Chifukwa cha ululu umene umabwera mu moyo wazimayi, oimira zachiwerewere okongola amatha kuyesa anthu moyenera. Aliyense mwa iwo amawona zolakwika zina, zomwe sizigwirizana ndi lingaliro lawo la chimwemwe.Komabe, atsikana ambiri akufunabe kupeza chimwemwe chawo mtsogolo. Ayenera kuchita chiyani ngati, chifukwa chokhumudwa, sikutheka kuchitira amuna ngati oyenerera? Momwe mungachitire moyenera, momwe mungasinthire malingaliro anu, kuchotsani malingaliro obisika ndi kubwereranso mtima wanu chifukwa cha ubale ndi malingaliro anu?
Tengani nthawi
Atsikana ambiri amalakwitsa kwambiri, kuyesa kudzikakamiza kusintha maganizo awo kwa amuna ndikuyamba chibwenzi. Munthu amakonzedwa mwanjira yakuti, panthawi yomwe amamukakamiza, amangofuna kuti asapandukire. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kuti moyo wanu ukhale wabwino pang'ono, choyamba muyenera kulingalira moyo wanu. Pamene simukuchita izi, simukusowa kulingalira za ubale weniweni. Kotero khalani chete. Phunzirani kudzikhalira nokha ndikudziganizira nokha. Pambuyo pake, mkazi wachikulire wokondweretsa yemwe ali ndi zokonda zake ndi zokondweretsa. Woti amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu ndi chidwi chanu pa zomwe mumabweretsadi chimwemwe. Muyenera kumasuka ndi kusangalala ndi zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira inu. Ndi inu amene muyenera kukhala pakati pa chilengedwe chanu, osati munthu wina amene mumayesa kumukonda, koma simungathe, chifukwa simukudzikonda nokha. Ndipo musaganize za momwe mumamvera za amuna ndi zomwe zikukuchitikirani. Sindifuna kulankhulana ndi masewerawo, omwe anabwera kwa inu kuti mudziwe bwino - musalankhule. Palibe amene sanakulimbikitseni kuti mubwererenso. Ngati mwamunayo ndi Hamit - yankhani chimodzimodzi, chifukwa mulibe ufulu wokwera mu malo anu enieni ndikuwononga maganizo anu. Ndipo musaganize za zomwe okanidwa ndi okhumudwawo adzanena za inu. Munthu wamba komanso wokwanira amadziwa. Ndipo ngati sakufuna kukudziwani monga momwe mulili, ndiye bwanji mukuvutitsa kusinthanitsa mphamvu zake ndi maganizo ake kwa munthu woteroyo? Pofuna kubwerezanso amuna, munthu ayenera kuphunzira kukhala wopanda iwo, kuti aphunzire momwe angayang'anire masautso awo, osati chimwemwe. Ngati mumadzikhutira nokha ndipo mumakhala osangalala, ndiye kuti nthawi zina mumazindikira kuti simukukwiyitsanso amuna, chifukwa simudalira chilichonse. Ndipo pamene munthu ali wodziimira, zimakhala zophweka kuti athe kuchitira ena mokhulupirika, chifukwa anthuwa amamupatsa chifukwa chokhumudwitsa.
Zopempha zambiri
Amakhala okhumudwa ndi abambo, amai ayamba kukankhira kuti azisankhidwa kuti akhale munthu wodalirika kwambiri. Koma ngati mumaganizira za izo, mtsikanayo ayamba kuyang'ana munthu wangwiro, yemwe salipo. Munthu aliyense ali ndi minuses, basi ndi imodzi mwa iwo yomwe tingathe kuvomereza, komanso ndi ena ena. Pooomomu, kuti musakhumudwe ndi amuna ambiri, mumadzimva nokha kuganiza moyenera komanso mwachangu, kuchotsa maganizo anu ndi mkwiyo. Nthawi iliyonse mukamupeza mwamunthu chinachake chimene simukuchikonda, ganizirani momwe izi zimakhudzira moyo ndi maubwenzi, kaya ndi zoopsa bwanji.
Ntchito yanu ndi kuphunzira kuti musamamvetsetse komanso kuti musamanyoze muzhchin m'maso mwanu, koma kuti muwone zomwe iwo ali. Munthu aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi zolakwika, chifukwa ngati sali, mumakumana ndi mngelo (komanso kuti angelo ali angwiro), kapena amangofika ndi munthu yemwe salipo. Munthu aliyense ali ndi zovuta zina. Funso ndilo ulemu umene ungadzitamande. Munthu akadzilola kuti aone zomwe zilidi, osati zomwe iye mwini akuyimira, zowonjezera zokhumudwitsa zimachitika m'moyo wake, chifukwa poyamba akukonzekera kuti anthu ozungulira akhoza kulakwitsa, kukhumudwitsa, kuchita zinthu zopusa ndi zina zotero. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo amafufuza kuchokera kwa yemwe mungapezeko zoipa, ndipo ndi bwino kuti asakhale nawo, chifukwa munthuyu sali woyenerera kwa iye m'moyo. Choncho yesetsani kuganiza mozama komanso kuti musapite ku malingaliro, zabwino komanso zoipa. Ndiye simudzakhalanso wokhumudwa ndipo mudzatha kukhulupirira kuti anthu amatha kukhala abwino, okoma mtima, okhulupirika ndi okhulupirika.
Nawa ena mwa akazi omwe ali pafupi
Eya, kuti muphunzire kukhulupirira amuna, muyenera kuwona nokha iwo omwe angathe kuyamikira. Bambo, amalume, abale, abwenzi, pafupi ndi inu muyenera kukhala amuna omwe mungadalire nthawi iliyonse. Mu moyo wa mkazi aliyense palizo zogonana zamphamvu zomwe sizikhumudwitsidwa. Ndi pa amuna awa omwe mukuyenera kuyang'ana kukumbukira kuti padziko lapansi pali omwe amayenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo ndi chidwi chawo. Pamene mukumva kuti simumakhulupiriradi amunawa, kumbukirani momwe agogo ako agogo ankafunira agogo anu, ngakhale kuti anali wonyada komanso osayandikira. Ndiye mukhoza kuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa ndikupeza munthu yemwe angakhale munthu yemweyo, wokhoza kukonda, kuyamikira komanso kudzipereka kwa mkazi wake.