Kusinkhasinkha Zakale
Zimatheka kuti munthu abwezeretsenso maganizo ake ndi zochita zake ndikusankha kuti zonse zomwe sizinali. Mwachitsanzo, zaka ziwiri zapitazo msungwanayo anganene kuti amakonda mtsikana ndipo akufuna kumanga naye ubale. Koma patapita nthawi, mayiyo adanena kuti izi ndizo ubwenzi, koma osati chikondi. Nchifukwa chiyani akuchita izi? Mwina ali ndi nsanje kwa mnyamata wina kapena amayerekezera mmene akumvera kale ndi zenizeni, zomwe zimakhala zamphamvu kapena zamphamvu. Choncho, mtsikanayo akuyamba kukhulupirira kuti mgwirizano wakale unali wosiyana kwambiri ndi kukana mawu omwe atchulidwa kale. Pankhaniyi, munthu samvetsa zomwe zimatsutsana ndi iye mwini. Mwachidziwikiratu adali ndi chidaliro kuti amamva chinthu chimodzi, tsopano akudalira zosiyana kwambiri ndikumangokhalira kuiŵala zomwe zapitazo. Pankhaniyi, zimakhala zovuta ngakhale kumuneneza aliyense payekha. Mwachidule, motsogoleredwa ndi maganizo ena ndi malingaliro, anthu amasintha maganizo awo ndikuiwala zomwe adanena kale. Kulimbana kwakukulu - kulimbika mtima kwa onse. Kotero, ngati mukumvetsa kuti munthu amasintha malingaliro ake pokhapokha mwa chikoka cha mtima, musamukwiyire. Amangowona zapitazo ndi zomwe adanena kale pokhapokha kupyolera mu ndende ya dziko lino, zomwe zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zinalipo.
Mantha
Chifukwa china chomwe anthu amakana kuyang'anira ndi mawu ndi mantha. Mwachitsanzo, munthu akhoza kugwedezeka, ndipo pozindikira kuti chifukwa cha mawu ake akugwera mukumenyana kapena wina wa anthu omwe ali pafupi akhoza kukana, akuyamba kubwerera ndikukana zonse zomwe adanena. Mkhalidwe umenewu, unakhala pafupifupi aliyense wa ife, kotero ndi kovuta kuweruza omwe amachita izi. Ku mbali imodzi, izi, ndithudi, ndizoipa komanso zolakwika. Koma, kwina, palibe amene akufuna kuti azikhala chionetsero cha mkangano kapena chonyansa, makamaka ngati chikukhudza munthu mmodzi. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti wina wamuuza wina kanthu kwa mlembi, ndiyeno akuyamba kukana mawu awa. Zikakhala choncho, ziyenera kulangizidwa kuti zisagwiritse ntchito mau oterewa ngati zotsutsana. Ngati mukudziwa kuti munthu akhoza kutaya mawu, pakuti palibe chomwe chiyenera kutchulidwa konse, ndibwino kuti usafalitse uthenga umene mwalandira mwangozi. Mwinamwake, palibe amene akufunikira kudziwa chilichonse, ndipo munthu yemwe wakuuzani izi sakuyenera kuti alowe mmalo mwake, chifukwa adazichita mwangozi kapena akukhulupirira kuti mukhoza kupereka chinsinsi chanu.
Kuthamangitsidwa
Chifukwa china chomwe munthu angakane mawu ake ndi kuchitidwa kwa ena. Pachifukwa ichi, anthu amagwiritsa ntchito mawuwa kuti apange winawake kutsutsana ndi munthu wina (anthu) kapena kukakamiza munthu wina kuchita zomwe akufuna. Muzochitika zoterezi, anthu amayamba kulankhula chinthu chimodzi, wina - wina, potsiriza amapanga mkhalidwe umene aliyense amasiya kudalira wina ndi mzake ndikudalira kokha. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti mu nkhani iyi muyenera kudziwa yemwe, ndi chiyani komanso momwe mungalankhulire, ndi mawu ati omwe mungabwerere ndi zina zotero. Si anthu onse okonzekera "ntchito" zoterezo. Nthaŵi zambiri, zoterezi zimawululidwa, chifukwa munthuyo amangobisala. Komabe, pamakhala zochitika zenizeni ngati mwazochita zooneka ngati zophweka, munthu akhoza kugwira mwakachetechete gulu la anthu momwe iye amafunira. Muzochitika zoterezi, nkofunika kuyang'anitsitsa zomwe anthu akunena. Wogwiritsira ntchito nthawi zonse akhoza kuwerengedwa. Muyenera kudalira chidziwitso chanu komanso zomwe mukudziwa, komanso kuti musayambe kukondana ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi. Ngati wogwiritsira ntchito amayang'anizana ndi kugwirizana kwa malingaliro ndi kudalirana wina ndi mzake, mwamsanga zimapanga chinachake, ndipo inu mukhoza kumutsutsa iye za bodza. Koma ngati simungathe kuchita izi, ndiye kuti manipulator yemweyo adzayang'anitsitsa aliyense ndi maso ake ndikunena kuti: "Sindinanene zimenezo", ndipo kumbuyo kwanu mudzachita zonse zomwe angaganizire m'mutu mwake.
Osati kulimbikira
Kawirikawiri anthu amatenga mawu awo, chifukwa sangathe kumamatira kumalo amodzi. Amathamanga kuchoka ku wina kupita kumzake, kugonjera kumtima, kunena chirichonse chimene chimadza m'maganizo, ndiyeno nkubweza mawu awo. Anthu oterewa alibe psyche. Nthawi yeniyeni, iwo akhozadi ndi kutsimikizika kwathunthu, mwachitsanzo, akukulonjezani kuti mu sabata mumadya limodzi pa tchuthi. Koma patadutsa masiku atatu munthu woteroyo adzabweza mawu ake ndi kunena kuti sakufuna chilichonse ndipo adzakhala pafupi masabata awiri kutsogolo kwa kompyuta. Ndipo tsiku lina iye adzasintha maganizo ake ndikusonkhananso kwinakwake kuti apite, koma nthawi ino adzasankha malo ena oti apumule. Ndipo kotero iye akhoza kutenga mawu ake ndi kupereka malonjezo atsopano kwa zopanda malire. Ndi anthu osakhazikika oterewa ndi ovuta kwambiri kulankhulana, koma ngati mukufuna kukhala pafupi ndi munthu wotero - musakhale odzikweza. Iye amachita izo mwamtheradi osati ku zoyipa. Ndizowona kuti maganizo ake amachitanso chimodzimodzi, ndipo amangofotokoza zomwe akumva. Mmalo mofuula kachiwiri, pamene munthu wotereyo akunena zomwe ziri zabwino kwa inu, mumugwire ndipo musachedwe kuchita zomwe walonjeza, kotero kuti kenako, monga akunena, palibe njira yobwerera.
Kutsegula
Mwatsoka, anthu amasiya maganizo awo ndikubweza mawuwo, chifukwa amangogwa pansi ndi mphamvu ya wina. Mwachitsanzo, amatha kunena zomwe amaganiza, koma pamaso pa munthu wina amakana mawu awo ndikuyamba kufotokoza maganizo awo, ma atomu, omwe adawayika. Muzochitika izi, munthu amafotokoza kuti amaganiza molakwika kale, ndipo tsopano maso ake atsegula. Ndipo pafupifupi nthawi zonse m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, samangosiya mawu awo. Amayamba kutsutsa mwatsatanetsatane zomwe zinanenedweratu, kukamba za iwo okha sizinthu zokondweretsa kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri zimachita ngati kuti akuchita chinachake chowopsya. Mwa njira, kaŵirikaŵiri mawu omwe amachokera ndi oona, koma malingaliro atsopanowo amakhala olakwika ndi osasangalatsa, koma munthu amene ali pansi pa chikoka cha munthu sangathe kuzizindikira.
Mulimonsemo, ngati munthu atenga mawu ake - kutanthauza kuti amakhulupirira kuti chinthu choterocho chidzakhala cholondola kwambiri. Lingaliro losavuta lingakhale chifukwa chomveka cha kusanthula mfundo zina kapena chikoka cha winawake kapena chinachake m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo ake.