Moyo weniweni sungakhale ndi chikondi chimodzi chokha, chiyanjanochi chimakhala ngati mapangidwe amakono pamtunda umodzi, pomwe pansi pake imasungidwa ndi wina. Kukonzekera uku kumafanana ndi dongosolo lovuta, osati mphatso ya chiwonongeko. Ngakhale chikhalidwe cha chikondi kwambiri chiyenera kuwerengera ndi zinthu zosasangalatsa ngati chuma, kugawanika kwa mphamvu m'banja. Ulamuliro umakhala umene poyamba unali wosiyana.
Kugonana kwaulere muwiri ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo za moyo wothandizira, momwe khalidwe laulere la awiri kapena alongo limodzi limagwiritsidwa ntchito. Pali mitundu iwiri ya ubale waufulu - awa ndi mawonedwe aulere amodzi komanso chikhumbo cha ufulu wa mmodzi wa anthu ogwirizana. Kawirikawiri khalidwe ili limagwiridwa ndi amuna.
Akazi, ambiri amakonda kukhala ndi banja labwino, ana, mwamuna wokhulupirika, ndiko, chitsanzo chachiyanjano cha ubale wa banja. Mu chitsanzo ichi, kufunika kolimbikitsidwa kwawonjezeka, akusowa kumvetsetsa kuti panthawi zovuta adzapulumutsidwa. Ndi kwa anthu a mdziko lino kuti lingaliro la kuyanjana kwaufulu silokongola kwambiri. Amakhulupirira kuti ubale waulere ndi kuthaŵa udindo osati chipinda cha chikondi. Zowonjezera kwa iwo, kutentha kwa banja, kumverera kotetezeka ndi chidaliro mu zinthu zamtsogolo. Pankhaniyi, mkazi yemwe akufuna "kuphunzitsanso" munthu wotere, kukhala woonamtima, ndizosatheka.
Njira ina, munthu amadalira yekha, chifukwa anthu onse amasinthasintha, amayamikira kwambiri mwayi wokonzanso moyo wake maminiti. Awa ndi othandizira maubwenzi aufulu. Awa ndiwo anthu omwe, chifukwa cha lamulo lawo lachilengedwe lokhazikika, sangathe kuchita popanda wokondedwa mmodzi ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi. Kufuna kwatsopano nthawi zonse, adventurism, adrenaline ikufulumira m'magazi awo. Ichi ndi chibadwa cha mitala kwa mitala, sichikulimbana ndi ichi, choncho sichidzatsutsa. Kwa anthu oterowo, chikondi ndi ubale wauzimu (monga iwo amachitcha) ndipo abwenzi osakhalitsa amakhala okhutira ndi chibadwa. Mu ubale waulere, nsanje ndi umwini wokha ndiwo malingaliro omwe amadyanana wina ndi mzake.
Ufulu mu ubale - monga chitsanzo choyanjana ndi banja, kuthetsa aliyense payekha. Ngati mwakhumudwa, koma kuti mudzipunthitse nokha, khalani ndi malingaliro anu ndikuphwanya maganizo anu osayenera, palibe chabwino chiri pafupi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zili mmenemo ndipo sichikutuluka.
Inde, m'nthawi yathu ino, munthu aliyense wachiwiri ali ndi mantha a ubale weniweni. Ndipotu sikuti aliyense amafuna kumvetsetsa kuti kugonana ndi mtundu wodzipereka komanso udindo wina wokonzekera kuchita zinthu zotsutsana ndi luso lapadera losazindikira zofooka za wina ndi mzake. Ngati chinachake sichikugwira ntchito pamoyo, amayi amazoloŵera kulangizira amuna chifukwa cha izi, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti vuto la mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku ndilo nthawi zonse kwa amayi. Inde, pali, zonsezo ndi zolondola. Koma nthawi zambiri timadzimva kuti ndife okondwa kwambiri kuposa mantha athu ndi maofesi athu osokoneza.
Pambuyo pake, maubwenzi olenga amamangidwa pokhapokha pa kudalira, kuwona mtima ndi kutseguka. Kuyankhula ndi kumvetsera vuto kumatengera njira zoyamba kuti zithandizidwe, choncho ndizofunika kuti muyankhulane wina ndi mzake, osati kukhala ndikuganiza zomwe zili m'maganizo mwake.