Maphikidwe ochizira mowa mwauchidakwa, omwe ali m'nkhaniyi si ovuta.
Kumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa chilakolako mwa ife kuti tisangalale mwa kuchepetsa magazi ndi mowa sikofunikira kokha kuwona koopsa kwa mowa. Chofunika kwambiri, kumvetsetsa zifukwazi zingathandize kukhala osintha moyo wanu, kuchotsa zovuta ndi zikhulupiriro zosafunika zomwe zimapotoza moyo wanu. Yambani moyo watsopano mutangomva zozizwitsa. Koma tsopano n'zotheka - ingowerengani nkhaniyi mpaka kumapeto.
Kawirikawiri pokambirana timati "ndikuganiza", "mwa lingaliro langa", ndi zina zotero. Komabe, ngati mukuganiza za izi - nthawi zambiri si maganizo athu. Chifukwa cha ulesi kapena kusowa kwa nthawi, sitiganizira mozama za nkhani yokambirana. Ndipo zomwe timapereka chifukwa cha malingaliro athu ndizo lingaliro la wina yemwe tamva kale. Maganizo oterowo, makamaka ngati kawirikawiri ankabwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza, amawoneka ngati athu. Pa nthawi yomweyo, ngati wina akufuna kuwatsutsa, tikuwatsimikizira mwamphamvu. Koma ndikukutsimikizirani, ngati mutaganizira za izo mokwanira - ndizotheka kuti mumvetsetsa kuti simukugwirizana ndi lingaliro ili kapena kugwirizana ndi zosungira zina.
Nchifukwa chiyani timalola ena kuganiza ndi kuchita kwa ife? Mwinamwake chifukwa sitidziwa choti tichite nthawi ina? Ngati mulibe chidziwitso cha mkati, mofanana ndi chibadwa, momwe mungakhalire, pali chiyeso chachikulu choganiza ndi kuchita molingana ndi zolemba kapena zokhazikika zomwe tinalera. Mwachidziwikire, mkhalidwe uno ndi makhalidwe abwino ndizo malingaliro odziwika bwino, makhalidwe ndi ndondomeko za zochita. Palibe chinthu choti tiganizire, timatsata ndi ntchito. Ngakhale sitimakonda. Mumtima timafuna kuchita mosiyana. Koma mwa njira ina nthawi zonse zimakhala zosiyana ndi malamulo, malingaliro a chikhalidwe kapena chikhumbo cha wina. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, kuwonjezera pa kulimba mtima ndi makhalidwe ena ofunika, muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukufuna.
Apa ndi pamene mpweya wauzimu umapangidwira, pamene munthu sakudziwa zomwe akufuna komanso momwe angakwaniritsire. M'malo mwake, amamupangira chinthu chimene sakufuna kuchita. Pang'onopang'ono, kusakhutira mkati mwa moyo kumakhala kovuta, zovuta ndi zikhumbo zosaoneka bwino. Ndipo zonsezi zimakhala ndi chikhumbo chothawa mavuto. Komanso, kuthetsa vuto lomwe simukulidziwa n'kosatheka.
Kuphatikizanso, tonsefe timanyamula katundu wathu, zovuta ndi zina. Chifukwa cha zitsulo zonsezi mu khalidwe lathu lachizoloŵezi zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza zigawo zambiri zofunika za umunthu wathu. Munthu, makamaka ngati ali ndi chizoloŵezi chodzipusitsa yekha, nthawi zambiri sadziwa za iye mwini zinthu zambiri, kapena amawakana mwa iyemwini. Ndipo ndizoopsa kwa munthu kukhala wosakhulupirika naye. Ngati chinyengo cha anthu chikhoza kumvetsedwa (tonsefe, pochita izi, tikuyesera kuti tiwoneke bwino kuposa momwe tilili), ndiye kuti kudzidzinyenga sikungakhale koyenera. Komanso, zimamuwononga munthuyo.
Chodabwitsa n'chakuti ambiri mwa mafunsowa ayankhidwa ndi mowa. Sindikukukakamizani kumamwa mowa mwa njira iliyonse. Koma, ine ndikuganiza, ambiri amadziwa kale izi. Izi ndi zokwanira. Muyenera kukumbukira khalidwe lanu panthawi yomwe mumamwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi "kulimba mtima kuti mukhale owona mtima ndi inu nokha" mukhoza kupeza mfundo zothandiza kwambiri. Izi zidzakhala njira yanu yothandizira kumwa mowa.
Ngati munthu amakhala womasuka komanso wosasuka kuzipangizo zoledzeretsa, akhoza kubweretsa zochitika izi tsiku ndi tsiku. Zomwe zimayambitsa kwambiri vuto sizimathetsa izi. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti njira imeneyi ya kudalira mowa sizothandiza?
Kawirikawiri munthu amadzilola yekha "kumasuka" ndi kuchita zinthu zina zomwe zimakhala zosautsa kwa iye sizilandiridwa. Amachita izi chifukwa amamva bwino - amafunikira. Ndipo tsiku lotsatira, mowa umamupatsa "kukhuta" kwathunthu mu "kufooketsa pang'ono" ndi machimo ena. Koma muzochitika zonsezi vuto silithetse.
Kawirikawiri, mowa kwambiri khalidwe lathu loledzera limasiyana ndi khalidwe lachizoloŵezi, chifukwa cholemetsa choganizira. Nthawi zambiri, munthu akamasintha mosazindikira - wina akhoza kuganiza kuti ndi munthu wopatukana. Mowa umachotsa ziletso zathu zamkati, zomwe zimachokera ku ndondomeko ya maphunziro ndi makhalidwe abwino. Ndiponso kumasulira kunja maofesi athu. Choncho, munthu woledzera amamasulidwa ku chikoka cha chitukuko ndikukhala yekha. Ndiyeno zimakhala zosangalatsa. Si chiwanda chomwe chimalowa mwa munthu - munthu uyu amasonyeza nkhope yake yeniyeni.
Mukhoza kuchichitira izi m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ambiri samangomwa. Koma mfundo siyiyi - zokambirana sizikamba za kumwa kapena kusamwa, koma zazifukwa zina zomwe zimayambitsa uchidakwa. Mfundo yaikulu ndi yakuti vuto, monga mdani, ndilokumana bwino ndi maso. Mungathe ngakhale kuthetsa. Ndi bwino kudzidziwitsa nokha kufikira njira zovuta kwambiri ndikugwira ntchito pazimenezi, kusiyana ndi kuyembekezera mpaka izo zimasanduka chinthu chowopsya. Zoonadi, kuzindikira ndi kuthetsa mavutowa kudzakuyenderani kwambiri pakukula kwanu komanso kudzapindulitsa kwambiri pamunda uliwonse, kuyambira pa moyo wanu mpaka ntchito ndi bizinesi.
Ngati mukuyang'ana pa pragmatic yokha, popanda zifukwa zosafunikira ndi zosafunika, ndiye kuti chizolowezi cha khalidwe lanu lotayirira ndi chiwonetsero chanu ngati munthu "wopanda chikhalidwe" opanda chinyengo, opanda zovala zamaganizo. Ndipo ntchito yathu sikuti "tizitsatira izi," koma kuti tipange zinthu zabwino kuti tigwiritse ntchito tokha, kuyesa kumvetsa zomwe mavuto athu amabisika, ndi kuphunzira momwe tingachitire ndi iwo popanda mowa. Komanso, kuthetsa mavutowa kumatipangitsa ife kukhala wathanzi wathanzi, komanso kumathetsa kufunika kokhala ndi maganizo.