Kufufuza zizindikiro
"Sindingathe kuima: Ndimamufunsa Andreya za moyo wake wakale. Ndikufuna kudziwa chilichonse chokhudza iye! "Akuvomereza Inga, yemwe ali ndi zaka 34, yemwe anakwatira zaka zitatu zapitazo. Zomwe zimafunsidwa za m'mbuyomu zimayikidwa makamaka ndi chikhumbo chachibadwidwe chodziŵa munthu winayo bwino - kuti amvetsetse zomwe iye alidi. Ndipo kondwerani ndi mwayi wakuyamikirana mnzanuyo, kuphatikizapo chifukwa chake ali ndi chidwi. Ndikofunikanso kuti timvetse zomwe adakumana nazo, zomwe adachita, momwe amatsogolerera, kusankha omwe anali nawo kale, komanso chifukwa chake iwo adasweka. Zonsezi, zikuwoneka, zimatithandiza kuwona momwe timagwirira ntchito limodzi. Onetsetsani kuti ndife okwatirana abwino ... kapena kuti tikhale ndi kukayikira kwakukulu. Koma pamene chidwi cha moyo wa wokondedwa chimakhala chovuta kwambiri, pamene kuli kovuta kupirira chikhumbo chanu, izi zikhoza kutanthauza: m'mbuyomo mukuyang'ana chinthu chomwe chingatipangitse kukhala otsimikiza mtima. Kumverera kwa chikondi kumayambitsa nkhaŵa, kotero ife timadziwa mosayang'ana mtundu wina wa chizindikiro, chomwe chiyenera kufufuzidwa. Ndipo udindo wake kwa ena wa ife umasewera kale. Zikuwoneka ngati mutapeza momwe adakhalira kale, funsani kuti ndi ndani, yemwe amamukonda, ndiye kuti mumatha kumvetsa momwe angakhalire ndi kuti adzakonda mawa. Koma lingaliro ili ndi lingaliro lathu chabe, chifukwa chikondi chatsopano sichifanana ndi chakale. Pakati pa okondedwa pali wapadera a alchemical reaction, omwe sali amphamvu, ndipo akale, tsoka, sangathe kunena chirichonse ponena za pakali pano kapena mtsogolo.
Chizindikiro chosatsimikizika
"Nditamaliza sukulu, ndinagwira ntchito kunja kwa zaka ziwiri. Ndipo mpaka tsopano, ndiyenera kutchula izi, mwamuna wanga ndithu adzausa moyo ndi nkhawa. Takhala m'banja zaka 20, koma akuoneka kuti amandichitira nsanje nthawi yanga yakale, nthawi imene ndinkakhala popanda iye, "akutero Alexandra wa zaka 52. Kwa ena, monga mwamuna wa Alexandra, ndikofunika kukhala ndi chikondi chanu. Ndipo n'zovuta kuzindikira kuti wokondedwa akhoza kusangalala yekha, komanso kuthana ndi kukhudzika kuti, monga kale, ayenera kwathunthu kwa wokondedwa. Ine ndikuganiza kuti zoterezo ndizo, poyamba, chizindikiro cha kusatetezeka mu maubwenzi. Maria m'malo mwake ankanyoza mwamuna wake chifukwa cha nsanje.
Ndi bwino kukhala chete ponena za zakale
Kodi nthawi zonse kuli kofunika kukwaniritsa chidwi cha mnzanuyo? Pali milandu pamene ndi bwino kuti tipewe yankho.
• Sitigwirizana kwathunthu ndi munthu wina ndipo tili ndi ufulu wopezekapo. Kulekanitsa uku ndi gawo la kukongola kwathu kwa wina. Pamene chinachake chabisika, pali lingaliro lachinsinsi, chilakolako chochimasula icho. Ndipo pamene chirichonse chiri chotseguka ndi chofikira, chinsinsi chimatha.
• Ngati mnzanuyo atifunsanso momvetsa chisoni, nthawi zina pali chikhumbo chofuna kutseka, osati kuyankha. Pankhaniyi, ndizomveka kufotokoza zomwe akufuna kudziwa komanso chifukwa chake. Mwinamwake ife tonse tidzakhala othandiza kulankhula za maubwenzi athu pakalipano kusiyana ndi kuyang'ana kale.
• Musayankhe mafunso okhudza miyoyo yathu, ngati yankho likuvutitsa ife: mwachitsanzo, mnzanu sakuyankha bwino kwa anzathu kapena achibale, amatsutsa zochita zathu. Mwa kulola wina kuti awononge zakale zawo, timataya ena mwa ife eni. Mofananamo, ngati nkhani yathu ikumva chisoni ndi mnzanuyo - mwachitsanzo, akuwoneka kuti ndi woipa kwambiri kusiyana ndi munthu wina wakale - ichi ndi chifukwa chomveka chokhalira chete. Ngati tikukhudzidwabe ndi nkhani yomwe ili yopweteka kwa munthu wapafupi, ndikofunika kuti tigogomeze (mwa mawu kapena kukhudza) kuti ndi ofunika bwanji kwa ife.
Kupatsa n'kofunika
Azimayi ena amatsutsa kuti abambo awo atsopano akwaniritse ana awo kuchokera kumbuyo. Amuna ena amafuna kuti wokondedwa wawo awotchere milatho yonse imene imamugwirizanitsa ndi banja lake lakale. Pochita izi, akuyesera kulimbikitsa banja lawo ... koma amaopseza kubweretsa zotsatira zosiyana. Zofuna zawo ziri zowononga, chifukwa kupuma ndi zochitika zawo nthawi zonse kumabweretsa kukanika kwamkati mkati komwe kungayambitse kuvutika maganizo. "Ndikuganiza kuti sindingakonde mwamuna yemwe amalankhula zoipa za moyo wake wakale," akuganiza Regina, yemwe ali ndi zaka 45, yemwe wakhala ndi mnzake watsopano kwazaka ziwiri zapitazo. "Ngakhale kuti, kunena zoona, nthawi zina zimandivuta kumvetsera momwe okondedwa anga amakamba za nthawi zosangalatsa - mwachitsanzo, momwe amachitira bwino ndi ana. Makamaka popeza tilibe ana. " Eya, ngati chilakolako sichifuna kudziwa kanthu kalelo, ndiye kuti ubale wolimba pakati pa awiriwa ndi wovomerezeka ndi kuwulemekeza. Kusunga chikondi chanu, popanda kupatsa ndi kulekerera sangathe kuchita.
Kusintha kwa kukumbukira
Mtsikana wina wazaka 40, dzina lake Veronika, dzina lake Veronika, ananena kuti: "Wokondedwa wanga ankagwira ntchito ku kampani ya zisewera, ndipo ankayendayenda ku Ulaya konse, koma nthawi yomwe tinakumana nayo, ntchito yake inatha." - Ndipo tsopano, tifunika kudziwana ndi anthu atsopano, pamene akuyamba kulankhula osati osayima za momwe analiri wachimwemwe panthawiyo. Monga ngati moyo wathu wamakono uli wopanda kanthu komanso wosasangalatsa! "Munthu sayenera kuiwala kuti nsanje ndi maseŵera awiri. Ngati mnzanuyo abwereranso ku nthawi yake yakale, akugogomezera kuti zonse zili bwino kale, chikhalidwe cha wina ndizo chonyansa chomwe sichitha kunena za chikhalidwe chake cha nsanje. Pamapeto pake, ngati munthu amene amakhala ndi ife nthawi zonse amamveketsa kuti wamuwona kale zonse ndipo wakhala akuwoneratu zonse, ife tikukhumudwa. Kodi kudzitamandira kumeneku kumachokera kuti? Pamene pali vuto mu ubale, ena amayamba kuyang'ana mmbuyo, akuusa moyo za moyo wawo wakale, ndipo nthawizina amachimangiriza. Chifukwa cha khalidweli, chitonzo chodziwika kwa wokondedwayo chikhoza kubisala: munthu amaganiza ngati maubwenzi awo ndi abwino. Apo ayi, n'chifukwa chiyani kukumbukira kumangoyamba kudzaza moyo wake wonse? "Tikayerekeza zakale ndi zamakono, nthawi zambiri zimatha - chifukwa zakale zimakhala zophweka, ndipo tili ndi ufulu kuchita chilichonse. Ndipo pakalipano tikukumana ndi ife tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zochitika zatsopano.
Mabala Akale
Kawirikawiri, pamene tili ndi nsanje, msungwana wamng'ono kapena mnyamata amadzuka mwa ife, monga momwe tinkakhalira kale. Nthawi zonse amakhala mkati mwathu ndipo amadikirira chifukwa chodziwonetsera okha. Osadziwa, ena a ife timakonda kusamalira mabala akale: anthu oterewa amakumana ndi chisangalalo pamene mwana akukangana, funso losalekeza: "Kodi ndani amai ndi amayi amakonda kwambiri?" Munthu wotero kuyambira ali mwana akudziona ngati wosakondweretsa kuti nthawi zonse amaopa kuti sadzakondwera , ndipo amakhulupirira kuti wokondedwa wake, ziribe kanthu zomwe zimachitika, nthawizonse amamukonda iye ku moyo wake wakale. Koma ndi kudzichepetsa kotero, palibe wokondedwa angamupatse kudzidalira kokwanira. Kungodzigwira nokha kudzakuthandizani kulimbana ndi nkhawa yochuluka kwambiri.
Malipiro otere
"Sindingathe kudzithandiza! Takhala m'banja zaka 8, koma panopo ndimadzutsa mwamuna wanga kuti afunse mmene analili ndi anthu ena, "anatero Arina, wazaka 34. Anthu ambiri amasangalala, akuganiza kuti ali ndi mnzawo. Kufunsa za tsatanetsatane, timamangiriza mnzanuyo m'makumbukiro, omwe mwa iwo okha ali ndi mphamvu yogonana yokhudzana ndi kugonana: iye (iye) amakumananso ndi chilakolako chake ndikuchipereka kwa ife. Ngakhale ngati tili ndi nsanje - ndipo izi nthawi zonse zimakhala choncho, - ndizosiyana ndi zomwe zimachitikira, mpikisano, mpikisano, ndi zokopa zamagwirizano zimagwirizanitsidwa, zimapanga mgwirizano wapadera.
Kumvetsetsani ndi kusinkhasinkha
Konstantin wazaka 36, anati: "Mwamuna wa Albina wakale sanali munthu wosauka. "Takhala pamodzi ndi iye kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, ndipo nthawi zonse ndikumuchitira nsanje - osati kwa iye, koma pazinthu zakuthupi zomwe wam'patsa. Anasamukira kwa ine ndi zida zamtengo wapatali. Mu mbale iliyonse, ngati kuti ndayika kale chitonzo kwa ine. Ndinazindikira izi mtsogolo, ndipo pang'ono pang'onopang'ono mbaleyi inangobwera kuchokera m'manja mwanga, mpaka palibe chimene chinasiyidwa pa msonkhano! Zikomo Mulungu, tinkangokhalira kuseka pongofuna kuseka. " Manyazi ndi imodzi mwa zotsalira zotsutsana kwambiri ndi nsanje yomveka bwino kwa zakale. Nthawi zonse amamuthanso kuyang'ana payekha popanda tsankho. Zikuwoneka kuti panthawiyi "zida zamtengo wapatali" zinkaperekedwa monga nsembe yamtengo wapatali: Constantine anasintha maganizo ake kwa iye - ndipo adamasulidwa nawo pamodzi ndi mbale. Atapeza ubale umenewu, banjali linaseka palimodzi. Nthawi zina zomvetsetsa ndi njira yabwino yolandirira zakale za wokondedwa.