Kodi funsoli limatizunzadi: pamene ndendende kuti "tipeze" kugonana koyamba? Kuti tifotokoze momveka bwino, sitikudandaula ndi nthawi yoyamba, koma ndi momwe abambo amachitira ndi khalidwe lathu. Pambuyo pake, ngati sitidadalire, ndiye kuti nthawi yogonana idzadziwika ndi ife mosavuta komanso mobwerezabwereza.
Kawirikawiri, timapempha funso "kodi ndizotheka kapena ayi?" m'magulu awiri: musanalowe kugonana, ngati wofunsayo ali wamtengo wapatali kwa ife kapena kale, ngati kugonana kunkachitika mwinamwake mwamsanga.
Funsoli ndi lothandiza, koma yankho lalikulu pa funso lakuti "nthawi yoyamba ndi ngati n'zotheka kugonana pa tsiku loyamba popanda kugonjetsa chithunzicho" sizingatheke. (Ndipo izi zinatsimikiziridwa ndi zotsatira za kufufuza kwa amuna pa mutu uwu).
Nkhaniyi ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha, kusanthula zochita zathu ndi khalidwe lathu, komanso mwayi wina wophunzira zomwe akuganiza za IT. Pokonzekera kuyankhulana ndi kusanthula mabuku pa kugonana mofulumira, njira zambiri zoonekera zinayamba. Ndikulimbikitsa kwambiri, ndiyenera kunena.
Njira yoyamba
Lingaliro limodzi la mwamuna mmodzi pa mutu wakuti "Akazi-omwe-anachita-izo" - ayi. Wowona mtima. Komanso, mwa anthu onse omwe anafunsidwa, ndi mmodzi mwa anthu ochepa okha omwe adanena za amayi omwe analola kuti azigonana nawo mwamsangamsanga.
Njira yachiwiri
Sukulu ikusintha, ndipo ndi iyo, zoyenera zowunika akazi ndi anthu ndi gulu lonse. Zoonadi, ulemu ndi chikumbumtima zimakhalabe mwamtundu, koma chiyero chowonetsedwa nthawi zambiri sichisangalatsa, koma chimangokhala ndi funso: Kodi masewera ake amatha kuti ndipo chidwi ndi malingaliro akuyamba kubwera kwa ine? Ndipo kodi sangathe kukhala ndi china chilichonse chokopa, kupatulapo chokayikitsa?
Chilankhulo "Ngati izi zichitika mwamsanga, iye adzaganiza kuti ndine mtsikana wokhala ndi khalidwe lophweka" limakhala nthano zambiri. Kumvetsetsa kwa anthu omwe amayi amafunanso kugonana ndi kuonjezera ufulu wa amayi kumawalola amuna kusiya machitidwe omwe "amapereka mofulumira - otsika mtengo" popanda kunyalanyaza mbiri yawo ya amuna. Zambiri za izo zimayankhula dera lofunsana mafunso - 70% mwa amuna omwe amafunsidwawo saganizira "kugonana" pachisankho choyamba.
Nthawi zambiri, pozindikira kuti mkazi yemwe amaloledwa kugona atakhala pamisonkhano pambuyo pake, amakhala ndi chitetezo choopsa cha munthu amene ali mwa iye mwini. Ndipo zokha. Kudzidalira komanso amuna odziimira okhaokha amayesa kugonana mofulumira monga umboni wa mgwirizano, mgwirizano wa iwo wokha, komanso kudzidalira kwa mkaziyo.
N'zoona kuti pali zosiyana, koma pambali ngati kugonana, kuwonetsa kuti pangozi ndi pangozi, mwachibadwa, malamulo okhwima sangakhalepo pano.
Njira yachitatu
Ngakhale izi siziri zochitika, koma chiphunzitso cha nthano ina. Mutuwu "munthu - msaki, mwamsanga kupeza zomwe iye akufuna, iye adzataya chidwi ndi kusungunuka mu gulu" wataya kufunikira kwake ... "Kugonana ndi gawo la kulankhulana, njira ina yodziwirana," anthu amati. (Ine ndimagwira chimodzi mwa mawu).
Ndipo ndemanga ina yowonjezera: "Ngati kugonana ndi njira yokhayo yolankhulirana, ndiye ndithudi, usiku woyamba, kuponyedwa kuphompho kungatayika." Apo ayi, mtsikanayo atangowonjezereka, amatsegula nkhope yatsopano. "M'malo mwake, chiyanjano chingakhudzidwe ndi momwe amachitira pambuyo pa kugonana, mwachitsanzo, chisokonezo chimene amamupanga m'chipinda changa, kumudziwa bwino kumapewa kwenikweni. "
Kotero kwa iwo amene akudziwani nanu chifukwa chakuti mumamukonda, kulowa pabedi lanu pa tsiku loyamba sizolondola chifukwa cholemba chizindikiro ndikusunthira zina mwa makhalidwe abwino a omanga chikominisi.
Amuna omwe amadziika okha ndi cholinga chofuna kunyenga atsikana ndipo amaganiza kuti izi ndizo bizinesi yayikulu ya moyo ... Zidzakhala zirizonse, posakhalitsa zidzatha, kaya kugonana kumakhala nthawi yomweyo kapena zaka zitatu pambuyo poyesera kukufikitsani. M'malo mofulumira. Osati chifukwa chakuti iwo ankakuvutitsani nanu - iwo amadzipweteka okha. Ndipo osazindikira kuti izi zimalola kokha kaleidoscope zochitika ndi zibwenzi. Kotero kodi pali chifukwa chilichonse chodandaula chifukwa cha kugonana, nthawi imodzi yogonana ndi wofanana naye? Usiku uno (kapena theka la ola mu chikwama) ndizomwe mukukumana nazo, mwinamwake, kugonana bwino.
Komabe, chidziwitso cha choonadi m'mbiya iyi ya ziwonetsero za zomwe ziri bwino patapita kale kusiyana ndi kale. Ndidzatchula mmodzi mwa omwe anafunsidwa: "Kugonana patatha nthawi yolankhulirana ndi kugonana ndi munthu wosadziwika - zinthu zosiyana, maganizo, zochitika, ndi zina. Inde, kugonana" ndi bwenzi "kungapereke zinthu zosiyana." Tikhoza kutsimikizira mfundo imeneyi pazochitika zathu, sichoncho?
Kugonana ndi omwe ali ndi malingaliro ndi kugonana - zinthu zosiyana! Kuwonjezera apo, palinso mbali ina - kwa munthu wodziwika bwino, mumakhululuka kwambiri ndikuyang'anitsitsa mofatsa (kuphatikizapo kugonana, ndi khalidwe kale ndi pambuyo). Koma! Kuletsa chitukuko cha zochitika kuti ayamikire ukhondo wanu ndi umphumphu - osati zofanana ndi kupititsa nthawi ya candy-buketny chifukwa cha kugonana kosiyana, kugonana mosiyana pakati pa chibwenzi. Ziri kwa iwe. Koma njira yachiwiri kwa amuna (ndi aluntha akazi) ikuwoneka owona mtima kwambiri. Oyera. Kukonzekera bwino.
Mchitidwe Woyamba
Kudziimira nokha ndi kudzidalira kungathe kuchita zozizwitsa ngakhale nthawi zambiri zopanda chiyembekezo. Vomerezani, zikuchitika paziganizo zomwe taziganizira zomwe zakhala zikuchitika.
Mphindi 15 mutagonana pachiwawa pamutu kumayambitsa mafunso ovuta: "Ndipo kodi iye angaganize bwanji za ine?" Mwadzidzidzi, iyeyo ndi wolimbikitsana, ndipo adzaitana? Ndipo amamva bwanji? Ndipotu. Mwinamwake, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti khalidwe labwino pazinthu izi ndi lachibadwa komanso lokhazikika. Malingana ndi kulemekeza, kulemekezedwa, ndi kuvomereza zochitika monga momwe zilili, popanda kuwonetsera.
Taganizirani: nchiyani chinachitikadi? Inu munasonyeza chifundo ndi chidwi kwa munthu mwanjira inayake. Izo zinachitika basi. Zinali zanu komanso zosankha zake. Kodi ndizoopsa komanso zoopsa?
Ndipo kumbukirani uphungu wa akatswiri a maganizo - khalani mwamtendere, koma mwachibadwa. Ngati mukudandaula kwambiri ndi funso la maganizo ake ndi kuyesa zomwe zinachitika - fotokozerani, ndipo mofatsa ndi unobtrusively. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kulemba SMS monga: "Moni, ndikusokonezeka kwambiri chifukwa chachitika mofulumira kwambiri, ngakhale atalowa pa intaneti kuti awerenge maganizo ndi nkhani zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyi." Sms yankho, mwachiwonekere, idzawonetsa kukayikira kwanu kwakukulu.
Koma chiyeso chimayesa kufotokoza zosaoneka, zong'amba: "O, sindinadzilole ndekha izi, o, zomwe mukuganiza tsopano za ine" ndizosatheka kusunga fano lanu. Ndani amakonda kumverera ngati kulakwitsa kapena kumvetsa kuti samamukhulupirira?
Kotero, ziri kwa inu kusankha nthawi liti. Ngati tiona kuti vuto lililonse ndilokhakha, ndipo munthu aliyense ndi wapadera, ndizomveka kuganiza kuti palibe malamulo ovuta. Koma pali chidziwitso, kudzidalira, kuwona mtima patsogolo panu ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, kusankha kwanu nokha. Ngati muli paubwenzi mukufuna chinthu china osati kugwiritsa ntchito njira zowonongeka chifukwa cha cholinga chenicheni.