Chinsinsi ndi kusadziwika kwa khalidwe lachimuna ndilo, monga mukudziwira, chowonadi chosadziwika kuti ndi zovuta kwambiri kuti amai amvetse. Kuti mukhale wovutika maganizo, kudzizunza nokha kuchokera mkati ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana ndi malingaliro okhudza iwo, monga momwe zimakhalire, osati ufulu wa amayi. Ndikhulupirire, amuna amavutitsidwa nthawi zambiri. Mwachidule, mwalamulo lawo, iwo samalankhula poyera, popanda kufuula kumanzere ndi kumanja, kuti pano, amati, Ndili ndi mdima wakuda m'moyo wanga ndi zomwe ndiyenera kuchita nawo. Zili zobisika, zabwino kwambiri pamalingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo. Chimene chiri choipa kwambiri. Pambuyo pa zonse, atapeza dziko lanu lamkati ndikulankhula za zomwe zimativuta ife mosavuta kuposa kuzibisira zonse mkati mwathu ndikuyesera kukhala monga chonchi. Amuna samakonda konse kufotokoza maganizo awo, omwe amaphatikizapo zotsatira zomvetsa chisoni chotero kwa iwo. Kukhala munthu weniweni komanso osadandaula za mavuto awo, aikidwa pansi, mwa mamuna aliyense, monga maziko olimba, m'miyoyo yawo. Choncho, chiwerengero chachikulu cha anthu onse, kukhala, mzimu wolimba, wodziimira, woyenera kuvomereza zovuta zonse za moyo komanso nthawi zonse kuletsa kusakhutira kwawo ndi maganizo awo. Ndipo, chifukwa chaichi, nthawi zonse amayesa ndi mphamvu zake zonse kuti afane ndi chithunzichi, atanyamula zolakwika zonse mkati mwake ndipo safunikira kumusiya. Ichi ndi chiwonetsero chachimuna ndipo palibe chomwe chingachitike pa izo, komabe kokha kwa ife akazi kulimbana ndi izi. Akanafuna kuti asinthe yekha, koma sangathe kuthetsa yekhayo, kuopa kunyozetsa mwamuna wake "I". Ndipo pa zoyesayesa zanu zonse, kuchotsa kwa iye chowonadi chenicheni, khalidwe lake lachilendo, iwo, nthawi zambiri, limangokhala kufotokozera kosavuta ndi kolondola mu mawonekedwe omwe, amati, iwo asokonezeka mwa iwoeni ndi kumverera kwawo. Ndipo, komabe, ngati munthu akunena kuti ali ndi zovuta pamoyo, musamusiye iye yekha ndi mavuto ake. Ziribe kanthu momwe zinaliri, yesetsani kulankhula naye ndipo mwinamwake kumapeto, kumuthandizani mwanjira ina, mu lingaliro labwino la mawu.
Pokhala mukuyenda panjira yolimbana ndi kumangika kwake ndi kusatsimikizika m'moyo, kuti panthaŵi imodzimodziyo mukhala ndi mpanda wam'mwamba wamakono sudzatha. Chimene mumasekondi pang'ono, chimangidwe, mwachindunji, munthu mwiniyo. Adzayesa, mothandizidwa ndi khomali, kuti adzichotsere kudziko lonse lapansi komanso thandizo lanu kuphatikizapo. Iye sakonda pamene mkazi amayesera kuloŵa mu moyo wake ndi mwa njira yabwino, mu dzina la kupeŵa izo, akuganiza "kuthawa chombo". Ndikofunika, kudziwa kuti anthu ambiri, osakondeka, amazindikira malangizo alionse omwe amachokera kumbali ya akazi. Zonsezi ndizo chifukwa chakuti malangizo omwe timapatsa, m'malingaliro awo a maganizo, amawoneka ngati onyoza ndi otsutsa. Kotero, mulimonsemo, musamupatse malangizo anu, koma perekani iwo, ngati, mwangozi, ndi njira. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuyika chithunzi chakulankhulana kwanu pamaso panu, musati mufunse mafunso ndikungozisiya. Amuna amakonda omvera oyamikira, ndipo chifukwa chake, mwayi wanu wozindikira, wogontha a moyo wake, ndi kupeza chomwe chabisika kumeneko, chidzawonjezeka kwambiri.
Koma choyamba, kukukonzekeretsani udindo wa wamaganizo aumunthu, tiyeni tiwone mwachidule zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimagwedeza munthu kuchoka pa moyo wake wokhazikika.
Amuna onse, kotero kuti zoipa zawo sizinafike pa moyo, m'maganizo awo aumunthu amakhala ovuta kuchitikira zowawa. M'malo mokhala ndi chilichonse, ngati osati ndi zochita, ndiye mwa mawu. Iwo amadzizunza okha chifukwa cha pafupifupi chirichonse chomwe chimachitika pozungulira iwo. Kaya ndi ntchito, banja, abwenzi kapena chikondi chatsopano chatayika. Tengani zambiri pazinthu zanu - iyi ndiyeso yawo yotchuka kwambiri. Ndipo izo zikhoza kufotokozedwa ndi izo. Kuti iye, mwamuna weniweni, amadzidalira kwambiri. Kuganiza kuti chirichonse chiri pansi pa udindo wake, ndipo ngati chirichonse sichingatheke. Iye amadzudzula yekha, yekha, kuti sangathe, izi ndi zonse kuti zisunge malire. Akuyesera kupeza komwe adakhululukanso ndipo, panthawiyi, adasowa kuyang'anitsitsa. M'mawu ake, iye anali chabe kutopa ndi udindo wopitiriza.
Komabe, zifukwa zingakhale kusakhulupirika kwake ngati munthu. Kusakhazikika kwachuma, kusakhutira ndiwekha, osati kukwaniritsa mapulani ndi ntchito zomwe zaikidwa patsogolo pawo, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, kuyambira kwa mzere wakuda pa kutsogolo kwa chikondi. Ponena za chifukwa chomalizira, ndilofala kwambiri ndipo imayima pamwamba pa zonse. Zimaphatikizapo mbali zambiri, chifukwa chake mwamunthu amangosokonezeka, osamvetsetsa malingaliro ake ndi zikhumbo zake. Izi zikhoza kukhala kutopa kwake kuchokera ku ubale wautali, chikondi chodzidzimutsa kwa mkazi wina kapena lingaliro lolingalira lomwe ili ndi chikondi. Apa munthu, kuposa kale, ameta mutu wake mu kamvuluvulu wa katatu kondomeko yachikondi, kuyesa kusankha yemwe ali wokondedwa kwenikweni kwa iye ndi yemwe akufuna kuti akhale naye. Apa tikuwonanso kuti iye anayamba kungokayikira zomwe anasankha, pokhala pafupi ndi inu ndipo simungathe kudziyankha yekha funso: "Kodi ndiwe munthu amene akufuna kukhala ndi moyo wake wonse?". Kapena mwinamwake ndizokha, ziribe kanthu momwe zimakhalira zowawa, iwe umayamba chifukwa cha chikondi. Kapena ingoganizani pang'ono pang'onopang'ono mu ubale wanu.
Ngati munthu akunena kuti ali ndi zovuta pamoyo, ndipo mukufuna kumuthandiza ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo amadzipweteka ndi kuzunzika kowawa ponena za kusautsika komweko, ndiye musamukakamize. Ndipo kungoyankhula naye, mupatseni nthawi kuti awone ngati angathe kuchilingalira kapena kumuthandiza. Pamodzi, monga mukudziwira, mavuto onse amawoneka ngati opusa. Osati kukankhira ndipo musamukankhire iye pamene apanga chisankho chomaliza, sichidzafulumizitsa zotsatira za chisankho chake. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, chirichonse chomwe iye anali, chikhale chochepa.