Maubale apamanja amalingaliridwa kuti ndi amodzi mwa nkhani zotchuka kwambiri lero. Mwachabechabe, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kukondana mwamuna ndi mkazi sangathe kupeza chinthu chachikulu - kumvetsetsa. Chifukwa chake mikangano yambiri imayambira m'banja. Mawu "timamvetsetsana popanda mawu", lero mungakumane nawo kawirikawiri. Mawu oterewa akhoza kunena ndi agogo aamuna, omwe adagwira dzanja lawo nthawi zonse ndikuwona nthawi zovuta, makamaka omwe adatha kuthetsa nkhondo. Ndipo ife, mbadwo wamakono wa achinyamata, omwe ali mu kayendetsedwe ka nthawi zonse ndi kusankha mafunso ochuluka, amafunikira kuti azigwirizana okha, kupyola mndandanda wa mikangano ya m'banja.
Zimayambitsa mikangano m'banja
Mwina pachiyambi ndibwino kuganiza ndi kuyesa chifukwa cha mikangano yomwe imachitika m'banja. Asayansi apeza kuti mikangano pakati pa okwatirana ikhoza kubwera chifukwa chosagwirizana ndi ufulu wa " olojekiti ". Pali anthu "larks", pali "akalulu", ndipo mwinamwake inu ndi mnzanu mumangokhala m'magulu osiyanasiyana, pamene wina akudzuka m'mawa, mokondwera komanso kale, ndikukonzekera tsiku lotsatira, kwinakwake, akugona komanso Musaganize za zomwe zidzachitike lero. Koma ichi ndi lingaliro chabe, lomwe siliyenera kuchepetsedwa ku mavuto onse omwe amapezeka m'moyo wa banja. Mwina ndi zosiyana - muli ndi maudindo osagwirizana, mwachitsanzo, mu maphunziro a ana, kusagwirizana pankhani zachuma.
Tikufuna kutsegula maso athu momwe zimayambira m'banja mwathunthu pa "malo opanda kanthu" ndipo zomvetsa chisoni, nthawi zambiri. Tangoganizani, mkhalidwe wabwino. Iwe umachokera kuntchito, msewu wamsewu sunali wosangalatsa, winawake anakankhira, atemberera, ndipo tsikulo linali lovuta. Ndiyeno mwamuna yemwe amakhala pansi pa sofa ndikuwonera TV mwakachetechete, mwana yemwe amapempha thandizo mu maphunzirowo. Ndipo mukuwoneka kuti mukung'anjidwa ndi mkwiyo umene wakula mwa inu. Ndipo pamene mgwirizano wa banja ufika pamtunda wawo, mukuzindikira kuti palibe chifukwa choti mupitirize kukambirana. Pamapeto pake, pitani ku ngodya, ndikuchita bizinesi yanu.
Tsikulo lidutsa, lachiwiri, madzulo amakhala chete, palibe yemwe amalankhula kwa wina aliyense, ndipo foniyo imakhala chete mwamtendere. Mukuganiza kale:
- "Mwinamwake muyenera kubwera ndi kukambirana?"
- "Ayi, bwanji, poyamba, ndikulondola (a), ndipo kachiwiri, ndichifukwa chiyani ine (choyamba) ndiyenera kubwera poyamba?"
Thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo pothetsa mikangano ya m'banja
Kuwonekera kwa njira yatsopano - kuyankhulana kwa akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe ali otchuka kwambiri kudziko lina, nthawizina amadziwitsanso tsogolo la anthu ambiri. Inde, mwinamwake, iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira yolondola yothetsera mikangano yomwe yabwera m'banja.
Kodi ndi zabwino bwanji pa njira yothetsera vutoli, mukufunsa? Yankho likupezeka pamwamba, pofufuza njira yabwino kwambiri yochotsera vuto lomwe lachitika, mutembenukira kwa munthu wodzisankhira yekha, mungathe kunena kwa katswiri wina, katswiri yemwe ali ndi chidziwitso pankhani ya psychology ndipo si wachibale wanu wapamtima kapena mnzanu. Katswiri wa zamaganizo adzakuthandizani kupanga chisankho choyenera. Koma kwa ife pamene sichikufala kwambiri, ndipo amawononga kapena amaimirira dorogovato, osati aliyense wophweka angathe kuthera kwa katswiriyo. Nthawi zina samangofuna kuchita - kutaya nthawi, ndalama, ndi zina zotero. Koma nthawi zonse mungakumbukire za kuyankhulana kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mwachitsanzo, mafoni otchuka, komwe mungathe kuyitana ndi kupeza yankho la funso limene mukufuna.
Kwa ambiri, ziyenera kukhala zoonekeratu kuti ngati pali kusiyana pakati pa mamembala, zingakhale bwino kulankhula ndi munthu wodziwa kuwerenga m'malo mofanana (monga ife) kuthamangira kwa bwenzi lapamtima pofufuza choonadi. Kuonjezerapo, kodi munayamba mwaganiza kuti mukamapempha wopempha wanu kuti akuthandizeni, nthawi zina mungakhumudwitse anthu omwe muli nawo mkangano. Mwinamwake, pa msinkhu wanu wa chidziwitso, chibwenzi chanu chimakukwiyitsani, mwachitsanzo, yemwe alibe moyo wa banja, ndipo nthawi zonse amayesa kunena, "Kodi mwamuna wanu woipa, Vasya, ndi ndani?"
Kuchokera ku mkangano m'banja - kuyanjana mu ubale
Tiyeni tiganizire za izo ndikukhala ndi vuto mosiyana. Pambuyo pake, mikangano m'banja komanso mbali zina za moyo sizikhala ndi mbali yolakwika, chifukwa nthawi zonse zimabweretsa kusintha kulikonse. Ndipo ngakhale nthawi zina zimatha kukhala ngati antidiprester mu moyo wosasangalatsa, wosangalatsa.
Mu mkangano woopsa, okwatirana nthawi zambiri amayamba, mwachitsanzo, kuchoka pa mutu womwe unali chifukwa. Pakutha mkangano, akukumbukira kuti zonse zomwe adazipeza, zomwe ndinkafuna kunena kale, zinaiwalika kapena zinaiwalika mpaka panthawi ina, ndikuyembekeza kuti "mwina zidzasintha?". Choncho musatero ayi! Lembani momveka bwino pamutu mwanu - zomwe mukuyesera kuti mupeze ndi kuthetsa vuto limodzi limene lachitika m "meneyi pakali pano. Ndipo osati zonse zomwe mwazipeza kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo munaganiza kuti mutsegule zonsezi ndi kulemera kwa mwamuna wosauka (mkazi). Musalowe poopseza, mwachitsanzo: "Ngati simukutsuka lero, ndiye kuti ndikuchoka tsiku lonse, ndikusiyirani ndi mwana wamng'ono ndipo sindingayankhe maitanidwe" kapena "Ndatopa ndi chirichonse, ndikufunsani chisudzulo." Gwirizanani, ziribe kanthu kangati nthawi yomwe mumanena izi, choyamba, zidzatha kugwira ntchito mtsogolomu, ndipo kachiwiri, tsiku lina mudzayenera kukwaniritsa lonjezolo.
Tikufuna kuchita zinthu mosiyana. Kulosera nkhondo yotsatira m'banja, ganizirani za momwe mungalankhulire. Kenaka zokambiranazo sizidzatanthauzira mawu olakwika, koma mosiyana, mudzapeza mgwirizano, mwakachetechete, mumatono otsika. Kodi n'zotheka kuyitcha kusamvana konse? Inde ayi. Ichi ndi chidziwitso kwa wokondedwa wanu, kodi iye angakonde kusintha chiani, ndipo ndi njira ziti zomwe zingapezeke mwa kuyesetsa limodzi. Gwiritsani ntchito, kudzipenda nokha. Inde ndi zovuta, mudzati, makamaka pamene chirichonse chiri kutentha mkati ndipo pafupi kutsanulira. Ndipo ndani anayamba kunena kuti moyo ndi wosavuta? Zomwe muyenera kuganiza musananene - ndi zophweka? Makamaka pamene zimachitika panthawi ya mkangano: kumafuna kuyesetsa, kuletsa maganizo, koma mudzawona - izo zibala chipatso. Ndipo m'tsogolomu mudzazindikira kuti kupeĊµa mikangano m'banja kumakhala kosavuta kumalo ozizira, kumangosonyeza kusakhutira kwanu ndi kufunafuna njira zothetsera izo pamodzi. Choncho, mutumizirana "I-mauthenga", kumva wina ndi mnzake pamene akumvetsa kusakhutira kumbali iliyonse.
Choncho, pogwiritsa ntchito malamulo onse omwe ali pamwambawa, mosakayikira mungathe kuthetsani kusamvana m'banja popanda kuchititsidwa manyazi komanso kunyozedwa. Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chidzakuthandizani kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu ndi kuthetsa mavuto omwe mwakumana nawo, kudutsa "nkhondo zapabanja".
Bwino ndi mgwirizano m'moyo wanu wa banja!
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