Komabe ndibwino kuyankhulana ndi amayi anzeru omwe angathe kufotokozera zokhudzana ndi zovuta za moyo komanso zochitika zamtengo wapatali zomwe zapindula pakapita nthawi. Monga akunena, ndi nzeru kuti tiphunzire kuchokera ku zolakwa za anthu ena, ndikuyesera kutsatira nzeru izi, ndimayesetsa kuphunzira chinachake kuchokera m'mawu a mnzanga, kumudziwa kuti ndi chinkhupule. Ndipo ndiri wokondwa kuti ndikukhoza kugawana nawo maphunziro awa, alendo okondedwa a malo athu okondedwa ndi othandizira.
Posachedwapa ndakhala ndi mzanga mu cafe, tinakambirana zapitazo, nthawi zomwe anadandaula nazo zomwe zinakhudza moyo wake wamakhadi. Ndinkamuthandiza kwambiri mtsikana yemwe anali atsikana omwe anali atsikana omwe anali atsikana omwe anali atsikana omwe anali atsikana. Chikondi sichidutsa, koma chatanganidwa. Zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti musaphonye chikondi chanu mumaphunzira kuchokera m'nkhaniyi pa mutu wakuti " Chikondi ichi chakale chidzakhala chisoni cham'tsogolo ."
Inde, ngati simukuchita nthawi zonse zinthu zikhoza kukhala zomvetsa chisoni. Chikondi makamaka. Palibe choipa kuposa kupweteka maganizo ndi chisoni. Ndani amadziwa mmene msungwana wanga angakhalire ngati atachita nthawi yake? Kachiwiri, ndizo zokhudza mavuto a mtima. Palibe chomwe chimatikhumudwitsa ife, akazi, ngati ubale wopanda chikondi, zomwe sizinabwere chifukwa cha manyazi kapena manyazi. Monga nzeru yotchuka mu chikondi, monga mu nkhondo, njira zonse ndi zabwino. Ndipo chikondi chenichenicho ndi mtundu wa nkhondo, nkhondo ya amuna ndi akazi pa chilinganizo, kumverera, ndi chikondi, ndithudi.
Ali mnyamata, anakumana ndi mnyamata yemwe sanatengere, chifukwa adakonda kale mwamuna wina. Iye anali bwana wake, iye anali woyang'anira wake. Chabwino, bwana uti sadzalandire munthu wogwira ntchito wokongola komanso wokongola. Anasonyeza zizindikiro za chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro, koma kuchokera kumbali yake kunali kungowonongeka kokha. Mwina, chirichonse chikanakhala chosiyana, ngati sichinali cha chikondi chake chopenga kwa mwamuna wake wakale. Pa nthawi imeneyo mtsogolo, ndipo tsopano ndi mwamuna wakale. Iye mwachibadwa anali wokondwera ndi chidwi cha munthuyo, koma iye analibebe wolimbikira, iye anati, ndipo anali wamwano kwambiri zomwe zinalepheretsa mtima kupambana msungwana wokongola. Iye, nayenso, anali wamanyazi, ndi momwe anali kubisala pambuyo pa kuzizira kwa chidwi chake kwa mnyamata wamng'ono, wokongola ndi wolemera.
Ambiri amayesa kuwachepetsa kwa zaka zambiri, koma palibe chomwe chinachitika. Kachiwiri, ndikukumbukira nzeru za anthu "osati chikonzero." Ndipo atatha zaka zambiri anakumana. Ali ndi mkazi ndi mwana, ali ndi mwana ndipo akusudzulana, komabe ali ndi chinthu chofanana pakati pawo - izi ndizodziwika bwino, mawu osadziwika. Zimatenga nthawi yaitali bwanji kuti muzindikire chikondi? Zaka zambiri, chikondi chonsecho sichifa kwa zaka zambiri, koma chimakhalabe m'mtima mwa wina aliyense wa ife, kuyembekezera kuti phokoso lidzatha. Tsopano akudandaula kwambiri za mwayi wosawonongeka, ndipo kale, zikuwoneka kuti palibe mwayi kuti ndingapeze kwathunthu, osati mtima wanga wokha. Ndipotu, mkazi alibe mtima wokwanira pazaka zonsezi, amafuna kukhala wokhutira ndi kukhazikika pafupi ndi wokondedwa wakeyo. Iye akulota ukwati. Ngati sizinali zachinyamata wopusa, momwe ndikanakhalira tsopano ndikukhala ndi chisoni chifukwa cha bwenzi langa. Wachinyamata wopusa, chikondi chosowa, zolinga zosweka, chifukwa sakusangalala ndi mkazi wake, ndipo amakhala ndi moyo chifukwa cha mwana wake wamkazi.
Kupusa ndi chinthu chochepa, ndipo achinyamata nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ziphuphu zazing'ono komanso zazikulu, zopangidwa ndi anthu akuluakulu omwe amatsutsa zopusa zawo pa unyamata, ndipo amakhalabe achinyamata kufikira atakhala anzeru ndikusiya kuchita zinthu zopusa. Ngakhale kuti amavomerezedwa kuti mumaloledwa kuchita zinthu zopusa muunyamata wanu, koma ganizirani zomwe zingakhaledi momwemo komanso momwe zinthu zopusa zingasinthe moyo wanu ndi mbali ina.
Ndiyenera kuti ndisaphonye chikondi changa? Kodi ndingatani kuti tipewe chikondi cha m'mbuyomu kuti tisakhale ndi chisoni? Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji chikondi ndi momwe mungachitire? Pali mafunso ambiri, koma ndinamvetsetsa chinthu chimodzi, simukufunikira kukhala osaganizira, ndipo simukusowa kubisala kuseri kwa masakiti osasamala. Mphindi iliyonse tikhoza kukomana ndi chikondi chathu pa mphindi iliyonse tikhoza kuiphonya. Pambuyo pa zonse, chirichonse chimamangidwa motsatira chikondi, moyo wathu wonse umamangidwa pozungulira wokondedwa, ndipo ngati palibe wokondedwa amene timamanga miyoyo yathu? Choncho, tiyenera kusowa chikondi chathu, makamaka popeza anthu ambiri masiku ano sali olimbika mtima, ndi amanyazi ndipo ali osamala, ngati sitichita zinthu, ndi ndani amene adzatipangire tsogolo lathu losangalatsa.
Atsikana ambiri amakhulupirira kuti zizindikiro za chidwi cha mtsikanayo zimawoneka ngati zowonongeka ndipo amasankha kukhala opanda pake. Amavomerezedwa mwa anthu kuti mnyamata ayenera kufunafuna msungwana, osati mosiyana. Ndipo bwanji osatero? Bwanji osapambana munthu? Ndipo simusowa kulingalira ndikuwopa kuti zizindikiro zathu zakusamalidwe ziwoneka ngati zosokoneza. Tiyenera kuyankhula molunjika komanso mwamsanga, ndikuwonetsa mphamvu zonse, motero tidzatenga amuna athu aamuna osatetezeka, ndipo kuchokera pa izi iwo sadzaima. Iwo sadzakhala ndi nthawi yoti abwere ku malingaliro awo, koma iwo adzakhala kale pa guwa mu tchalitchi mu tuxedo wakuda. Ngakhale kuti anthu ali ndi umunthu wamaganizo a wogonjetsa. Mwamuna watigonjetsa kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi, kapena, molondola, amapambana, kupanga chiyanjano, ndiyeno panthawi ya moyo pamodzi timapambana nawo chakudya chokoma, chifaniziro chokongola, mawu ochenjera ndi maso omvetsetsa pokhapokha atazungulira mpaka titatopa. Ngati titakhala ngati wogonjetsa koyamba, ndiye kuti panthawi ya moyo pamodzi adzatigonjetsa?
Timachita mantha ndi amanyazi, amuna nthawi zambiri amaopa komanso amanyazi. Tikuopa kumva mawu akuti "ayi" ndikukana, ndipo kuchokera pa izi anthu ambiri osauka komanso osungulumwa padziko lapansi amalota usiku uliwonse kuti apeze hafu yawo. Simungathe kukhala mwamantha, muyenera kukhala okonzekera chilichonse chimene chidzachitike. Ndipo chiwonongeko chimatipatsa ife chirichonse chomwe ife tikhala okondwa, ife tikungofuna kuchigwira ndi kuchiyang'anira, kuchita chirichonse chomwe chingakhale chosangalatsa, chifukwa chirichonse chiri mmanja mwathu ndi nzeru ina.