Zokongola za m'dzinja ndi chikhalidwe chimene sichiyenera kuonedwa. Kukhumudwa komanso kusungunuka kumatha kusokoneza nthawi zabwino, kutenthetsa mpweya komanso kuwononga thanzi labwino. Malamulo atatu adzakuthandizira kutsegula bwalo la melancholy ndikudzaza ndi moyo wawo.
Kusankha zolinga zenizeni ndizofunikira kwambiri. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chiwonongeko chiri chosaoneka, cholakwika ndi "zofunikira" komanso zosafunika kwenikweni. Ndondomeko ya moyo wanu iyenera kukhala ndi ndime zomveka bwino komanso zokhutika, zomwe zili ndi mtengo wapatali.
Kudzikweza ndilo gawo lina la iwo olemala. M'nyengo yophukira, musakhale pa zakudya zovuta, kuthera nthawi yambiri yophunzitsira kapena kuthamanga kwambiri pa ntchito - pa nthawi ino thupi ndilovuta kwambiri kupsinjika maganizo. Ndi bwino kudzikondweretsa nokha ndi nyimbo zomwe mumazikonda, kusamba kofiira, kugona kwathunthu kapena kuyenda mu dzuwa.
Mkhalidwe wodalirika kwa dziko lapansi ndi lachitatu, koma losafunikira kwenikweni, mfundo. Musayembekezere ena kuti achite zomwe sangathe kuchita - muyenera kuphunzira kulandira zomwe angapereke. Zofuna zambiri nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa mantha, zomwe zimatha kuchitika. Kuchepetsa kukula kwa maganizo ndi kusanthula mkhalidwe - njira yothetsera mavuto.