Kotero, nchifukwa ninji pangakhale mikangano nthawizonse ndi kuwonongeka ndi mnyamata? Ndipo ndibwino, nthawi zonse mumakhala mosiyana kwambiri ndi kupsa mtima, koma mabwenzi onse ndi anzanu amakumbukira inu ngati msungwana wodekha komanso wosasintha omwe sangathe kukonza chisokonezo popanda kumvetsa chifukwa chake ndipo popanda kuyesera kuti athetsere mwamtendere. Kodi ndikutentha kotani komwe kunachitika mumutu wanu wowala? Komabe, izi sizikufunsidwa ngakhale za abwenzi anu, koma munthu yemweyo yemwe mutu wake umatsanulira zonse zomwe zimagwedeza ndi kupasula, mowolowa manja kufalikira ndi dzanja lanu losangalala. Pachifukwa ichi, mwamsanga mwangoyenda, ndipo mwamsanga muthamange kukweza ndi kulapa mlandu wanu. Koma zonsezi chifukwa cha izo posakhalanso kuyamba kukangana ndi kupangitsa zolephera zaumantha pokha payekha, ndi kwa mnyamata. N'chifukwa chiyani zili choncho?
Choyamba, samalirani thanzi lanu. Ayi, sitikufuna kunena kuti kuwonongeka kwanu nthawi zonse kumakhudzana ndi vuto linalake la maganizo. Mwina ndizo kuti thupi lanu linaperekera zolephera - mwachitsanzo, chifukwa chomwa mankhwala ena onse, mahomoni adasokonezeka. Izi nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa mantha kapena kuvutitsa. Pankhaniyi, kupeza panthawi yake kwa katswiri kudzapulumutsa mitsempha ya inu nonse komanso kuthandizira kuthetsa vuto mwamsanga. Pakalipano, yesetsani kumwa mowa - komabe, nayenso mwamuna sayenera kulakwa, kuti muli ndi matenda ena. Boma lake muzochitikazi ndi kukuthandizani mochuluka momwe mungathere komanso osapereka chifukwa cha vuto linalake, kuyesetsa kupewa mikwingwirima.
Panthawi yovuta, yomwe imatchedwa "PMS", imakhala yovuta kwambiri. Sitikhutira ndi zonse zenizeni: momwe anayang'ana, momwe amavekera, zomwe akunena. Timatha kutuluka nthawi iliyonse ndikuwotcha phulusa. Osati onse, ndithudi, koma otere ali pakati pathu. Choncho, ngati mukukhala mosiyana, yesetsani kuona zochepa ndi okondedwa anu mu nthawi yovutayi, kuti mupewe mikangano yosafunikira ndi kuwonongeka kwamanjenje.
Chifukwa china chotsutsana ndibodza mwa inu mwachindunji. Ndipo iye amatchedwa kusakhulupirika. Ndipo amachititsa kuti munthu asamakhulupirire kwambiri - nsanje, yomwe ngakhale mitsempha yakale ikhoza kusungunuka. Mudzadziwona nokha: mwinamwake mumamuchitira nsanje mosasunthika ku nsanamira iliyonse? Mwinamwake mukugwira ntchito ndi podkolkami kuti akudikira antchito? Kapena mwinamwake nthawi zonse mumaganiza kuti iye akutembenukira mumsewu, kuti ayang'ane ndi kuyang'ana mkazi wina wokongola ali ndi miyendo yopanda malire? Choncho, panthawi yomweyi, yang'anirani zonse zomwe zili m'madera omwe mwamuna wanu ayang'ana. Kodi n'zotheka kuti galimoto ya BMW imayimilira pamsewu - basi yomwe chibwenzi chako chimalota pa moyo wake wonse? Musamamukwiyire mwamsanga, musayambe pakati pa msewu. Akupita nanu. Kumene sanayang'ane mwangozi. Ndipo musayang'ane pa mapazi ake nthawi zonse. Koma, ngati zinthu zikukukhudzani, mukonzereni kuti azikhala chete kunyumba. Koma musamachititse manyazi (ndipo akuganiza kuti tikuwadzudzula ndi ziwonetsero zamtundu wa anthu) kukangana mumsewu. Kapena mupange yankho loyankhidwa. Ndipo ndi kukhumba, tayang'anani pa mnyamata wina wokongola. Khalani otsimikiza kokha kuti bwanayo adaziwona izo. Khulupirirani, adzalandira phunziro lanu.
Ndipo tsopano tiyeni tikhale oona mtima ndi ife eni. Mwina mikangano ndi mikangano yomwe mukukonzekera chibwenzi chanu popanda chifukwa chomveka ndikumenyana ndi chikumbumtima chanu, chomwe chimatanthauza chikhumbo chanu chogawana ndi mwamuna uyu? Inu munakumana, ndipo zonse zinali zabwino ndi inu, koma kupititsa patsogolo chiyanjano chanu - mukamamvetsa bwino kwambiri kuti si munthu yemweyo, osati mnzanu wapamtima amene mungakonde kupita kukalamba? Pambuyo pake, ndipo izi zikhoza kukhala-palibe chochititsa manyazi kapena choopsya mu izi. M'malo mwake, m'malo mwake: ndi bwino kuzindikira nthawi yomwe simunali pabanja, ndikubalalitsa kusiyana ndi kumvetsetsa izi pamene mukugwirizanitsa chinthu china osati kungokhala pachibwenzi. Funso lokha ndilo momwe mumachitira, mukuganiza kuti simungakhale pamodzi ... Mwina simukufuna kuyika mfundoyi? Kodi mukuwopa, mukuopa kuti simungapeze munthu wina? Kapena simukufuna kukhala woyambitsa chibwenzi? Pamene awiri akulimbana ndi mtsikana, imodzi mwa iwo imamukakamiza kuti afotokoze momveka bwino ubalewo, ndipo mphamvu yachiwiri kubodza ndikukangana ndi kuwonongeka kotero kuti munthuyo achoke yekha, ndiye moyo wake wonse umakhala gehena weniweni. Palibe choipa kuposa vutoli. Ndipo ndi bwino kudzikweza nokha ndikuyankhula momasuka ndi iye, kusiyana ndi kukhumudwitsa ndi kumaliza ndi kuzizira kwanu. Iye ndi munthu wamoyo, amakukondani, ngati sataya, ngakhale kuti simungathe kupirira. Khalani wokhulupirika kwa iye: iye amayenera kukhala woona.
Ndipotu, zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa zochititsa manyazi nthawi zonse, kusweka ndi mikangano ndi mnyamata, mwina ngakhale galimoto ndi ngolo yaing'ono. Mwina ndi zinthu zing'onozing'ono m'moyo: mwachitsanzo, samakupatsani zokwanira, samakhala wokonda mnansi wa Irki ndipo alibe galimoto yozizira, sakudziwa kuvina kapena kulemba nyimbo. Koma kodi inu mwakondwera nacho chinachake? Ndithudi, iye ali wololera ndi wokoma mtima ndipo amasamala kwambiri za iwe - ndipo izi sizikuwoneka mosawerengeka kwa amuna amakono! Choncho phunzirani kuyamikira ubale umene muli nawo, osati kuwanyalanyaza ndi zonyansa.