Apa tikukamba za ufulu waumwini muukwati (ukwati), koma ambiri a ife mawu awiriwa sagwirizana. Kuyambira nthawi zakale zinkaonedwa kuti ngati mwamuna ndi mwamuna akwatirana m'banja lachilamulo, ndiye kuti ali ndi wina ndi mnzake. Inde, muukwati ndikofunika kuti muzindikire kuti ndinu wa munthu. Pambuyo pake, ukwati unalengedwa bwino kuti athetse mavuto. Kumbukirani, zaka zambiri zambiri zapitazo ndipo mkazi ankawoneka ngati chuma cha munthu. Kotero tsopano, chikhulupiriro ichi chikukhala pafupifupi aliyense wa ife. Patriarchate ikulamulira m'maganizo mwathu mpaka pano.
Ubale wosangalatsa pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ukwati ndi ufulu waumwini m'dziko lamakono uli ndi ubale wapamtima. Muyeso mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndiwo chikondi ndi ufulu. Ndithudi ufulu!
Ngati palibe chikondi, ufulu waumwini pa chiyanjano pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna ukhoza kusandulika kukhala zinthu monga kusokoneza bongo, chisokonezo ndi demokalase. Ndipo popanda ufulu, chikondi pa nthawi chimakula ndikukhala udindo ndi ntchito, kumangoganizira komanso kukhala ndi umwini. Ndipo, Mulungu sakuletsa, pakhoza kukhala kudzikonda ndi chiwawa mu ubale! Kawirikawiri chifukwa cha vutoli mu ubale wa okwatirana ndi kusowa kwa ufulu m'banja.
Sitingathe kukhala opanda ufulu waumwini, gawo laumulungu la umunthu wathu. Tidziwa ufulu. Nthawi zina kufufuza uku kumathera kuthetsa banja kapena mtundu wina wa chiyanjano.
Munthu aliyense ali ndi chikhumbo chofuna ufulu waumwini. Ena amasonyeza ufulu wawo ndi khalidwe loyambirira ndi zovala. Ena - kugonana kwaulere. Koma mawonedwe akunja awa a ufulu ndi zotsatira za mkati mosasuntha.
Kodi ndi zofunikira zotani kuti pakhale chitukuko cha ufulu wa munthu ndi kumasulidwa? Pambuyo pake, kumasulidwa kudzatipatsa ife mwayi wopezera ufulu weniweni m'dziko lamakono lozungulira ife. Kukula kwa kulingalira, chikhumbo cha munthu payekha chitukuko, kuzindikira, kusonyeza chikondi ndi kusakhala kwa makompyuta - ndiyo njira yabwino yolumikizira cholinga.
Ngati poyamba kukhazikitsa mfundo imeneyi mu kulenga ukwati, ngakhale ndi kutuluka kwa maubwenzi, ndiye kuti chikhumbo chopanga mnzanu katundu wawo chidzatha. Ndiye chiwerengero cha kusudzulana chidzachepetsedwa, ndipo chikondi chidzakhala champhamvu (ufulu umalimbikitsa chikondi). Danga la chikondi lidzakula ndipo ana anu okondwa adzakula mmenemo.
Ndipo ngati mutachita zosiyana, sungani mnzanu wamphamvu, ndiye kuti banja lidzabwera pachibwenzi. Nchifukwa chiyani munthu safuna kupulumutsa wokondedwa wake pafupi: amasintha okha, amalekerera, amadzudzula okha, amadzichititsa manyazi, amasiya maonekedwe ake. Koma izi zimakakamiza kwambiri zinthu. Dziko, monga momwe likudziwikiratu, silingagwirizane. Ndipo yemwe amayesera kudzipatula mbali ina yake ndi kuyisunga pafupi nayo mosakayikira amalephera.
Amalandira yekha yemwe amadziwa kupatsa!
Khalani ngati ana anu - amakukondani aliyense (kupatula ngati makolo amawononga mwana wawo)! Kumbukirani, ana nthawi zambiri amabwereza kuti amakonda kapena munthu ameneyo. Makolo amawopa ndipo amaganiza kuti ana awo sakonda. Kumakakamiza mwanayo kuti adzikonda yekha, potero amafesa "mbewu" za mavuto amtsogolo a ana awo. Mbeu izi zidzatsimikizira okha osati m'banja, komanso m'moyo wamtsogolo wa banja la mwanayo. Mavuto ambiri a umunthu pakati pa abambo ndi amai amayamba muubwana.
Ufulu umachokera mitu yathu! Zili m'maganizo a munthu kuti chiwerengero cha anthu osapulumuka chimawonjezeka. Lembani dziko lapansi ndi maganizo atsopano, kumasula malingaliro kuchokera ku zinyalala! Mfundo zoyenera kukhazikitsa banja zidzakuthandizani kuthetseratu zinyengo ndikudzaza ndi mphamvu yatsopano ya ufulu. Khalani okondwa!