Zimayambitsa zachiwawa mwa anthu

Aliyense wa ife nthawi zonse amayenera kuchita zinthu zachiwawa. Ife ndife amwano, osayera, odzudzulidwa ndi mawu otsiriza ndi kukankhira. Chithandizo chotero nthawi zambiri chimakhala chowopsya, chifukwa munthuyu akuwoneka kuti sanachite cholakwika chilichonse. Izi zimandipangitsa chidwi kwambiri kumvetsetsa zifukwa zomwe amachitira nkhanza komanso zokhumudwitsa. Ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe zimayendetsa iwo ku khalidwe lotayirira lotere? Ndithudi, nthawi zonse khalidweli silikusowa maphunziro komanso chikhalidwe. Chiwawa, monga zochitika zina, zimakhala ndi zifukwa zake. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa zifukwa izi.

Mizu ya khalidwe laukali

Munthu aliyense ali ndi zifukwa zake zomwe zimayambitsa chisokonezo. Wosayansi aliyense wochepa kapena wotchuka wotchuka amayesera kufotokozera momwe akudziwira kuti ndi "nkhanza" yochuluka bwanji. Pali magulu atatu omwe amadziwika kuti akuchita zachiwawa:

1. Chiwawa monga chibadwa. Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amakhulupirira kuti khalidwe laukali la munthu limayambira mwachibadwa. Chiwawa chimapangitsa kuti apulumuke, kugwira ntchito zitatu zazikulu - kulimbana kwa chakudya ndi gawo, kutetezedwa kwa ana ndi kusintha kwa majini. Mphamvu zowawa zimapezeka mwa munthu nthawi zonse, zimasonkhanitsa kenako zimatha. Zoona, malire a onse ali nawo okha, koma kupweteka kulikonse kumayambitsa chidani mu khalidwe. Zimakhulupirira kuti chiwawa chikhoza kulandira munthu kuchokera kwa abambo ake-osaka. Chirengedwe, mosakayikira, ndicho chisonkhezero chowononga, nkhondo ndi chiwawa. Choncho, tinganene kuti chiwawa cha anthu sichingapeŵe, komanso, ndi kovuta kulamulira.
2. Kuponderezedwa chifukwa cholephera kuchita zosowa zawo. Pachifukwa ichi, vuto liri mwa wina: aliyense wa ife akukumana ndi kusowa kwa zifukwa zina kuti akwaniritse zokhumba zake zonse, monga zotsatira, pafupifupi nthawi zonse pali ukali ndi mkwiyo. Makhalidwe amenewa a munthu amatchulidwa kwa iwo okha, ku zinthu kapena kwa anthu ena. Nthawi zina nkhanza zimadziwonekera motere: munthu amasuntha munthu, amatha kulira kwa mlendo, ndipo nthawi zina amayamba kulira: "Ndili ndi zolakwa pazinthu ndekha ndipo palibe chikhululukiro kwa ine!". Mwamwayi, njira imeneyi yakhala chizoloŵezi, makamaka ngati imagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zambiri. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, njira yotereyi ndi yovuta kuthetsera vutoli / kapena kuthana ndi zovuta kwambiri.
3. Chiwawa monga chipatso cha kuphunzira. Chirichonse chomwe taphunzira muubwana mwa akuluakulu: timatsanzira m'mene timadyera, kuyankhula, kuchita ndi kuvala. Mofananamo, tinaphunzira mwa kuyang'ana akuluakulu, khalidwe laukali: powona momwe makolo athu amafuula nthawi zonse pozungulira anthu, ndipo wina ndi mzake timakumbukira khalidwe ngatilo lokha. Palinso zinthu zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ziwonetsedwe zowonongeka zikhale zowonjezereka pa nthawi yauchikulire. Kugonjetsa nthawi zonse ndi / kapena kugwedeza mbali ya akuluakulu, chithandizo chosavomerezeka, ndi nthawi zina malangizo owongoka: "Mpatseni kusintha. Kodi ndinu wamng'ono? ". Munthu amene akukula m'madera oterewa ndi ovuta kukhalabe wokoma, wamtendere komanso wodekha. Koma pakadali pano ali ndi mwayi wophunzira momwe angayendetsere chiwawa chake. Luso limeneli lingapangidwe ngati muwona anthu omwe amatha kuthetsa mikangano iliyonse mofatsa. Kuti mukhale zolimbikitsa, mukhoza kudzilimbikitsitsa pa chilichonse ndi chiwonetsero chilichonse cha umunthu ndi kufatsa.

Chimene chingakhudze chiwawa

Choncho, chikhalidwe chaukali chomwe tachimitsa. Chisokonezo chimapezeka mwa munthu aliyense ndipo pali zifukwa zambiri komanso zolinga zomwe zimatsimikizira kuti kulipo. Koma pali zinthu zomwe zingapangitse khalidwe laukali, kuti likhale lowononga kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mbali za maphunziro ndi chikhalidwe, makhalidwe ena, zochitika za mkhalidwewu. Kusintha kwa dziko lachiwawa kumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zochitika m'deralo, kuphatikizapo miyambo. Miyambo ndi chikhalidwe ndi momwe ena amaonera khalidwe lachidani. Mwachitsanzo, chikhalidwe chimodzi chimalimbikitsa nkhanza, pamene wina amatsutsa chiwawa. Zofalitsa zimakhudza kwambiri munthu, yemwe nthawi zonse amafalitsa zokhudzana ndi ziphuphu ndi zoopseza, zachiwawa. Kawirikawiri, munthuyo amadziwa kuti izi ndi zachilendo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale mwayi.

Chizoloŵezi cha khalidwe loterechi chimakhudzidwanso ndi mkhalidwe wa aliyense. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwana wakula mu banja losakwanira, ndiye kuti mwayi woti adzalandira anthu ena ndi waukulu. Komabe, banja limakhala lodzaza ndipo lili ndi ana ambiri. Kuphatikizana ndi mabanja otere kumatsimikiziridwa ndi ubale pakati pa ana: ngati iwo athandizirapo ndi kulumbira, iwo adzakhala osasamala komanso amwano pamene akukula. Mkhalidwe wa banja umathandizanso vutoli: ana amavutika kwambiri, makolo ambiri amalepheretsa bwanji moyo wa ana, kusamvana pakati pa ana, momwe makolo sagwirizanirana, akamakhazikitsa malamulo ndi malamulo. Komabe, sizongoganizira zokhazokha.

Nthawi zina pali zochitika zotero zomwe n'zosatheka kukhala bata. Muzochitika zotero, monga lamulo, timakhumudwitsidwa, ndipo nthawi zina timakhala ndi zovuta zomwe sitingazipirire. Kukhalapo kwa anthu akunja omwe ali kunja ndiko komweko komwe kungachepetse chilakolako cha zilakolako. Pali magulu a anthu amene amachititsa munthu kukhala ndi chiwawa. Mwachitsanzo, mayi yemwe adangokhalira kusudzulana ndi mwamuna wake, kukomana ndi amuna, mofanana ndi mwamuna wake wakale, akufuna kuchita zolakwika.

Ena akhoza kukhumudwa ndi maonekedwe a mkhalidwewo, mwachitsanzo, phokoso, katundu, kutentha, mpweya wonyansa, kukhuthala. Koma chinthu chachikulu ndicho chinthu chenichenicho. Zochitika zina za chikhalidwe zimatha kuonjezera kuthekera kwaukali ndi zina, ngakhale zosafunika, zochitika. Izi zimaphatikizapo kutengeka maganizo ndi kukhumudwa, nkhaŵa yaikulu, kukhumba zokhutira, kukhudzika, chikhumbo chokhala ndi udindo pa chirichonse chomwe chimachitika.