugonana sichinabwere. Komabe, sitinaiwale kumvetsera amuna a mzake: kumpsompsona, kupsinja - chirichonse chinali.
Ndipo tsopano mphindi yayitali yadikira yafika! Tsiku limenelo, sindinakhutire. Chifukwa cha chirichonse chinali, choyamba, mantha ndi kuuma kwa chikazi. Ngakhale zilizonse, tinagonjetsa vutoli! Mafuta, mafilimu opusa, mafuta onunkhira, chikondi chathu chinapulumutsa.
Ndondomeko ya kukhazikitsa ubale wapamtima pakabereka kubadwa kwatitenga pafupifupi miyezi inayi (yomwe masabata asanu ndi atatu anali "kubwerera pambuyo pake"). Ndidzanena chinthu chimodzi, palibe chomwe chingatheke ngati mukufunadi!
Kugonana ndikumenyana ndi vuto la postpartum depression
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za postpartum depress psychologist amasiyanitsa bwino kuti alibe chilakolako chogonana. Malinga ndi chiwerengero, amayi oposa 40% amavutika m'maubwenzi apamtima patatha miyezi itatu atabadwa ndipo pafupifupi 18% amavutika ndi mavuto ofanana kwa chaka chimodzi. Ndipo akazi owerengeka okha ndi omwe amasangalala ndi zoyesayesa zoyamba.
Phunzirani kumasuka. Mayi wodekha, makolo okondwa - chitsimikizo cha mtendere wa mwanayo. Gwiritsani ntchito mphindi zochepa pa tsiku kuti muzisangalala, kumvetsera nyimbo zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti muzitha kupumula mosavuta kuchokera kukhudza kwa mwamuna wake.
Khalani olimba! Pambuyo pake, iwe unabereka mwana wosirira ndi wokondedwa - zotsatira za chikondi chako. Kodi izi ndi zofanana? Kodi mavuto omwe simukukumana nawo ndi awa? Makamaka nthawi imayenda mofulumira, ndipo mwezi uliwonse zidzakhala zosavuta, ndipo zosavuta. Kumbukirani kupweteka, machiritso, mwana amakula ndikugona bwino. Ndipo musakhumudwe pambuyo pa kulephera kwina. Izi ndizochitika, osati zonse mwakamodzi, koma zonse panthawi iliyonse.
Mkhalidwe wa amayi azimayi wapindula ndi mphamvu zowonjezera, kuyambitsa zomwe zingatheke kutembenuza mapiri. Ndikudziwa ndithu!