Ambiri aife timayesetsa kusiyanitsa moyo wathu wa kugonana. Koma kodi chingachitike ngati malo onse odziwika atayikidwa kale, palibe nthawi yophunzira zatsopano, koma simukukonda kwambiri zatsopano? Njira yabwino yotsitsimutsa ubale ndi kulola munthu wanu kuti adziyerekeze mwa njira yatsopano. Amuna amangokonda masewera oterewa pabedi awiri. Ndikoyenera kufufuza.
Palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi, kukana kapena kunena kuti izi ndizochepa - sizikuvutitsa aliyense, koma iwe ukhoza kungoletsedwa. Pitani ku shopu la kugonana ndikuyang'anirani zovala zazikulu zomwe amapereka - kuchokera kwa mayi wopanda sukulu wopita ku sukulu yopita kumsasa. Bwanji, mukuganiza bwanji? Chifukwa chofunika chimapereka chakudya. Choncho perekani wokondedwa wanu zomwe akufuna. Kenaka, tidzakambirana za maudindo ogonana omwe amuna amakonda komanso chifukwa chake.
1. Wophunzira kapena wophunzira
Musamunene wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha pedophilia. Kumbukirani, izi ndizo masewero chabe, osati moyo weniweniwo. Zoona zake n'zakuti anyamata akakhala achinyamata, mahomoni amayamba kukwiya m'matupi awo. Pa nthawi yomweyi, asungwanawo sali "okongola" kuti azigwirizana ndi anzawo. Chilengedwe chinasewera nawo kwambiri nthabwala yoopsa. Ziwalo zawo zogonana zimakula mofulumira kuposa deta yamaganizo. Amamva kufunika kwa kugonana popanda chilakolako choyang'anira, popanda chikondi ndi zowawa. Pambuyo pake, pamene munthu akufika kale kukhwima, amadziwa mwachidwi kuti adziwe kusiyana kwa chibwenzi ndi mtsikana.
Chifukwa china chofuna kuona mnzanuyo mu ntchitoyi chikhoza kukhala chikhulupiliro cha nthawi imeneyo pamene chirichonse chinangoyambira. Pamene mudali okongola, okongola komanso osasamala, ndipo mwanjira inawoneka ngati mtsikana.
2. Wotsogolera kapena mphunzitsi
Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti n'chifukwa chiyani pafupifupi filimu yonse yachisanu ndi itatu yolaula, amai amawonetsedwa m'chifanizo cha mphunzitsi wachikulire ndi wokopeka? Chirichonse chimangobwera mpaka ku psychology. Kawirikawiri mphunzitsi wachinyamata amakhala chikondi choyamba cha mnyamata. Nthawi zambiri, zimabisika ndi platonic. Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zina mwamuna amafuna kuchita chiwerewere ndi aphunzitsi, omwe ndi kubwezera chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe amamupatsa. Koma izi zimachitika kawirikawiri. Konzani "chiwerewere" cha kugonana pabedi kwa awiri ndipo mutha kukondwera kale.
3. Mkazi wamalonda kapena vampu yazimayi
Zingakhale zozizwitsa pang'ono kuti mkazi wotere wosakwatiwa, nthawi zina ngakhale wazimayi, ndi wofunika kwambiri mu malingaliro achimuna. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Ndi zophweka. Mwamuna mwa chilengedwe - msaki. Ndipo amamuwona mkazi ngati nyama. Ndikovuta kwambiri kuchotsa, ndikofunika kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, mutha kuvomereza, kodi mukusangalatsanso bwanji abakha omwe amatha kuwombera? Choncho mkazi ali wamphamvu, wolamulira, wosafikika, amene amafunika kugonjetsedwa, kuponderezedwa ndipo adzakhala wopambana kwambiri kwa mwamuna.
Akatswiri ena amalingaliro amakhulupirira kuti malingaliro ameneŵa amapezeka nthawi zambiri pakati pa amuna omwe ataya. Anthu amene sanakwanitse kuchita chilichonse m'moyo weniweni, yesetsani kukhala wopambana m'malingaliro awo ndi kulota za kugonana ndi chikazi chakazi. Koma izi sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Mulimonsemo, ndibwino kuyesa kukhala wokongola kwambiri pabedi. Kugonana kudzakhala kodabwitsa.
4. Mlembi kapena wogwira ntchito
Amuna amakonda kulamula amayi - onse m'moyo komanso kuntchito. Ndipo nthawi zambiri izi zikuphatikizapo kulamulira mu kugonana. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwamuna asunge zolinga zake ndikukakamiza mkazi kuti achite zomwe amafuna kwambiri pa kugonana.
Mwamuna akamasankha mkazi - wogonjera kapena mlembi, samaganizira za makhalidwe ake okhaokha. Ndipo nthawi zina samamvetsera ngakhale iwo. Choncho nthabwala zopanda pake za alembi ndi abambo nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndi zifukwa zenizeni. Koma pali vuto limodzi - osati nthawi zonse bwana ali ndi mwayi wogona ndi wogwira ntchito. Pambuyo pa zonse, sikuti aliyense ali wokonzeka kuchita "izi" za malipiro kapena bonasi. Pali amayi odzitukumula amene sangakwanitse izi. Koma malingaliro a mutu wa abambo akadalipo, ndipo sangakane kutaya zochitikazi ndi mkazi wake. Masewera oterewa ndi amodzi komanso osangalatsa kwambiri kwa amuna.
5. Namwino kapena dokotala
Chimodzi mwa ziwerengero zovina kwambiri zomwe zimayenera kuti magulu ophatikizira azikhala ndi namwino wamkulu pa apron. Chovala ichi chikhoza kugulitsidwa mu sitolo iliyonse ya kugonana. Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti mukuganiza bwanji? Nchifukwa chiyani mnzanu akufuna kukuwonani pa ntchitoyi?
Ogwira ntchito kuchipatala nthawi zambiri amagwirizanitsidwa ndi ululu. Ndi chifukwa chake munthu akufuna kuona chithunzi chosiyana cha madokotala. Mu malingaliro oterowo, namwino akuti: "Chotsani zovala zanu!" Osati kwa jekeseni zopweteka, koma kuti mupatse mwamuna chisangalalo. Pali njira zambiri zochitira dokotala ndi wodwala. Mwachitsanzo, chithunzithunzi cha sexiest ndi chithunzi cha amayi a mano. Mulole mwamuna wanu akhale pa mpando, ndipo mumayese pakamwa pake, mumakhudze pachifuwa chake ndi chifuwa chake. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi mumatenthedwa ndipo mumayambira pang'onopang'ono musagwirizane ndi mafilimu, pitirizani kuyesa. Chabwino, pangani zochitika zina nokha. Mulimonsemo, mwamuna wanu adzakhala wopenga za inu.
6. Woyang'anira
Sitikudziwa ngati kafukufuku adachitidwapo pa mutu wakuti: "Ndi chiani chiwerengero cha amuna omwe akuuluka pa ndege loto la maloto a othawira ndege"? Sindikudziwika bwino chiwerengero chenicheni cha amuna omwe akhala akuyendera ndi malingaliro oterowo. Koma ife tikudziwa kokha kuti pali amuna ochuluka chotero. Zambiri, kuweruzidwa ndi kupezeka kwanthawi zonse kwa ogwira ntchito m'masitolo ogonana. Ndipo sizosadabwitsa. Komabe, mawonekedwe achiwerewere, miyendo yochepa kwambiri ndi kumwetulira kokoma kwa atsikana okongola omwe amayenda mosamala pamwamba pa nyumba ya ndege, okonzeka kukwaniritsa zosangalatsa zilizonse - maloto a amuna ambiri. Ndipo kukhumba uku kukwanilitsa zofunikira zonse (ndithudi, pamapeto a mphamvu za munthu) sizingatheke koma kumayambitsa kugonana.
7. Woyang'anira
Mu psychology, chilakolako cha mwamuna kukhala ndi mkazi mwa mawonekedwe a waitress chimakhala chofanana ndi chithunzi cha mdindo. Dziweruzireni nokha - kumwetulira kokoma, nsalu zazifupi, malaya olimba, kawirikawiri akuphatikizidwa ndi khosi lakuya. Ndipo zonsezi kuphatikizapo chikhumbo chokhala chothandiza ndi kukwaniritsa zokhumba zonse. Chabwino, ndi munthu wotani amene angatsutse chilakolako chokhala ndi mkazi woteroyo kamodzi?
Ngati mkazi apereka mwamuna kuti achite zonse zomwe akufuna (mu nkhaniyi - zomwe adzakonze), ndiye kuti iyeyo ndi amene amafuna kwambiri. Maonekedwe apa ndi ofunika kwambiri. Koma osatsutsa. Pankhani ya waitress ya chilakolako, akuwonjezera kuti mwamunayo nthawi zambiri samakhala wochepetsera, kulankhulana naye. Mukhoza kukhala okondweretsa kwa munthu wanu monga wosamalira popanda kumwa. Ngakhale, galasi lokonda kwambiri vinyo osati choletsa.
8. Msungwanayo
Mwinamwake, ambiri a inu mwawonera filimuyo "Akazi a Maid" ndi Jennifer Lopez mu udindo wawo. Inde, amuna ambiri amalota akazi oterewa m'mahotela apamwamba, komanso osati amayi awo achikulire ku hotelo ya chikhalidwe cha anthu, mofanana ndi nyumba ya alendo.
Chikhumbo chogonana ndi mdzakazi chikhoza kufotokozedwa, monga momwe zilili ndi mlembi. Chifukwa mtsikanayo ndi wantchito, motsogoleredwa ndi mawu akuti "kasitomala nthawi zonse". Amakwaniritsa zofunikira za mwamunayo popanda kukayikira, amagwira ntchito kuti asangalatse. Choonadi nthawi zina, pamene munthu akuwona momwe akugwedeza pansi pa kama, malingaliro amatha mwamsanga. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, amuna amawakonda pamene mkazi amachita chinachake malinga ndi malangizo ake. Koma kuti achite izi ayenera kukhala wokongola ndi wachigololo. Ngati mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito udindo wa mtsikana m'maseŵero anu pa masewera awiri, musayambe kupukuta fumbi kapena kutsuka mbale. Mukhoza kungobweretsera zakumwa kwa munthu "m'chipindamo" kapena kusintha matayala ake.
9. Kapolo kapena mdzakazi
Izi ndizofanana ndi mafano a mlembi, mzimayi, woyang'anira nyumba kapena woyang'anira. Pokhapokha, panthawi zina, amai amasangalala kukwaniritsa zofuna za wofuna chithandizo, apa iye alibe chochita.
Pa ntchitoyi, mkazi amakhala womangidwa kapena womangidwa. Mu masitolo ogonana amatsenga apadera amagulitsidwa, mothandizidwa ndi omwe mungamangire "kapolo" wanu pabedi. Choyamba amatsutsa, ndiyeno amamvera mokwanira zofunikira zonse za "mbuye" wake.
Osati nthawi zonse munthu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro oterowo - wachifundo ndi wankhanza. Iye ndi munthu chabe, ali ndi mphamvu yogonana, ndipo mkazi mukumvetsetsa kwake ndi wofooka, wotsutsana ndi chifuniro chake. Ngati simukufuna, ndiye kuti mwakakamiza. Ndi masewera ochita masewero - simuyenera kugwedezeka mu kuwerenga maganizo kwambiri. Pumulani ndi kusangalala.
10. Mngelo
Inde, pali chithunzi chomwecho mu masewera achiwerewere awiri. Zokhudzana ndi chiphunzitso cha "chipatso choletsedwa". Mngelo ndi umunthu wosayera, wangwiro umene ulibe kanthu kochita ndi kugonana. Kotero, chilakolako chochita china choletsedwa chiri nthawizonse mu kuya kwa munthu aliyense. Muzogonana za mtundu uwu sipadzakhala chiwawa ndi nkhanza. Mwamuna adzanyengerera mngelo modekha komanso ndikumverera, adzasangalala ndi chiyanjano ndi iye, ndiko kuti, panopa, ndi inu.
Mwachidule, sizili zovuta kubweretsa zosiyanasiyana pa moyo wanu wa kugonana. Muyenera kungosiya malingaliro anu ndikusiya manyazi. Khalani woyamba kupereka mwamuna kuti aone chinachake chatsopano mu kugonana. Adzayamikira kulimbika mtima kwanu komanso zosangalatsa zanu pabedi alibe malire.