Chisangalalo, chisangalalo, kunjenjemera, mantha, chilakolako, kukayikira - ndi liti pamene mudzakumanepo ndi maganizo ngati osagonana ndi munthu watsopano? Inu nonse mundiyembekezera izi, mwakonzeka, munalimbikitsa chilakolako ndipo kugwirizana sikuthera momwe munkafunira chifukwa cha zomwe munakumana nazo, komanso chifukwa cha zolakwa zanu. Kodi mungatani kuti nonse muzikondweretsa kugonana koyamba?
Malamulo a oyamba ndi abwenzi ake atsopano
Pofuna kugonana koyambirira, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi nthawi yoyenera, pamene onse ali okonzeka ndipo akufuna kuyandikana, kutanthauzira ubale wanu ndi mlingo wotsatira. Pamene mwamuna ali wolimbikira kwambiri, ndipo mkazi sadziwa chitsiriziro chisanafike ndipo avomereza kuti akhale pachibwenzi chifukwa choopa kutaya mnzanuyo, ndiye kuti sangasangalale. Pa chifukwa chimenechi, nthawi zonse yankho likhale zazhenshchina, chifukwa chidaliro cha chilakolako, chidwi cha mtsikana ndi chiyanjano choyamba chogonana.
1. Ndikofunika kumwetulira pamanyazi
Zosokoneza nthawi zonse zimapeweka. Mwachitsanzo, iwo ankangomanga pamphumi pawo, akuphwanya mawondo ndi zina zotero. Musayesere kuchita ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika, kuyesa kukweza mphindi yovutayi. Sungani ndi kupsompsona mnzanuyo. Pezani chisokonezo chosasokonezeka ndikupitiriza kuchita zomwe mwaima. Iwo samagwirizanitsa zovuta, koma manyazi awo kwa iwo, omwe amachititsa akapolo awo kukhala akapolo.
2. Zofufuza za nthawi zabwino zimasiyidwa bwino
Nthawi zabwino siziyenera kubwezeretsedwa kwa nthawi yaitali, koma sizinanso zofunikira kuti zifulumire zolakwika zawo. Kugonana ndi kuwala, "zovuta" ndi malo osadziwika, zipangizo zina - zonsezi zimafuna kukhala ndi ubwenzi wapadera ndi Spartner ndi kudalira wina ndi mnzake. Ambiri amavomereza zoyesera zosiyanasiyana kuti asakhale zakomleksovannoy "simpleton".
Mukuda nkhaŵa kuti, mwachitsanzo, muli ndi bere losayenera, cellulite komanso amadandaula ndi zofooka zake. Ndi zachilengedwe pamene mukufuna kukhala okondweretsa kuti mutuluke. Mwachitsanzo, kuwala komwe kungakulepheretseni kuti musadzisonyeze nokha ngati wokondeka kwambiri, ndipo kugonana kwachiwiri sikungakhale. Pamene chirichonse chidzachitika pang'onopang'ono, mudzafika pakali pano ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kuyesera ndi ufulu.
3. Kambiranani wina ndi mnzake
Zomwe zinachitikira awiri awiriwa zimasonyeza kuti maganizo omwe amachitikira pa nthawi yoyamba (komanso osati) amaiwalika ndi nthawi. Ndimangokumbukira kuti mumamva bwino. Komabe, pamene kukumbukira kumakhalabe mawu, ziganizo, mawu, ndiye adzakokedwa ndi mndandanda wa zokondweretsa komanso zosangalatsa, zomwe inu munakumana nazo nthawi yomweyo.
4. Awuzeni mnzanu momwe mumakonda
Pakati pa kugonana koyamba, palibe munthu amene ali ndi mapu a mapu, ndipo chifukwa chake sexbolshe amafanana ndi kuzindikira. Kusatsimikizika koteroko kwa chidaliro ngakhale kwa inu, kapena kwa wokondedwa sagwirizana. Choncho, ndi nthawi yoika zizindikiro zina, zomwe zimapanga "mapu" ake ndi matupi anu. Ndiuzeni zomwe ziri bwino kuti iye akupangitseni inu kumverera. Onaninso momwe amachitira, kuti magawo olakwika a thupi lake kwa inu asakhale chinsinsi.
5. Musamachite chilichonse mwakamodzi
Inde, mukufuna kumakondana wina ndi mzake, kuti muwonetse kutali komwe mwaphunzira mukukonda chikondi chachithupi, kapena mukufuna kubwereza filimu yowonongeka ndi zakukhutira. Komabe, ndi kugonana koyamba si nthawi yoti muyese chidziwitso chawo, ndi nthawi yokondana wina ndi mzake.
Zovuta zosiyana zogonana, kapena kusintha kosasintha kwa kugonana kwawo koyamba kumakhala masewera olimbitsa thupi. Zonsezi zikhoza kumchititsa manyazi munthu, chifukwa cha ntchitoyi, amuna ambiri samaganizira za zomwe amadziwa, koma za kumene anaphunzira. Komanso, zimakhala zochititsa mantha, chifukwa kugonana ndi koyenera kulandira zosangalatsa, komanso kuzipereka kwa mnzanuyo, koma kuti musaganize momwe mbiri yanu siyiyenera kugwetsedwa.
6. Musatsanzire
Funso limeneli ndi lovuta kwambiri, chifukwa ndikumveka kosiyana ndi momwe mungayankhire wokondedwa wanu, mumusangalatse kwambiri. Komabe, pali mbali ina: pamene simukukonda zomwe mnzanuyo akuchita, ndipo mwatopa, koma fano lachitetezo chanu, ndiye kuti mumayika chinthu chomwecho nthawi yotsatira. Ngati simukufuna kuthetsa ubale wanu mutatha kugonana, yesetsani kumuuza munthuyo momwe angakuchitireni zabwino, kapena kuyembekezera kukhumudwa kwotsatira.
7. Ndi bwino kuti mwapang'onopang'ono mukwaniritse mgwirizano woyamba kuposa mwamsanga
Kupanda chithunzithunzi chogonana, kugonana mofulumira, kukonda kusuta fodya kumachotsedwa kwambiri. Inde, mudzalandira kalata yoyembekezereka kwa nthawi yaitali, koma onani kuti izi, zofulumira-kuthamanga, pamapeto, zingathe kutsogolera "Zinali chiyani?". Simungokumbukire zomwe zinachitika, kotero kugonana koyamba sikudzakumbukiridwanso, kusiya chosowa m'malo mwachokhakha, m'malo pomwe ufulu uyenera kukhala wachikondi, chikondi, ndi nthawi yaitali, kukukoka kukhudza kunjenjemera.
8. Fotokozani zovutazo "Ayi"
Kuchokera ku malingaliro opweteka mulibe kutsika kokwanira ndi mimba yofewa kuti muchotse. Ngakhale eni eni thupi angapeze zosachepera zitatu.
Ndikungofunanso kukumbutsaninso kuti mu chisangalalo chochuluka, wokondedwayo amakonda zonse zomwe ali nazo pansi pa manja ake, milomo yake komanso ngakhale mimba yonse idzakhala malo abwino kwa thupi. Musamavutike ndipo yesetsani kumasuka mmene mungathere.
9. Nthawi zonse muzilemekeza chitetezo
Ziribe kanthu kuti zimakhudza bwanji kugonana, ngakhale kuti chikhumbo chokana kukondweretsa kugwiritsa ntchito kondomu, makamaka kuchokera pamisonkhano yonse, ndiyenela kuyandikira nkhaniyi mosamala, kuti ikhale yoyenera. Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mulibe zipepala zokhudzana ndi kusawa kwa matenda omwe amafalitsidwa ndi njira yogonana, ndiye kuti kugwiritsa ntchito njira za kulera ndi koyenera. Ndipotu, miyezi yothandizidwa ndi chilakolako, komanso kugonana kwabwino sikuli koyenera.
10. Lamulo lotsatira silili lamulo
Musamamvetsetse kuti pali malangizo, zomwe ndi zabwino kumvetsera khalidwe lanu usiku woyamba ndi mnzanuyo. Ndiponsotu, ndi bwino kukhala mwachibadwa kwamuyaya, osati kuyesa. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuwona mtima kungowonjezera chidaliro kwa inu ndi chisangalalo. Ndiponso, ngati munthu watsopano sali woyenera kukhala paubwenzi wa nthawi yaitali, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi wakukonzekera, kuphunzitsa, kotero kuti m'tsogolomu zonse zinali pamlingo wapamwamba.