Kusamvetsetsana kumabweretsa ngakhale m'mabanja okondweretsa kwambiri. maubwenzi abwino. Ndipo ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati zopanda phindu kukambirana nawo, popanda zosankha zomwe zimaphatikizapo ndipo zingabweretse mavuto aakulu. Nthawi zina mawu osasamala oponyedwa ndi okondana wina ndi mnzake amakhala ndi mkwiyo wochuluka kwa nthawi yaitali. Mmene mungathetsere mkangano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi mwapweteka komanso mopanda tsatanetsatane, ndipo tidzakambirana mmunsimu.
Akatswiri amatsimikizira kuti chilichonse, ngakhale mikangano yaing'ono kwambiri ingathe kufotokozedwa. Ndipo nkofunikira kuchita izi mwamsanga mutatha chigamulo - kukambirana za zomwe zimakupwetekani kapena kukukhumudwitsani. Apo ayi, maganizo amayamba kuwonjezeka, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano mtsogolomu. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amauza momwe angaphunzire kulankhula za zomwe zimatipweteka, ndipo mwamsanga kuthetsa mikangano.
Nthawi zonse muzinena zomwe mumamva
Ndibwino kuti mutha kudziletsa nokha osati kupsa ndi mkwiyo pa vuto lochepa. Koma izi siziyenera kutembenuzidwa kukhala chilungamo-chokha, pamene mumasunga ululu ndi mkwiyo mwa inu nokha kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndikhulupirire, mumaloledwa kukwiya ndi wokondedwa wanu pa zomwe adachita kapena kunena. Ndiwe munthu wamba wamoyo. Kuthetsa zomwe zimayambitsa kusokonezeka, kudziyang'anira nokha kumapangitsa kuti pamapeto pake mutha kuphulika. Vuto ndiloti zingatheke panthawi iliyonse ndipo zingakhale zodabwitsa kwa mnzanuyo. Waiwala kale za nkhondo yapitayi, komabe muli ndi chisoni cha mavuto osathetsedwa, mkwiyo ndi malonda obisika. Wokondedwa wanu sangathe kumvetsa chifukwa chake mukupwetekedwa mtima, chifukwa zomwe mukuchita sizigwirizana ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Ndiyeno pali njira ziwiri zothetsera vutoli:
1. Wokondedwa wanu akuwopa, samvetsa chifukwa chake mumamwazira, koma amakukondani ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa. Amamvetsera zotsutsa zanu, akukutsimikizirani, amalingalira, koma nthawi zonse pambuyo pake amanyamula mwa iye yekha kusakhulupirika kosalekeza ndi nkhawa kwa inu.
2. Wokondedwa wanu akuphulika poyankha, akukutsutsani kuti ndinu wonyansa komanso mukuchoka. Nthawizina kwanthawizonse.
Ndiye mungachite chiyani? Musamayerekeze kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika ngati mnzanuyo akunena kapena akuchita chinachake chokhumudwitsa inu. Ngakhale izi sizinali zotsutsana, sizothandiza kukhalabe pa izi ndikuziiwala. Fotokozerani mnzanu zakukhosi kwanu: "Ndikuwopa khalidwe lanu," "Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake mukundiwuza ichi," "Mawu anu amandikhumudwitsa," ndi zina zotero. Mwinamwake mnzanuyo sadziwa ngakhale chimene chingakukhumudwitse. Ndipo iwe, popanda kudzidziwa wekha, usamuuze momveka bwino za izo, usamupatse mpata wopepesa ndi kufotokoza khalidwe lake. Mudzangokhala chete, mukuganiza kuti: "Sindimandikonda, samalemekeza, samamvetsera," ndi zina zotero.
Pewani masiku amtendere. Ndizo zowopsya mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Chinthu choipitsitsa chimene mungachite ndi kufunsa funso lodzipereka la mnzanuyo: "Nchiyani chinachitika?" Kuyankha kuti: "Palibe." Choncho, mulibe mwayi wotsutsa. Inu mumachoka kwa wina ndi mzake mofulumira kuposa momwe mungayembekezere. Kumbukirani: Nthawi zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa mkwiyo wanu ndi zomwe zingayambitse mikangano zina sizikubwera m'malingaliro a mnzanu nkomwe. Iye sadziwa ngakhale chimene iwe ukutanthauza.
Perekani zifukwa. Kulingalira momveka nthawi zonse kumayambitsa yankho lothandiza. Kuti mukhale mwamtendere, kodi simukufuna kuti wina aziimba mlandu mwamuna wanu, kungoti "musamugwire", ngakhale mukuganiza kuti ndizolakwika? Musati muchite izi. Chisokonezo chirichonse chiyenera kuimitsidwa pakupeza kuyanjana. Popanda kutero, nthawi zonse mumabwerera ku vutoli ndikulidziwanso mobwerezabwereza. Pepani chifukwa cha nthawi ndi mphamvu zanu. Choncho, ngati vutoli lisanafotokozedwe, musayambe kuthetsa vutoli "mu bokosi lalitali". Yesetsani kupeza njira yothetsera kuti mbali zonse zikhale zokhutira.
Musakwiyitse mikangano yaing'ono
Kodi mukufuna kudziwa ngati chibwenzi chanu ndi munthu wokondedwa chidzapambana, kodi chidzayesa nthawi? Musayang'ane yankho mu mpira wa kristalo - ingoyang'anani pa ubale wanu moona mtima. Zowopsya zambiri zingathe kudziwika m'masabata oyambirira a moyo pamodzi!
Mipikisano ndi mikangano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi nthawi zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kukhazikitsa malamulo atsopano. Ndizoipa ngati ndi njira imodzi "yothetsera" komanso kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa, maganizo kapena kusakhutira mkati. Kotero ngati muwona kuti nthawi zambiri mumayambitsa mikangano yaing'ono kuti muthe kuchotsa mavuto a mkati - yesetsani kusintha zinthu zisanathe.
Kodi mungatani? Fotokozani khalidwe lanu kwa mnzanuyo. Nenani kuti mukumvetsa kuti nthawi zina zingakhale zosasangalatsa, kuti zimachitika popanda chifukwa chomveka, komanso kuti ndi zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa kwa inu. Pepani ndi kulonjeza kuti zinthu zidzasintha. Mukaona kuti muli okwiya ndipo mukudziwa kuti mwangokonzeka kuphulika, ndi bwino kubwerera. Uzani wokondedwa wanu zakukhosi kwanu ndikufotokozereni kuti mukuyesera kuti mupirire nokha. Pitani paulendo, muzisamba kapena chitani chinthu chomwe chimakuchititsani kuti musinthe.
Pezani mkangano wina kuti muthetse mavuto. Ngati nthawi zina mumakhalidwe a mnzako akukhumudwitsa - muuzeni za izo. Kodi mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi chubu lotseguka la mankhwala a mano kapena kumwazikana kuzungulira masokosi? Kusintha kwa makhalidwe otere sikungakhale kovuta kwa iye, ndipo, ndithudi, kudzachepetsa mikangano yosafunikira. Pamene zowopsya izi zitheka, simungathe kuyambitsa mikangano m'banja. Ngati ndi kotheka, funsani mnzanuyo kuti azichita chidwi kwambiri ndi zizoloŵezi zake. Koma, pomaliza, izi ziyenera kudalira kukula kwa mgwirizano wanu ndi chikhumbo chokondweretsa wina ndi mzake.
Nthawi zonse perekani mikangano
Kubweretsa mikangano pazifukwa zilizonse sizoipa - kumathandiza kuthetsa mkangano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Komanso kumatsuka mlengalenga m'nyumba, chifukwa nthawi zonse mumalongosola phokoso komanso kusamvetsetsana. Koma chifukwa cha izi, nkofunika kutsatira malamulo angapo.
1. Musanyoze mnzanuyo. Izi sizidzathetsa kuthetsa mkangano, koma zidzasokoneza kudzikuza kwake kowawa.
2. Musapfuule. Lankhulani ziganizo zanu mu mau otsika - kotero mumakakamize mnzanuyo kuti amvereni. Ndipo mulole mnzanuyo kupeza mawu. Fotokozani mmene mumamvera, ndipo musaweruze popanda kufotokoza. Musanene izi: "Ndiwe waulesi!", Koma nenani, mwachitsanzo, "Ndikufuna mphamvu yanu. Sindingathe kuchita popanda inu. Chonde, chonde ... "
3. Musagwiritse ntchito. Poyesera kuthetsa mkangano, mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kuphunzira kuika maganizo pazofunika za nkhaniyi. Mwachitsanzo, mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi kuchedwa kawirikawiri kwa mwamuna kumntchito mochedwa. Koma inu, poiwala zafunika, yambani kunena kwa mwamuna wanu: "Ntchito yanu ndi yofunika kwambiri! Inu simukuchita chirichonse kunyumba! Muli ndi chilichonse m'banja mwanu. Ndipo mchimwene wanu, ndi ena onse ... "Musati" mutenge mivi. " Mukamakambirana za vuto linalake, lankhulani za izo. Apo ayi, inu mumangowonjezera mkangano.