Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zofunika kwambiri ndi kusiyana pakati pa ziyembekezo zathu ndi zenizeni. Tikukhulupirira kuti wokondedwa adzachita monga momwe tikufunira, koma zimakhala zosiyana. Ndiyeno tikuzindikira kuti zizindikiro zathu zathyoledwa, zomwe tinalenga m'mutu mwathu kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndicho chifukwa chake amakwiya.
Chifukwa chachiwiri ndikuti timadziona tokha kukhala angwiro, ndipo tilibe zolakwa. "Wotheka bwanji kuti apange ndemanga kwa ine!" - Awa ndi mawu a mkwiyo amene amatipangitsa kukhumudwitsidwa ndi okondedwa athu. Ndipo palinso kukwiya mwadala. Izi ndi pamene ife tikufuna kupeza phindu kapena kuchititsa kulakwa kwa wokondedwa. Ndipo mwinamwake, ndikutopa kumene kumatipangitsa ife kukhumudwitsidwa ndi okondedwa athu. Mawu alionse omwe amathawa amatengedwa mozama ndikupangitsa kuti azikhala osakwiya komanso okwiya.
Chifukwa chotsatira cha mkwiyo ndi kusonkhanitsa mavuto a moyo. Nthawi zina timakhumudwa, timakwaniritsa zolinga. Cholinga chimodzi ndicho kusokoneza. Anakhumudwitsidwa popanda chifukwa chokakamiza munthu wokwera mtengo kuti alankhule kapena achite zomwe tikusowa.
Chotsatira chotsatira chomwe chikutsatiridwa ndi chakuda. Kukhumudwa, timamukakamiza wokondedwayo kuti amve zowawa ndipo amalipira chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe sitimakonda. Ndipo cholinga china chimodzi ndicho kudzilungamitsa. Mwa kulakwitsa kwathu, timadzipatula tokha ndi udindo wonse pa zomwe zinachitika ndipo sitingathe kuchita kanthu kuti tithetse vutoli. Tikafafaniza zifukwa zonse ndi zolinga za zolakwira, tidzayang'ana yankho la funso: "Mmene mungayime, nthawi zonse mukhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu?"
Choyamba, muyenera kusintha pang'ono. Izi ndi zovuta kwambiri kuchita, koma ziri mu mphamvu zathu, chifukwa munthu adzilenga yekha.
Chachiwiri, kumbukirani kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi zikhumbo zake, zizolowezi zake ndi zosowa zake. Nthawi zina muzidziika pamalo ake. Dziwani zonse zomwe akumva.
Ngati chifukwa cha mkwiyo wanu ndikutopa, yesetsani kukhala ndi mpumulo wabwino, kusangalala, kapena mwina kuwerenga buku labwino.
Ngati mutayamba kumva kuti mukukhumudwa ndi mawu a wokondedwa wanu ndipo mwakonzeka kukhumudwa, yanikani ndiyang'ane mkhalidwewu kudzera mwa chinthu chomwe chili pafupi ndi inu ndikuganizira zomwe akukuganizirani komanso zonsezi. Ndikhulupirire, iwe udzakhala wopusa. Chokhumudwitsa kwambiri, pamene simungamvetsetse zifukwa zodandaula zanu pa munthu wokwera mtengo kapena simukudziwa momwe mungagwirire ndi zolakwazi, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kupita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ndipo mwamsanga mukamachita izi, zidzakhala zabwino kwa inu.
Ndikoyenera kukumbukira chinthu chimodzi musanapsetse mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu, ganizirani ngati mudzanong'oneza bondo pambuyo pake. Ndipotu, kunyoza kuli ndi zigawo zisanu: mkwiyo kapena kukwiya; Mtima wanu; kuopa kutayika munthu wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa; kulakwa; chikondi.
Ndipotu, koposa zonse timakhumudwitsidwa ndi yemwe timamukonda kwambiri. Ngati timakhumudwitsidwa ndi wokondedwa wathu komanso ngati cholakwacho chiri choyenera, komabe mpatseni mwayi wofotokozera chifukwa chake akuchita. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukhalabe ndi ubale wanu komanso kulimbitsa chikondi chanu.